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Partners work stress

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Skyehigh · 23/08/2024 15:37

Partner works from home full time. He is constantly stressed and or angry about work. He will shout and swear at his laptop and storm around the house. After work he will either not speak to me at all, or moan about the colleagues or other issues that have been bothering him for on average an hour a day. I am trying to be supportive and I know the anger is not directed at me however it makes the environment extremely tense. I feel someone talking in an angry voice and storming around still makes me feelvery anxious and on edge like I've done something wrong. I have spoke to him about this but he said he just needs my support and it's not about me. How can I get him to change the way he handles this? AIBU?

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Skyehigh · 23/08/2024 15:49

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Not always but has been like this in previous jobs when he started to dislike them and current situation been going on and progressively worsening for months.

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Evaka · 23/08/2024 15:43

We have a five minute cut off for moaning about work. Inherited wisdom from my wise parents in law.

I think it's fine to occasionally get frazzled by work and blow off steam but daily shouting and swearing would be a no go for me. It actually is about you if he's making your home tense and vibey.

(edited as posted too quickly!)

I'd have a calm chat about the impact it's having and remind him that you need a chilled home and don't want the atmosphere he's creating. Ask if you can help figure out ways to manage his stress better.

stokes81 · 23/08/2024 15:43

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