To think I might have been burgled?

I think whenever you move in somewhere the first thing to do is change the locks - too many keys floating around in the world, I probably have half a dozen to different houses I have been given over the years (although my memory is so bad, there is no way I could take advantage of them to burgle anyone, even if I was so inclined).

Yes, this happened to me. We were all at home and someone just walked in and took my bag from the hall. We live in a village and it turned up in someone's bin the next day with just the cash taken. If the OP's bag could be seen from the letterbox it's quite likely to have been stolen.

It means Am I Being Unreasonable.

What does AIBU mean

If an item of value can be seen through a window or letterbox then it's alluring to any chancer out to rob houses. It's similar to most people not leaving their handbag or laptop out on the passenger seat when they leave their car. Your home feels more secure and less likely to be robbed – but it isn't.

I don't store my handbag in my wardrobe – it's in the hallway in full view of the glazed front door or through the letterbox. Is this a dumb risk? Yes. It's probably much more easily nabbed there than in my car. But I wouldn't ever leave it in plain view in my car, nor do I feel anxious when I go about the automatic process of putting iPads or phones or laptops or bags in the glove box or boot.

If someone storing away their valuable items doesn't make them feel anxious, then it's not overanxious – it's just what they do because it makes sense for them to.

Is that really a question? Of course hiding your handbag under clothes in your wardrobe I over anxious and certainly more so than a ring doorbell!

My friend was burgled, never knew until they found their wallet missing from the place it had been put the night before. The police said that professional thieves will take what is valuable - cards, passports. They are edit NOT going to ransack the joint, just pick the good bits. When he went into the office to check, yep, passports gone too.

OP you could well have been burgled. They don't need a key. Ever called a locksmith? They use flexi cards to get in... lock and chain your doors at night. We have an alarm for our downstairs. I know several people that have had a break in at night whilst home.

To the person hiding their handbag, I'd rather they took stuff than came looking for it, but confrontation is usually the last thing they want.

This happens far more often then you think. They also take car keys and come back later for the car. Always keep your door locked, even if you're home. It's the easiest type of burglary and just trying door handles. The amount of people who don't lock their cars is mine boggling.

OP, maybe it's time for a tidy up of your flat just as a starting point. You usually find stuff you're looking for as you tidy.

How disconcerting, OP. When you recall getting your phone out of the bag to send a text, are you 100% it was the night you think it was? That's the only mis-memory I can think to be plausible.

I would not think it common that burglars 'dip' into houses to take small items, but this thread says different! I do know it's common to look for car keys however ...

Who has a key to your home other than you? Have you lent your key or left it anywhere where it may have been copied? Do you own or have a landlord?

My friend was once burgled and they got in by removing window slats from a sun room at the back of the house (and replacing them on their exit so it was not obvious at first how they entered). They did not take anything, only lightly rummaged – they assumed looking for car keys. This happened when I had stayed the night and let myself out in the morning to go and catch the train home – my friend had already left for work. The neighbours camera footage, showed them at the back window just at the time I was closing the front door – it shook me up!

Reading your post it sounds to me like it's there. You just need to tidy up.

Fingers crossed you find the things OP 🤞

Just go through your flat top to bottom and tidy and sort and you will most likely find everything that has disappeared. If it's untidy enough for you not to know whether or not you have been burgled then it needs some serious tidying I'd think.

That's the whole point, dm wasn't slamming the door but the ndn accused her constantly of doing so because he was a knob.
Therefore she was trying to not make even normal door closing noise.
Hence one night it didn't close properly.
He moved eventually and no other ndn had issues with dm and noise.

Plus you may need to report this to the police depending on your work’s policy regarding your work phone

Sounds like someone’s got a key. Happens quite a bit - I would change locks today. We have these clamper things on the back of our doors as well so even if they can use a key they still couldn’t get in.

Don’t faff around doing dumb shit like the paper thing. A tiny bit of paper could easily be mistaken for lint, even in photos, so it’s not categorical evidence. It could get dislodged by itself with gravity. It’s an odd thing to suggest all around.

It won’t do anything to benefit your case if someone has been entering your property. You need to speak to the police and invest in proper home security. If might be the case that the people you gave your keys to started off small and once they realised you didn’t notice/get authorities involved/ask for your key back, they ramped up to more visible things.

I’m fairly sure that this is the opposite of what you’re supposed to do. I leave my handbag in the hallway overnight because if a thief is after my purse or even my car I’d rather them find what they want without coming upstairs to where my 1 and 3 year old are sleeping.

Strangely my friend was burgled and the police advised against this. They said to leave your belongings downstairs/not near you to avoid the risk of being assaulted or worse over handbags and car keys. I don’t take mine upstairs.

Mark the door with a tiny bit of paper in the between the door and the frame as you shut it. If anyone opens the doors it drops out, also take a picture so if anyone does enter and knows about marking and puts it back your picture will show exact place and you can refer. Personally definitely change to locks and get a ring door bell.

I hope you manage to find answers and at least get your locks changed, but it may be worth putting a dusting of talc or something a few feet inside of the doors/windows or sellotape above the door and window frames. It's a pain in the ass having to clean it etc but it's a good way to see if they gets disturbed.

You say the front door was shut. But you don't say whether it was locked.

I don’t think phones are a super desirable thing to steal? I could be wrong though as I’m not a thief, but I am into tech. Most smartphones are paperweights one stolen because of all the anti theft features like Apple activation lock

A make up was stolen from my car, it had make up and tampons. There was a bank card left in the car, a work phone and an iPad all untouched. It would surprise you what some people steal.

If its a standard yale lock its easily bumped - see you tube - why its important to have better locks in place than that - we found that out when MIL was burgled a few years back

If you think your bag has been stolen as opposed to lost, then contact the police.