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To think I might have been burgled?

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Kittensat36 · 23/08/2024 05:23

Having a bizarre and upsetting 48 hours. Just need to vent really.

Got up yesterday morning and was preparing to leave for work when I realised that my handbag was not in the hall. It normally sits on an ottoman I have, which is about 10 feet in. I know it was there because I remember taking my phone out of it the other night to send a text

Had to have an emergency day off , expecting to find it any minute - my flat is very untidy, but I expected to find it at some point. I even checked the washing machine in case I had taken it into the bathroom and scooped it up with the washing I was about to do.

But how on earth did it happen if I was burgled? The front door was shut, the back door was locked and the only open window opens onto a secure garden (and you would have cross my bed to get in).

I have to say that my bag is not the only thing that has disappeared over the last couple of weeks. My pill container for my meds disappeared from my living room, I thought that the cats might have bapped it somewhere, but they aren't talking. A batch of paperwork is also on the missing list- a receipt for a large purchase I made recently and a prescription for flea meds. All highly useful (not), but a bit odd as laptops were in the same room and were left untouched.

A ring doorbell/cameras would have been useful and I will have to get some. But I have nothing now. I suppose that if they put something through the letter box, they might have been able to get the door open, but isn't that a bit risky in the middle of the night? Wouldn't it have been easier to get in while I am at work?

Thank goodness for my marvellous upstairs neighbour lending me some cash, or I would be really stuck.

Got to go to work to sort out getting a new workphone and getting my locker broken into to retrieve my work kit. Then sorting a new barrel for my front door lock...

Thanks for reading my rant.

OP posts:
BiscuityBoyle · 25/08/2024 10:33

Kittensat36 · 25/08/2024 09:22

The thief took my bag with my purse, so I had no money to get me through the weekend and beyond, till replacement cards arrived. The money I borrowed was soon eaten up with replacing oyster cards, etc. Had the bank not been helpful (and sympathetic), I wouldn't be able to do stuff like change the lock.

If you cancel your card and you use Apple Pay then the replacement card is active on Apple Pay instantly. I believe the same is true of Android devices too.

CluelessAboutBiology · 25/08/2024 10:20

I’m so glad you got your handbag back, OP. It’s scary to think someone has been in your house at least twice.

as a fellow untidy person, I have a Tile AND an AirTag in my handbag, on my house keys and on my car keys. The Tiles are good for finding things lost in the house.

Teddybear23 · 25/08/2024 09:51

Get a few hidden indoor cameras but don’t tell ANYONE - you don’t want to warn people they are there. Also as you suggested get two ring door bell cameras. Does anyone else have a key? Do you have an ex who maybe trying to make you think you’re going mad - sounds daft but it does happen.

BluebirdBoogie · 25/08/2024 09:41

What are anti-statins? Glad you're getting things sorted OP.

If you have an old phone you can use that as a security camera (inside) by using the Alfred app. Might be useful for peace of mind while you don't have a Ring doorbell.

ICantLogIn · 25/08/2024 09:36

@MissEsmeWatson sorry I missed the update. So glad they caught the guy because that's a nightmare.

Surely it's VANISHINGLY unlikely to be the OPs problem.

ICantLogIn · 25/08/2024 09:25

MissEsmeWatson · 23/08/2024 08:14

When I was in a flat someone from next door was coming in through the loft hatch. He was taking silly little bits, a Christmas ornament, a non valuable ring etc. He opened my jewellery box and scratched my Grandmother's face out of a solid gold locket, I thought I was going mad. Never got to the bottom of why he did it. Could someone get into your flat that way, OP?

Oh my god this is horrible! Tell us more!!

CellophaneFlower · 25/08/2024 09:25

I think it's much more likely you dropped the bag. It's highly unlikely someone is going to risk going into your house on several occasions and the only time they take something useful, they discard the lot, including bank cards.

Kittensat36 · 25/08/2024 09:22

HotCrossBunplease · 25/08/2024 09:01

Also my banks, one got me solvent again and the other, who was hyper-speedy at getting a new card to me on a Bank Holiday.

what do you mean “got me solvent again”? Was money stolen from your account?

The thief took my bag with my purse, so I had no money to get me through the weekend and beyond, till replacement cards arrived. The money I borrowed was soon eaten up with replacing oyster cards, etc. Had the bank not been helpful (and sympathetic), I wouldn't be able to do stuff like change the lock.

OP posts:
BitOutOfPractice · 25/08/2024 09:18

Hey op just to advise you when you go to buy the new cylinder, look for a lock with a 3* (3 star) rating. That will give you better protection against bumping and snapping. Might be slightly more expensive but not too much and worth it imo.

AntiHop · 25/08/2024 09:16

I'm glad you got answers and I'm sorry this happened to you. This happened to my neighbours- someone with a copy of the key let themselves in and took stuff.

Hotbaked · 25/08/2024 09:03

Edit - should read the whole post before commenting!

HotCrossBunplease · 25/08/2024 09:01

Also my banks, one got me solvent again and the other, who was hyper-speedy at getting a new card to me on a Bank Holiday.

what do you mean “got me solvent again”? Was money stolen from your account?

Kittensat36 · 25/08/2024 08:54

SleepPrettyDarling · 25/08/2024 07:49

Does your door have a letter box that someone could have hooked your keys through? Sounds far-fetched but I saw this on one of this crimestopper shows once.

It does, but the keys were in the handbag and the handbag was on the ottoman about 10 feet in (I said 12 in an earlier post).

Not surprisingly, I have been awake much of the night watching YouTube videos on how to change the barrel and it looks like a piece of cake. B&Q, here I come. Will get one with a thumb plate so I can double lock it without using the key.

As to who it is, I can only think that someone else I don't know about has a spare key from the previous owners. The neighbour who has my spare had the key to my previous flat for 3 years and this one for 2 before anything happened. No new partner and her son is much too serious to do anything so mad.

I will talk to the bank about possible fraud. They left the bank cards in the purse, so i assume they just wanted cash (hard cheese!!).

I am not sure what paperwork is missing other than the prescription for my cats and the receipt for a new mattress. If credit card bills for Miss Blackcat start coming in, we'll know.

As for pp who said she didn't know whether to be happy or sad, I'll suggest happy: I have my stuff back, I know who I can count on when the chips are down and I have the warm, fuzzy satisfaction of knowing that I am not mad.

And I thought the same about the pills - someone somewhere might be gullible enough to pay good money to try and get high on my anti-statins. Good luck to them.

Another long post, sorry about that, but if you were kind enough to comment on my update, I didn't want to leave you hanging.

OP posts:
Lollipop81 · 25/08/2024 08:45

Izzymoon · 23/08/2024 06:31

Every night you hide your bag in your wardrobe under a pile of stuff? That sounds incredibly excessive and over anxious.

In OPs case since her home is messy it’s likely just misplaced, particularly as it’s not the only thing. I doubt someone stole the other random items on other dates.

Not excessive when you have been burgled. I hide my car key and put bag upstairs

CellophaneFlower · 25/08/2024 07:54

Boomer55 · 25/08/2024 07:50

Stress can cause everything to seem lost. After I lost my husband, I spent a month losing everything - I found most stuff, but it’s incredibly frustrating.🙄

I do bung my bag into the safe, at night, but I leave out an old purse with £5 in it, along with an old card (long cancelled), keys that don’t fit anything, and some other useless bits in it.🙂

This is very wise, however a pp got told they had mh issues for stashing their bag in their wardrobe at night. God only knows what they'll make of your bedtime routine. Best get yourself sectioned 😂

Boomer55 · 25/08/2024 07:50

Stress can cause everything to seem lost. After I lost my husband, I spent a month losing everything - I found most stuff, but it’s incredibly frustrating.🙄

I do bung my bag into the safe, at night, but I leave out an old purse with £5 in it, along with an old card (long cancelled), keys that don’t fit anything, and some other useless bits in it.🙂

SleepPrettyDarling · 25/08/2024 07:49

Does your door have a letter box that someone could have hooked your keys through? Sounds far-fetched but I saw this on one of this crimestopper shows once.

Longtimelurkerfinallyposts · 25/08/2024 07:45

fitting a new lock isn't all that difficult - don't waste your money on a expensive locksmith!

Mercurysinretrograde · 25/08/2024 07:43

OP it may be better to get an emergency locksmith round to replace the lock, unless you are very good with DIY.

CandiedPrincess · 25/08/2024 07:42

Can't help thinking this is someone connected to you. It doesn't sound like a random opportunist.

Tippytips · 25/08/2024 07:39

Betyouthinkthissongisaboutyou · 23/08/2024 06:27

Always take your handbag to bedroom. I put mine in my wardrobe and hide it under some stuff!

The police don’t actually advise this, if someone breaks in you do not want them hunting around, leave it for them!

BiscuityBoyle · 25/08/2024 07:38

noemail · 25/08/2024 07:36

This happened to us. DH couldn't find his phone, that he'd left in the and was convinced DC (young at the time) must have moved/hidden it. I was saying don't be ridiculous, it's where you left it.

2 days later DS (a bit of a magpie when he was young) was playing with a SIM card in his pocket. It turned out he'd found the card on the dining room table and it was from DH's phone.

They'd come in through the front door and helpfully left the Sim on the table on the way out of the backdoor, while we slept.

It was a UPVC door, locked, but not double locked becuase at the time, I was more worried about fire risk than burglary. Once we knew we've been burgled, you could see a small indent in the upvc doorframe where they'd jemmied it with a screwdriver.

How strange that they would go through the faff of taking the SIM card out. Does that stop you being able to trace the phone?

noemail · 25/08/2024 07:36

This happened to us. DH couldn't find his phone, that he'd left in the and was convinced DC (young at the time) must have moved/hidden it. I was saying don't be ridiculous, it's where you left it.

2 days later DS (a bit of a magpie when he was young) was playing with a SIM card in his pocket. It turned out he'd found the card on the dining room table and it was from DH's phone.

They'd come in through the front door and helpfully left the Sim on the table on the way out of the backdoor, while we slept.

It was a UPVC door, locked, but not double locked becuase at the time, I was more worried about fire risk than burglary. Once we knew we've been burgled, you could see a small indent in the upvc doorframe where they'd jemmied it with a screwdriver.

Cakeandcardio · 25/08/2024 05:01

Be wary that they might have stolen your paperwork so they have your details and could commit fraud? Just a thought.

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