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Everyone ganging up on me

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Neapolitanicecream · 22/08/2024 20:34

I’m so frustrated that I can’t ask the kids to wash up without eventually shouting to get it done. And DH just says stop shouting and turns on me

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Elsvieta · 24/08/2024 09:55

Tell them once, at a normal volume, and tell them what the consequences will be if they don't (loss of screen time or whatever). Then stick to it.

Flourpowwer · 24/08/2024 09:16

Agree with everyone else, ask once if it isn’t done by the next mealtime head out yourself to a drive thru feed yourself and leave them to deal with the consequences of their behaviour.

eggandchip · 24/08/2024 09:08

How old are the kids.

TwinklyAmberOrca · 24/08/2024 08:54

Ask and don't shout. If they don't do it then inform them that you can't cook the next meal as no one washed up. I do this and it works well! They can either wash up or have a can of soup for dinner!

Bluemincat · 24/08/2024 08:50

Agree that you need to ask them once, nicely, and then leave them to it. Dishes pile up and you can't serve the next meal. Natural consequences.

RhaenysRocks · 24/08/2024 08:50

I agree just stop doing it and when it gets to cooking, well you can't. Just wash up one when you need it. Seriously....it's literally the only thing that works in my house. I'm the only adult but kids are teens and it increasingly gets to the "going on strike" thing. I refuse to be a skivvy.

AnneLovesGilbert · 24/08/2024 08:49

Stop making food for them.

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Neapolitanicecream · 24/08/2024 08:47

Sunsetbeachhouse · 22/08/2024 22:35

Yes I agree... the alternative is ppl need to listen once in a while so their mums dont have to shout.

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There is nowhere else to go when you said it time and time again

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Sunsetbeachhouse · 22/08/2024 22:35

cupcaske123 · 22/08/2024 20:35

I can't stand shouting. Is there no alternative?

Yes I agree... the alternative is ppl need to listen once in a while so their mums dont have to shout.

TomatoSandwiches · 22/08/2024 20:46

Call the child/ren down nicely and then walk them to the sink/area that needs cleaning and tell them to do it.

FranceIsWhereItsAt · 22/08/2024 20:43

How about asking them to do it once, if they argue, explain that if they don't do it, you will eventually run out of dishes, and you won't be able to cook or feed them.

If DH sticks his oar in, just ignore him, and stick to what you've said.

I know it will annoy the hell out of you to see the dirty dishes piling up, but then when they next expect a meal, and you explain that you couldn't make it, because they haven't washed the dishes, hopefully the penny will drop.

I know this sounds drastic, but it sounds like it's what you need to do. As a matter of interest, how old are the kids?

toastcrusts · 22/08/2024 20:40

Another vote to tell DH to do it

Redshoeblueshoe · 22/08/2024 20:37

Tell DH to do them then

cupcaske123 · 22/08/2024 20:35

I can't stand shouting. Is there no alternative?

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