Does your dh let you choose decor?

I think its normal to discuss and agree together isn't it? Often one partner will care more/have more style and they would take the lead I guess but one person dictating and the other having no say at all isn't on.

Currently renovating a house which Mr Anon would have been happy to paint entirely grey or magnolia. I'm a colour lover so sadly wasted many hours of our lives inspecting virtually identical 'warm' shades as a compromise.

So do you if you think wanting an input over his home environment makes your husband "a big fanny"? Which in itself is just a horrible thing to call someone, as well as being offensive to women at the same time.

I just do it and that's it. X

It’s interesting that the only two colours you’ve mentioned are blue and pink, they both seem a bit lacking in imagination and very stereotypically gendered.

I would never choose blue in my house as it’s quite a cold colour, and I want my home to feel warm. I like warm neutrals, terracotta, and warm greens. Having the whole house blue sounds awful. I wouldn’t be keen on most shades of pink either. Maybe you’re going for styles which are a bit over the top “feminine” / gauche? Could you do a bit of exploring for other colours and styles that you both agree on? You’re well within your rights to expect a change from the blue that you’ve always lived with.

I take the lead on decorating but I’m keen to get agreement from my partner as I want us both to like living here. Your husband should want that for you too.

This ^

DH does the decorating and usually comes up with the colours (especially as I have no interest whatsoever in DIY) but if I really don't like his suggestions, he drops them. Trouble is, he then asks me what I would prefer and I can never think of an alternative.

As for 'letting' me do something? As if! That's not normal - we're not in the Victorian age.

We discuss and both of us have to agree.

I choose, DH facilitates 😂.

Really random... Is he a Leo by chance?

My husband did try and choose some of the designs in our house, but I told him to stop being a big fanny and stick to cutting the grass! In your particular case I would probably buy several tins of pink paint in different shades and throw them at the walls. He sounds disgusting!

He's controlling and unbearable. LTB.

He's got issues and you've got a problem

Op that is not normal or okay.

A house should be a home that's comfortable for both of you.

I couldn't live in a house that I had no say over.

Why on earth are you living with such a bully!

Because it is weird 😀. And , as far as I’m concerned, they are not allowed to take over. 😀. Very, very few men are interested anyway.

My DH has his own ideas, which are stylish and mine aren't. We discuss and compromise but sometimes I just let let him do what he wants if he's passionate about then, then take glee in pointing out things lol 😆

lol 😜. That’s my DH, too. X

My fiance cares about how our house looks just as much as me so we have to compromise and if the other doesn't like something we don't have it. Apart from photos which I am not keen on unless its art. But if your DP doesn't let you thats very odd

DH literally can’t stop laughing at the idea of him being in a position to “let” me do something. I’ve “let” him have a second glass of wine so that might have helped.

Sofas are difficult, if you already have one I'm guessing that many DHs don't feel that a new one is necessary, so naturally my DH doesn't see the point of going to a shop to sit on a sofa. Actually getting him to even think about whether he likes something or not is pretty tricky if he thinks that we don't need one.
I recently bought a new mattress without his involvement as he doesn't think that there is any need to replace things that are still in one piece.

@IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos I don't think my DH or yours have any idea that it might be nicer if things look OK? Mine is irritated because I decided to buy some new dinner plates when we had some serviceable ones that had been bought on Ebay 20 years ago.

@angela1952 my DH said today "but it works so why do we need another one?" About a 10 year old stained suitcase. My reply of "because it's horrible" was met with a look of bemusement 😂

@Ilovecleaning why is it weird for a man to be in charge of domestic things? They live in the house, they're allowed to to want it to be how they like it as much as the woman living there.

I am queen in my own home 😊. It’s my way or the highway. However, I do check. I’ll say ‘do you like that sofa?’ If he says he doesn’t like it, I move on until we find one that we both like. But, basically, I’m in charge. In my defence, I’m good at looking after our home.
When a man takes over domestic arrangements, it’s weird. Unless he’s half of a gay couple.
I couldn’t bear your set up OP. You have my sympathy.

My DH isn't really bothered, though he might say we don't need things as we've "already got one" - for example a 12 year old bed or threadbare towels.

He's actually colourblind so I have no problem with him trying to interfere with colour schemes. Neither of us like frippery or frills so I don't see him objecting to my taste anyway,

My DP has no interest at all hence why most of our rooms are pink! 🙈