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Does your dh let you choose decor?

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sunnymountains · 22/08/2024 17:18

From bed covers to wall paint, furniture, curtains, cushions dh will choose the lot and with no pink or anything remotely feminine everything is blue or very male looking.
I grew up with my mum mainly choosing the home furnishings but then my dad had no interest in anything like that so was happy to leave her to it and wouldn't have noticed anything different anyway.
I do think it's nice he takes an interest but I'd like some input, every room in our house is blue and masculine looking and as a woman I'd like some of my own touches.
Is this a bit unusual?

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Lindjam · 22/08/2024 17:23

sunnymountains · 22/08/2024 17:20

That sounds good but he would undo it and choose what he wanted.

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You mean he’s a horrible bully?

Thinkingabouttherapy · 22/08/2024 17:23

Did you move into the bachelor house that he was living in already? Are you a SAHM with no income? Even if both apply, it’s still unacceptable. You should both have input into your living space? He sounds very selfish & domineering.

thursdaymurderclub · 22/08/2024 17:23

my DH doesnt LET me do anything... if i want to do something i will do it, i will consult him on how he feels about things but i don't need his permission!

Augustisnearlydonesogoodbyesun · 22/08/2024 17:22

The only thing dh chose here was a patch of fake grass!! He leaves house stuff to me. Happily.

LBOCS2 · 22/08/2024 17:22

Let me? Absolutely not. I lead on it, and in the event that we don't agree on something we compromise. It's your home too?

I did once wallpaper our downstairs loo in a very pink patterned paper while he was out for the day, which he hates but I've told him he's welcome to paper over it or redecorate if he feels that strongly about it. Hasn't happened yet 🤷🏻‍♀️

Mmmkaay · 22/08/2024 17:22

So if you were to paint a room, he'd paint straight over it?! Without a conversation?

Isseywith3witchycats · 22/08/2024 17:22

My OH and i go together and between us choose things we both like if one of us says no then we look till we find one that we both like

HurdyGurdy19 · 22/08/2024 17:21

My husband just leaves me to get on with it. He's really not that bothered.

I do sometimes "let" him choose between two items, just to "let" him feel he's part of the decision making process. But it'll be two things that I really like and would have no objections to either.

InfoSecInTheCity · 22/08/2024 17:21

I tend to take lead but he will occasionally get something that he's seen and liked. He doesn't have much interest though and leans towards comic book/horror themed stuff, whereas I'm less interested in tat so sort out stuff like painting and decorating, usually I consult him but I have been known to wait for him to start playing a video game and just quietly repaper a wall.

Changingplace · 22/08/2024 17:21

My DH has no interest whatsoever in how we decorate the house, I make all the choices. Tbh I’d quite like a bit of interest now and again but he just lets me get on with it and I’ve accepted he doesn’t really care.

Do you mean he won’t let you choose? Cant you say you want to pick things together?

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sunnymountains · 22/08/2024 17:20

piccolorhinoceros · 22/08/2024 17:19

My DH doesn't 'let' me do anything. I just do it.

That sounds good but he would undo it and choose what he wanted.

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HelloMiss · 22/08/2024 17:20

'Let me'??

piccolorhinoceros · 22/08/2024 17:19

My DH doesn't 'let' me do anything. I just do it.

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