Would you be happy with this?

So at the time he bought it, it wouldn’t have been provided by work? They only announced that in the July after you received it.

Still, you didn’t want it so it’s a bit shit of him. Did he buy it before asking whether you wanted it?

Tell him you're using/keeping it at the office. Sell it and put the money in your own bank account. Buy yourself nice things.

It’s baffling that someone can say ‘no’ they don’t want that present…and he buys it anyway and then tells them that they now get no other presents for years, simply because he’s an idiot.

OP, buy him something you can benefit from for his birthday. Then tell him he gets nothing else for years. It’s about a stupid as an idea as he deserves.

Buy him something extremely feminine like a silk nighty and matching wrap for Christmas or his next birthday OP. When he looks at you and says what on earth have you bought me this for, just say, well I thought you might like it, but if you don't want it, you can always give it to me, in place of the presents you haven't bought me for the last 12 months, you miserable BASTARD!

I think he wanted to please me but it made me feel uncomfortable receiving it.
No OP. He really didn't. If he really wanted to make you happy he could have bought those £40 items, or if seriously broke what about just a bunch of flowers, cake and card as a minimum (a measly tenner). Has he done that?

There is nothing about his purchase of an unwanted piece of equipment and his handing it to you in exchange for not having to acknowledge you on any other occasion that fits most people's understanding of 'gift'. A gift is given as a token of affection, and is intended to please the recipient. This was clearly not the intention here, so you have recieved nothing you should be grateful for.

No , he's an arse . Who does that .

It is, at best, lazy present buying. Something you don't want or need but easy for him to splash the cash on.

Worse, it is manipulative. Did you not show enough humble gratitude? Were you not telling your friends and family how amazing he had been to buy you this extravagant unwanted gift? Is he now punishing you for your lack for gratitude? Or is he just a lazy arse?

Don't mean to derail thread, but I'm rather concerned that Geiger counters are standard issue in a food production factory!? Just - why?!

I'd tell him to stick the 'gift' where the sun dont shine!

I would probably have asked him to change it

He's being completely unreasonable

IF it was something you really wanted and had asked for and he'd said at the time that he'd get it for you but it would be two years worth of presents or whatever then maybe, but you've said that's not the case

The no Mother's Day presents would still be unreasonable as they're from the children and it doesn't cost much to get them to make a card or buy a bunch of daffs!

Next Christmas buy yourself a present instead of him.

Better still give yourself the best Christmas present ever and LTB.

@Notadoormat4
Sorry forgot to add - he did ask if I wanted this and I said no thank you........

he's out of order ......( but you know that already)

because it was so expensive I wouldn't be receiving any gifts for the next two years for anything - my birthday, Mother's Day, anniversary, Christmas

he's even more out of order ....... (but you know that already)

bergamotorange
gift it back to him at Christmas and buy yourself something nice.

....... this is perfect!

TheFlis
Is the expensive present something that also benefits him by any chance?
@Notadoormat4 No, only that he doesn't haven't to think about gifts for the next two years

...... you've nailed it!

You know he's being totally unreasonable, mean and SO unappreciative of you ............ I hope you have a suitable revenge planned!!?

The point of presents is to show your appreciation for people. It's very transactional and dismissive to waive away multiple occasions because of one thing the recipient didn't even want. I actually prefer smaller presents from most people, including DH, because it is quite hit and miss with presents and a waste of money sometimes but I appreciate opening something on a special day. In your situation I'd probably just treat myself on these occasions and tell DH not to bother with any presents after his 2-year timeframe because he obviously just doesn't want to do them.

I think its particularly awful that he can't be arsed with mothers day. That's for the kids

Speak to him v directly and clearly.
"I told you I didn't want laptop, but you bought it anyway. Now you tell me you dont want to buy me any orher gifts. I feel you cant be arsed making me happy, and that you dont bother listening to me."

"Lets stop doing gifts as its not making either of us happy".

Fuck that. I would buy myself something lovely and completely unnecessary every bloody anniversary, birthday, Christmas, Halloween, first day of term...you get the picture!

And nothing for him, ever.

buy something for yourself with your own money. Buy him something he doesn't want for Christmas and tell him it will be like this until he grows the fuck up and listens to you.

why didn't you just tell him to return it, then and there, at his earliest opportunity.

I wouldn't have accepted a gift i had explicitly turned down

What a shitehawk, is he always this much of a prick?

Is it a laptop?
If so I'd start buying my own presents.

Is there any chance he could just be kidding? I got DP some extortionate gig tickets for his birthday this year and jokingly said “you’re not getting anything for the next 5 years now!”