AIBU to expect the Police to investigate a woman being assaulted by a customer at work?

The police were actually sat there in the same restaurant eating, and still let him go. Unbelievable

You can guarantee though that nowadays any man who stepped in to protect a woman would be the only one who got arrested.
The man who attacked the woman would get away with it.
After the police refused to arrest the customer who gave my coworker a black eye (and my coworker was male) I have lost all faith in them.
Women are always treated worse by the police but they don't seem to want to help anyone

He was clearly protecting himself from this big, scary woman.
I am stunned that she has not been arrested for threatening behaviour.

Why has it not had more posts? Fatigue, I think. It's every bloody day.
It is dangerously becoming the norm.

Do Mumsnet shadow ban things?

Why has this thread not had more comments?

Based on her statement from the YouTube link above, not only the police did absolutely nothing but they also believed the man when he told the police she told him she will punch him in the face (a very believable story), but also were gaslighting her when she said the wanted to press charges against him. 😓

These officers should be sacked. It won't happen. I doubt they will get any meaningful consequences.
It's only a woman, after all.
If the police do nothing, they are complicit.

I think in light of more and more instances of the police not acting when the evidence is right there before them, that viligante justice will start to grow.
Then maybe the authorities will wake up and take notice

This general superiority over women that seems to be endemic in some (note I said some, not all) police officers is very worrying. Is it part of police culture in some forces?

Years ago I taught a child whose father was an ex-army turned armed response police officer. Every time I had to speak to this man he gave me the chills re the way he dismissed all women and girls. His son and wife came in one morning late to school dishevelled and sobbing, but wouldn’t tell us anything about what had happened. A female police officer with a child in the same class pulled us aside later that day to suggest that we ‘watch out’ if we were planning to report anything to the police about that family. She said that all his colleagues are ‘the same’ and that the force is a ‘boy’s club’.

I’d love to hope that this kind of attitude is the absolute minority amongst police officers, but news stories like in the OP do make you wonder.

I'm watching the girls video statement now and not only were the police incompetent, they lied to her about pressing charges and then lied about doing that.

Scumbag is so used to assaulting women it comes naturally to him even though he was in a public place with cameras.

Two tier policing. What a disgrace.

Didn't even bother to take his details. I thought that would be standard procedure when a police officer speaks to you about anything, even if you've done nothing wrong?

I am honestly so horrified by this. The police officers in question need disciplined. I hope this man is arrested and convicted. He is a danger to society.

Police officers are only interested in parking offences and loud music. Assault and burglary is too complicated for them in my area, they prefer easier crimes.

Sadly this doesn't surprise me - I've been harassed + intimidated by a neighbour who's attacked me, broken into my garden, sprayed paint on my front door and spat at me, incessantly over a period of 3 months. He's done the same to another lone female neighbour too. He has previous for harassment and violence towards women. Police decided no further action to be taken against him.

WTF is going on, it feels like a conspiracy against women.

They are utterly useless. I witnessed a domestic violence incident outside my flat, as did many of my neighbours. Phoned the police who said they couldn’t do anything without CCTV despite being given full descriptions of both people, car make, model, colour and registration number. And the names and addresses of multiple witnesses.

I've had the same man turn up at my home 5 times in a psychotic violent state, smashed my windows, smashed up my car, I'm terrified. I have it all on cctv. I told police I have a name and address for this person but they won't even go round and speak to him because he wears a balaclava so I can't prove it's him. It's ruined my life. I'm a nervous wreck. They couldn't give a fuck.

It's not just about paper work it's about money as it costs money to take people to court . When my 14 years old son was assaulted the police dealt with it by conflict resolution which was crap as only one kid turned up with his parent . The others were advised not to by their solicitors as there were no witness or cctv . In fact we were warned that one of the lads was from a nasty family and we didn't want to get on the wrong side of them by pushing for a prosecution. Yes really !

The police are absolutely useless, I never thought I’d say this, children being groomed and the police are not interested, too much paperwork!

This is the waitresses account of events. The lies and gaslighting by the met police are appalling. The two officers need to face disciplinary action.

These stories are shocking!

i think you could expect the police to
investigate murder but nothing beyond that. My DH was violently assaulted by a man driving a clearly branded plumbers van. The police interviewed the plumber who said he couldn’t remember who was driving that day and the police left it at that.

Not surprised at all, I was driven out of my home by horrific neighbours and when police were begged to help me they refused to look at cctv due to hoodies and masks. When two idiots were on cctv and also posted my address online with a load of friends threatening me, the policewoman who was pushed to attend refused to look at clear cctv of the (unhoodied, unmasked!) 6ft man trying to break into my flat and said I'm upsetting the violent neighbours for reporting them!

Then she went off and reported me to GP for "paranoid mental health issues".

Victim support helped me complain and also found lots of issues (way the police acted and reacted to complaint too) but both complaint and appeal were thrown out within 24 hours of each being logged.

I slept on a friends floor for three weeks with cats until I could get a new home.

I've also had an abusive family and was told by a policewoman that I deserve my father's stalking and threats because I don't talk to him, and what do I expect

A few rare good ones sure, but I cannot stand the police and strongly believe if they can shrug off tricky jobs or a lot of work they will, and screw the victims. Complaints need a huge overhaul too,its just a police image protection programme!

Horrific. And they had a young child with them too! I hope social services are investigating, but I won’t hold my breath.

There's so many things they don't bother with.

Our work was robbed a few years ago. We had CCTV clearly showing faces and number plates and tyre tracks. They did nothing. They even admitted that they knew who it was.

Only last week we were ram raided again. They did various firms in the area. One had seriously damaged property but nothing taken. The police have told them no crime has been committed at all and to ask locals for ring doorbell footage themselves if they want to bother pursuing anything!

Crimes against women do seem to be completely ignored too.