Family holiday drama

It really wasn't your mother's place to invite someone else from her family when it is you and your husband's family that are going on this holiday.

but then you shouldn't really have invited your parents when it is you and your husband's family that are going on this holiday - however it does sound like you needed the 2 adults as you have put one of your children into the room with them.

I guess you already have 3 children, so as a family you needed 2 rooms, and if you hadn't invited your parents then you would have had one room with 2 children and your husband would have the other room with one child, as you can't put one child in a room unaccompanied by an adult ?

Why does it have to be the nephew? Cancel one of your own kids, you've created the situation so not sure why your nephew is the one to suffer.

I don't understand the bit about you can't book a room for unborn baby, surely you take you out of your room and book a room for yourself, then add baby on.

At no point in this thread (which I have only read about half of) has it been clear to me how anything about the OP's situation would have been different if DN had not been added to the parents' booking.

If you can't add an unborn child to your booking you can't actually take your nephew off the booking until the baby is born surely? You say you need to keep the child/baby space allocated to your booking. So you could book another cabin for you or DH with an imaginary child (one of your brother's other children that will never be told about the booking) and swop them for the baby when it's born.

@familydrama1 there is no way you can explain this that makes it sound any better. It would be a horrid thing to do to me your poor nephew, absolutely awful.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks this is absolutely horrid.

My answer is pretty short, no this is not ok. End of.

I hope you teach your child better kind than this

THIS

I think she means on a cruise ship.

No you absolutely can't bump your nephew off , it's not his fault you're having another child.
Book another room for your family, if your worried the ship will be at capacity add a child on ( friend's child with their permission) then swop names ones baby is born.

You can definitely travel with young babies. I was flying with my daughter at three months.

Poor nephew. 🙄

As your mum has form
for this you could have anticipated her adding in the nephew. Next
time make it clear from the outset that the invitation only extends to your parents. You should have said no at the time if your were unhappy with it. Presumably you were not pregnant then. Just because you are now you can’t go back on something you previously accepted.
Maybe your parents will be kind enough to let you buy them out of their room as they are an add on to what is essentially your husbands family holiday. Lots of lessons in effective communication to be learnt here I think.

Yes. I’m afraid for me the “ confusion” over there being “ no other option” resolved for me when op let slip she had been aghast when her mum invited the nephew in thd first place. At that stage the space was completely free, so why the long face at that point? The issue here is she doesn’t want her nephew, and the reason for that would seem to be jealousy issues with her DB. That’s why the whole “ no other option” business was so confusing for everyone . People have said there are other babies on cruises . They either manage the not yet born registration or book later. It can be done without ejecting the nd.

Op has no notion of solving it.
The hysterical nonsense of “but I can’t book a room for an unborn baby!” tells you that.
There’s only one solution for her.

So how can I book another room? Give them fake details for a child who is not even born yet?? Who doesn't have a passport yet??

You book a room for one of the adults who is going, who would currently be sharing. You wouldn't be able to book a room just for baby anyway. . It's really not difficult...if you want to solve it.

And baby will apparently be 6 months old when the cruise happens, so we're looking at probably a year away...

No - she actually intends to use her nephew by leaving him on the booking until the baby is born and then switching them over. There are many solutions here, OP has just chosen the one that gets her what she truly wants - her nephew kicked off the cruise so her parents focus is solely on her and her own children.

If the baby isn't born yet the cruise is over 6 months away.

The nephew might turn 18 in the meantime.

There must be a logistical way to solve this. Just book another room and move everyone around to fit.

So actually even if you do kick your nephew out you may end up in exactly the same situation re baby ratios?

Could you add another baby aged child onto an extra room booking with a view to changing the person on the booking once baby arrives.

Unless it was an accident it sort of baffles me that you would plan to have another child knowing you’d booked this holiday with the space you had. 🤷🏻‍♀️

… and if the baby is a bad sleeper one of them could take the three children and get a good nights sleep leaving the other parent and the baby with a cabin to themselves. If she is already paying the bulk of the parents cabin anyway, this flexibility seems a real benefit.

They could - and it’s DH. In a normal scenario op and her DH would split the children across two cabins and take two children each.

It’s not a honeymoon. That’s the reality of travel with Dc.

But with who?
Surely the same person could now have baby?

In a second cabin.

I still want to know where the 3rd DC would have gone if the OP's DP weren't coming....