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I don't care what issues your kid has you still need to parent them

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Differentstarts · 21/08/2024 19:17

I'm fuming just had a massive argument with my now ex friend because she won't parent her kid. I don't care if your kid is ND, NT or identifies as a tablecloth you still need to parent them. I was at my friends this afternoon with my kids 7 and 4 and her kids 9 and 5. Our eldest kids where sat together nicely watching a film and youngest 2 where playing. Her 5 year old suddenly decides she wants to watch telly and picks the remote control up and changes the channel. My friends response was to the eldest 2 just let her otherwise she will kick off you can watch the rest later. Her eldest just accepted this he's clearly use to it. However I'm not accepting that so I took the remote and put the film back on so with that screaming and tears
Her eldest was agreeing with his mum and saying it's OK I don't mind Which was also annoying me. Then my friend started having a go at me how iv upset her daughter and how the kids didn't even mind watching it later. I struggle with anger issues so at this point I'm losing my shit at her (I know I shouldn't have) and I got my kids and left. I'm still fuming. I know I should of just left straight away but come on what is wrong with people

Yabu. If the eldest 2 where happy to watch it later you should of gone along with it
Yanbu she needs to discipline her daughter

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blubberball · 21/08/2024 19:22

Nobody has come out of this looking good

WickieRoy · 21/08/2024 19:22

I struggle with anger issues so at this point I'm losing my shit at her

This is the point where you lose any moral high ground. You're the adult.

Do you have the movie they were watching? If so I would have just let my DC finish it at home and explained to them that I didn't think they should have had to switch to the other DC's choice, but that every house has its own rules and we need to be polite guests and put up with things we don't like sometimes.

ETA - explained at home, obviously!

Your attitude to ND sucks, btw.

User623 · 21/08/2024 19:21

Yabu she was probably keeping the peace for the sake of having guests round.

Illstartexercisingtomorrow · 21/08/2024 19:20

PilgorTheGoat · 21/08/2024 19:20

Nice job making out like being ND is akin to “identifying as a tablecloth”

That’s not what she was saying at all.

Illstartexercisingtomorrow · 21/08/2024 19:20

YABU. You handled that badly.

Yes she should parent her kid. But perhaps your point would have been more effective had you sat down and had a calm conversation later instead of acting like a toddler yourself.

PilgorTheGoat · 21/08/2024 19:20

Nice job making out like being ND is akin to “identifying as a tablecloth”

purpleme12 · 21/08/2024 19:18

Erm well it sounds like you're both in the wrong

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