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Copycat neighbour/ friend

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Ktda35 · 21/08/2024 16:45

Hi I don’t know if this is normal but it’s starting to feel abit weird so wanting others opinions, we moved into a new build housing estate a couple of few ago so did everyone else on the street as it opened same time , not many talk but am loose friends with a lady down the road she wanted to add on fbook so did , since then we’ve been round each others house a couple of times for a chat and cuppa etc. so loose friends not besties .

Anyway it soon started that she said she liked my kitchen stuff kettle tea coffee holder etc , I was like thank you didn’t think much of it but then a few weeks later she’s showing off on fb that she got it all matching too and kettle etc . Then she wanted me to get her hubby a job at my partners place of work which I said he needs to apply like every one else ( he did but didn’t get the job ) thought it would stop there but then she’s asked if she can take photos of my stuff to show her hubby i reluctantly agreed so now she has the same tv unit same garden gazebo etc , even painted her kitchen the same as mine. i took my family to a zoo an over an hour away a week ago posted pics online then yesterday she’s gone to the same zoo and posted pics . ( plenty of zoos are nearer )

Anything me and my partner does or buys she does a week later . Just unsure if I am wrong to feel bothered by this or just try to ignore it .

I know I don’t own the zoo or things but is it normal to copy to this extent. Also just to add she told me herself she hates if someone dresses up the same as her on Halloween or has the same top from primark ( I don’t shop there but apparently someone she knows bought the same friends top as her and she didn’t like it )

crazy huh

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CruCru · 21/08/2024 17:58

I’m in a couple of minds about this. On the one hand - yes, it does sound a bit weird. Expecting your husband to get her husband a job is probably the most weird if I’m honest.

On the other, people tend to think they are more individual than they really are. Accusing someone of “copying” can make you sound about 13. I remember realising that half the cars on my street were silver / grey VW Golfs (including mine).

People are going to tell you to pretend that you have done something drastic to your hair or have got a scary tattoo. Don’t - mainly because it isn’t a very grown up thing to do. Plus, if she really is a loon, she’ll do the same and that would be a pity. Limit her on social media and avoid her for a bit.

AllTheEights888 · 21/08/2024 17:26

Ella31 · 21/08/2024 16:54

Limit her on your social media.

Exactly this. Make her an acquaintance and limit what she can see.

viques · 21/08/2024 17:11

Tell her you think you are pregnant - with triplets.

🙂

Cerialkiller · 21/08/2024 17:11

She might be very impressed with you and is using this as a weird way of connecting with you. It's very much something my mil would do and she's got awful self confidence and is lonely which is why she does this I think.

It's tempting to do something extreme (ginger pixie cut wig) but this might be a bit mean. I do agree with pp, this is an issue of social media. Either block her or put less stuff up on there. If you don't want people to take an interest then don't post. I'm allergic to social media though so appreciate my view isn't mainstream.

Spotlightt · 21/08/2024 17:06

Weird yes, but harmless. Clearly isn't good at forming her own opinions.

tennesseewhiskey1 · 21/08/2024 17:03

Weird but harmless - i have a cousin like this, my mother always says imitation is the sincerest form of flattery - i just think its fucking weird and unoriginal... 😂 - it was so so so weird when she turned up dressed like me, with the same pram, named her son after the name i told her i was considering and also bought a dog.. like .. me.

invisiblecat · 21/08/2024 17:01

Perhaps she is lacking in confidence in her own taste in things. It might also be possible that she has some ND traits?

It is flattering in a way, when someone copies what you have, but I wouldn't worry all that much about it. Don't tell her where you have booked to go on holiday though, or she and her family might all turn up at the same place while you're there!

Ella31 · 21/08/2024 16:54

Limit her on your social media.

Catza · 21/08/2024 16:49

It's weird but pretty harmless. Did you try (lightheartedly) bringing it up with her? Next time you go to visit be like "wow, it feels like coming to my own house, haha. I can't believe you bought the exact same XYZ. I am flattered" or something to that effect...