And male violence does affect men. They're the main victims by a huge margin!
Are you having a fucking laugh? Yes, I accept that more men are killed at the hands of other men, than women are. So if we’re confining the definition of male violence to murder, then you might have a point.
But women and girls don’t just have to avoid being murdered by men, do we? We have to avoid physical violence, either from our partners in what should be the safety of our own homes, or our ex partners who feel the need to remind us how dangerous they are, or, like a pp’s daughter, because she intervened in a man attacking her friend and he then turned on her. Or like the two women who were attacked by young males on a bus because of their sexuality. Or the woman who was punched in the face because she wouldn’t give a man her phone number. When was the last time a male victim of violence was asked by police whether he’d really considered the damage an arrest could cause to a violent man’s career?
And then, of course, we have sexual violence. We all know that if we go out after dark, or wear certain clothes, or drink alcohol, or we’re polite to a man, there will be people who think we asked to be assaulted. If you’re assaulted by a celebrity or a sportsman then you have no chance of getting justice because you’ve clearly fabricated it for the money and/or the fame (although funny how nobody can ever name a rape victim who has become rich and/or famous because of their rape). Do you remember that young girl who had her choice of underwear questioned at her rapist’s trial? The underwear he never should have even known she’d chosen to wear? Do you think the victims of that male serial rapist were asked about their underwear?
And even if we’re lucky enough to make it through the day without being physically assaulted, we’ve still got the day to day aggression (ranging from cat calls, being followed, inappropriate comments, having men in vans shouting at them and making obscene gestures, being flashed at, being masturbated at, and being generally frightened). Like the thread a couple of days ago where a woman declined the company of a man while she was eating in a restaurant and was forced to run onto a bus and hide before he could get to her. Or the article a few months ago about that dress that was invented & measured how many times it had been touched. They put it on a woman who walked through a club and were astonished at the times she’d been groped walking from one side of the room to the other. How many men feel the need to tell uber/taxi drivers a false address so they can walk the rest of the way home without some creepy man knowing where they live? How many issues of GQ magazine have articles on 25 ways to make it home safely after a night out?
And then we have the pretend nice men. The ones who believe that women need to reward them for their niceness by having sex with them. The ones who laugh off Dave’s antics when he’s harassing some poor woman who just wants to be left alone. The ones who can work with a police officer nicknamed ‘the rapist’ and still sleep at night. The ones who aren’t dropping their mate like a hot potato when he shouts abuse at a teenager from a van window. The ones who are looking at illegal images on line, or watching ‘revenge’ videos or rape victims on porn hub, or raping trafficked women. Those men are someone’s husband, boyfriend, brother, father. Suddenly the number of ‘innocent’ men gets smaller and smaller.
So you can fuck right off with your ‘men are the real victims here’ because it’s absolute bollocks. You should be fucking ashamed of yourself.