To be so fucking angry. How many more women and children must die?

Thanks - you have an incredible memory! Yes, that is a different stepdad, who my mum thankfully escaped from over 35 years ago. My mum and current stepdad were blissfully happy together for 33 years, until she passed. He restored her (and my) faith in love!

I was a little taken aback to be asked about this on a post about a house sale and didn't recollect that I had mentioned the first step-dad on MN. How did you remember from so long ago?

Oh I read this to mean this step dad!

Then it must be the woman’s fault because the only solutions here are the wife does it or a trafficked woman does it. Of course the lovely husband doesn’t mind which, he’s given the wife two options! If the wife doesn’t do all the housework herself that’s on her.

No it’s like saying those who buy stolen cars create a market for stolen cars. You sound very confused.

Another one. Unimaginable horror.
https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/30292525/kidnapped-woman-had-teeth-lips-removed/

Incredible woman!

Read this. This astonishing woman is at the Paralympics.

www.bbc.co.uk/sport/archery/articles/cp089q32yrqo

BBC News - Olympic athlete Rebecca Cheptegei dies after petrol attack
https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/c3vx0kq2xr2o

I just don't believe pointing fingers and endlessly repeating the same old figures is going anywhere. It's like we've stalled and have been stuck in the same place for at least a decade, and now even the majority of young women are tired of hearing this stuff. How do we actually make a difference? Certainly not by endlessly moaning about men IMO.

OK, I will genuinely try and understand your point. I'm not denying 98% of sexual crimes are committed by men. I used to work in digital forensics. I've seen who commits sexual crimes and what's on their hard drives.

As stated before I'm not coming at this from a feminist viewpoint. Women can identify as feminists or not that's not my business and it's certainly not my business to call anyone a handmaiden. I've never used the word to describe anyone in my life.

I feel you are purposely missing the point so we'll leave it at that.

Nobody said you did. It's not all about you.

98% of sexual violence probably is committed by men but government data shows that only 3.5% of women are assaulted annually so it's a minority of men. It's still horrific but we need to focus on the perpetrators rather than waste our breath bashing all men and turning the average woman away.

Last study I read (study by feminist org Fawcett Society) found that only 7% of UK women identify as feminist despite 75% wanting 'equality'. Now that's one hell of an image problem! Maybe time for some self reflection unless you want to brand 93% of UK women as handmaidens lol.

I didn't create a thread asking if I'm being unreasonable. Mainly because I know I'm not being unreasonable when I state that 98% of sexual violence is committed by men.

Which is fair enough, but I'll never understand people that create a thread in AIBU and then get cranky when told they're being unreasonable.

Possibly because it's a space for women to communicate with each other about issues that matter to them.

Tbf 99% of feminism on here is about 'the plight of women who are at risk of violence'.

A lot of women seem to become fearful of the husband eyeing up the young slaves and take it out on them.

Fair point. But in their accounts many of the formerly trafficked women claim they were most scared of the 'woman of the house'. This is also the case with a lot of female African slaves from the colonial era. This is just my experience from doing a lot of reading.

We'll no doubt get some convoluted nonsense about white middle class feminists and the plight of men who are at risk of violence.

How in gods name did you extrapolate that from that statement?

Trafficking as domestic slaves is a terrible thing, but it doesn't mean they are being raped and murdered, although there will be a small number who are.

We are talking about violence rather than exploitation here. Modern slavery can have its own thread.

Can't work out that connection.

I believe you are mistaken. It would not be consonant with his dignity for his wife to be doing housework.

Also, given that a lot of women are trafficked as domestic slaves to rich households in places like Dubai, in many cases it's likely the wife that drives this decision.

I doubt the husband would argue if she insisted on doing all the household chores herself rather than outsourcing them.

That's like saying "I wonder what she did to provoke him".