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Children on my front wall

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LighthouseTheme · 20/08/2024 23:22

I have a small wall (2 feet high maybe) at the front edge of my garden. The garden itself is small anyway - three big slabs width from the porch/front door (with a set back area under the front window, and a gated path down the side of the house to the back). There is also a low gate that I had put on as the fact that the path slopes slightly and there is no barrier between my neighbours, meant that it was sometimes used for scooters. [I do feel a diagram might help...]

It has only been in this last year that I have done much to the front - as it is south facing and almost any plants will certainly die. But I now have some hardy-ish ones in planters, a wreath on the side gate and a pear tree and honeysuckle trying their best on the side wall and high fence to the other side.

This last year, a new neighbour's daughter decided that the wall is perfect to walk along and jump off (I think she is 10). As my car is on the road outside, I would quite often see her do this. Despite having been friendly towards them, she often walks past and, without her mother seeing, and without looking back, gives me the finger gesture. I added some plants on the inside of the wall at two spots, making it pointless to walk along the full length of the wall, but she still did it, stepping on the leaves of the plants.

Tonight, I could hear loud voices right outside, and when I looked, a group of (definitely pre-teen) girls were on the wall, all facing my house, dancing and jumping around. There was definitely a goading feel to it - but I only (I think) know them by sight. By the time I had got myself together to go and speak to them, they had gone.

A little while later, I had gone out to my car, and two of them (plus a little boy, I think a brother) came back, not seeing me at first and climbing straight onto the wall. So, in the conversation we had, it seems that I have to let them do it as they "are kids", they want to learn to balance, I am unfair and spoiling their lives and basically what do I know, they can do what they want... oh, and I'm a Karen.

So, apart from this moan, I am at a loss. The wall covers the length front of both my house and next door and so at my side, there are the plants in pots at either "end", and usually a bowl of water for dogs on the pavement side. But nothing for the half of the length outside next door.

My pathetic passive-aggressive attempts to prevent it are obviously not enough to stop them - and I fully expect to be ramped up now - or worse (I live in/close to a not-so-great area - and have been burgled and bullied and targeted in the past); sadly, the behaviour even at the start seemed very "goady" anyway, so I don't doubt I have already done something to warrant it.

Oh, what to do?
And I don't really think IABU but maybe I should let them just carry on.... (which I don't want to do)

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sarahzbaker · 20/08/2024 23:30

Actually/ go and say Hi. What gwan?
They will probably be horrified

Myfavouriteflowers · 20/08/2024 23:30

Could you have metal railings installed along the top of the wall? It would be a bit expensive but would be effective in stopping them walking on the wall and would give some privacy without blocking your view out to the road totally.

LighthouseTheme · 20/08/2024 23:30

HelloMiss · 20/08/2024 23:24

Loudish opera music.....or Barry manilow

They will be so disgusted they will move on

It would be in competition with the - er - music from the other side, and there are two of them at it!
I did find out a bagpipes CD the other week (I do NOT know why I have it).
But I don't have any Barry Manilow.

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Salumthecat · 20/08/2024 23:28

Can you put something sticky on the wall?

I don’t think talking to them will help - or their parents by the sound of it. You need some sort of deterrent.

Could you try anti climb paint or try spiked wall toppings?
I know they are kids but they are doing it to goad you and I wouldn’t be happy about it either. I’m sure I’ll get a lot of people who disagree and say it’s not harming anyone but that’s not the point. If you let them climb on the wall then what will they decide to climb on next?!

LighthouseTheme · 20/08/2024 23:28

nocoolnamesleft · 20/08/2024 23:24

Hmmm. You want some hardy really fast growing very spiky plants. Are you fond of blackberries?

I have them at the back! 12 feet tall, and FULL of berries.
The only thing that protects me from the worst of this area (banger cars, fires, floodlights, scooters, motorbikes, drug deals ---- you name it...)
But a good suggestion, although the sun would kill them.
I have no soil out the front, so things have to grow in planters; they don't really stand much chance with the sun as well.

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CosmicDaisyChain · 20/08/2024 23:27

Sprinkler or prickly plants.

FuckThePoPo · 20/08/2024 23:27

'oi! Off my wall!'

MyOtherCarisAVauxhallZafira · 20/08/2024 23:26

Motion sensor sprinkler?

HelloMiss · 20/08/2024 23:24

Loudish opera music.....or Barry manilow

They will be so disgusted they will move on

nocoolnamesleft · 20/08/2024 23:24

Hmmm. You want some hardy really fast growing very spiky plants. Are you fond of blackberries?

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