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Sons birthday and grandparents

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Sparklybutold · 20/08/2024 21:27

DS birthday soon. Making plans which included his grandparents visiting on his birthday. Grandma called to say they can't do that weekend as they have plans but can do the weekend after. I've spoke to my son about this and I could see the disappointment in his face. When pressed a little further he stated well they've been like that since I was born so I don't expect anything different 😔

No family on my side. I do feel disappointed for him, that his grandparents should prioritise his birthday over the plans they have, but then I don't have experience, so thoughts?

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WickieRoy · 20/08/2024 22:07

That's entirely reasonable - of course they're not cancelling plans. I wouldn't have thought most teenagers would be bothered tbh.

Sparklybutold · 20/08/2024 22:07

Bellringers4 · 20/08/2024 21:45

How soon is his birthday, how much warning have you given them about your plans?

His birthday is towards the end of september

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Sparklybutold · 20/08/2024 22:06

ToffeeHammer · 20/08/2024 21:40

How old is he?

14, will be 15 on his birthday

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rentersleaf · 20/08/2024 22:05

I'd have checked with grandparents before suggesting it. It's really how you frame it.

"Ds grandma is busy on your birthday she will visit the week after "
Or
"So on your birthday we will be doing x,y,z and the week after grandma is coming down we get a second chance to celebrate "

Namenamchange · 20/08/2024 21:49

It depends on how much notice you gave them and what they are doing?

ThinWomansBrain · 20/08/2024 21:46

Just frame it as getting two birthday celebrations, two cakes....

Bellringers4 · 20/08/2024 21:45

How soon is his birthday, how much warning have you given them about your plans?

madnessitellyou · 20/08/2024 21:44

They are seeing him the weekend after. He’s your dc, and if he’s old enough to express disappointment “when pressed” he’s old enough to understand that sometimes people who aren’t actually his parents have plans.

Dillydollydingdong · 20/08/2024 21:44

Just organise something special for him instead. Trip to the zoo? Cinema and bowling? Paddle boarding? Try to think of something that the dogs will be sorry they missed.

NerrSnerr · 20/08/2024 21:44

How old is he?

Sirzy · 20/08/2024 21:42

They are still going to see him though just a weekend later. Personally I dont see that as a big issue

TheClawDecides · 20/08/2024 21:41

Age is pretty important here

ToffeeHammer · 20/08/2024 21:40

How old is he?

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