SS visited today

@Goinggreymammy I think she missed out, "and me". The husband is referred to in the singular throughout the thread.

My 8 year old son still goes into full animal mode, sometimes for hours, before I finally snap and say enough is enough 😂
He is suspected to have autism though.

That was an awful suggestion for her to make about your DH. This health visitor sounds nuts.

Why does a person's bag have to have anything to do with patients, if people weren't so fixated on this endless warped jealousy thing and worked on their issues rather than put them onto others 'this can't happen as it will look bad and I will feel judged' maybe things would not be so complicated

Then why bother making your post.

What? Why? So a dad who shares a bed with his child is guilty of what exactly?

Not so you'd notice. I live in a very deprived area in Wales and there needs to be a lot more interventions.

Don't you understand OTT?
It means over the top and seeing as OP describes it as wedding attire, I would assume she means over the top.

Do acquire some help with your lack of understanding because it makes it difficult for other posters.

People are very strange.....

DD2 (now 20) went to 2 preschools. I took her to one and the childminder took her to another. For some reason, the one the childminder took her to had it in for me. They reported DD to social services twice - once for being inadequately dressed - she was wearing a pinafore dress and a cardigan but they thought she should have a top on as well. The other time, she wet herself and so they had to clean her up and they decided that she was covered in bruises, so again reported her to social services. They needed to go to Specsavers - she was not covered in bruises. It was extremely upsetting at the time.

HV got hero complex … wants to be the one who has all the excitement & discovers the problem parents (the SW version of Lucy Letby).

My Council doesn’t have performance reviews for SW, no poor performers, no good ones, no feedback mechanisms from “clients” …

Eat your hat?
No wonder she raised concerns if hat eating is common practice in your home

Am I the only person who read the OP's first original post and took from it that they have an unusual or alternative family configuration, when they referred to "both my DH" being there. I took this to be the background issue in the SS referral. But maybe I réad that completely wrong.

Are you a health visitor by any chance?
You seem to have the same lack of empathy / understanding and quite good at making nasty insinuations?

The ones who visited me and my daughter had uniform. We live in England (south) I don't know if it's different in other places..

I've never seen a HV in a uniform

And if the OP was 'stone cold asleep' it wouldn't matter what bed the child was in

Horrible thing to suggest on no evidence whatsoever

Things have gone a bit nuts in Wales intrusion wise. It's like we're the testing ground for what labour want to see in England. It's really concerning. Especially where children are concerned.

When I was homeless and struggling to pay for food I was visited by a social worker wearing a LV bag. I felt sick as I could eat long time with the money that bag cost.
I do understand people enjoying luxuries but if you work with very poor and vulnerable clients/patients just leave the bag at home or in the office.

Weird minds.....

I thought they use an nhs uniform..

What about single dads?

Sadly I have to agree with this, this my experience with both of my children and the last one also told me three times that my dural puncture headache was just hormonal - I checked myself back into the maternity ward when I couldn't move my neck and head and demanded to see a surgeon, who within 15 minutes had me in theatre sorting out my spinal leak caused by an epidural puncture. 7 years it's took me to get back to normal.

Thanks for this. I was starting to tear my hair out reading all the posts about how concerning it is for Dad to sleep with daughter

For the record, it doesn’t happen often but if my daughter is feeling unwell in the night she will usually come to me (mum does late shift at work so may be sparko or not in) and that occasionally leads to us co-sleeping for an hour or two until she is settled again

Sorry but this is utter nonsense. You cannot judge her ability to do her job based on her being dressed too well. That’s insane. I don’t doubt that you feel unfairly judged, and probably you’re fair on that. But you are losing any basis for a complaint by complaining she was ‘dressed for a wedding’. Which is honestly a really weird thing to say.

but OP you used the word 'deviant'. you said the report said your DH or DP was decribed as 'deviant'. without clarification about the comment, what are people supposed to think?

some of the things you are saying just dont make sense, probably because you are being evasive. you want to know if you are being unreasonable.. but we have no idea what about?

I once knew a social worker who drove to visits in a jag provided by her husband's company. Visits to people living in one of the most deprived areas of the country. Not a good look.