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AIBU?

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To block him after this?

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bwa · 20/08/2024 19:34

Guy I've known in and off for years. Never romantic but he's made it clear he wants me. I know it's for sex. He's never made any intonation that he's looking for a relationship.

We have met up numerous times for drinks. He's been to mine and vice versa. It's not often thought. We go for months without speaking.
He's been very flaky in the past. Agreeing earlier in the week to meet say on a Thursday evening but come Thursday I don't hear a peep from him. I'm never that bothered as like I say we are just casual mates.

Anyway today. 8am he asked if I wanted to meet him after work. I said sure and that I'll be done at 5.30. I said I could be at the station for six and would be pick me up. He drives I don't. He replied with a thumbs up.
Leading up to six I told him I was near the station. He read it, no reply. Then just as I was about to get on the train I rang him to double check he was coming. It is just one stop to where I was meeting him. He didn't answer. It was a WhatsApp call and I could see him online. I left it another ten minutes and asked if he was ok to meet me otherwise I was going home. I just stay on the same train to go home as it's a few stops further. Still no reply and can see him online.

So I got off the train at 6.30 and blocked him. He clearly wasn't coming and I really couldn't be arsed to hear his shit.
My mum thinks I was too hasty. But we had made this plan way earlier in the day. He was the one who invited me and I told him I couldn't be out late I work very early in the morning.

So AIBU?

OP posts:
bwa · 20/08/2024 19:41

@quickturtle I just mentioned it to her in a conversation and her response made me wonder if perhaps I had been hasty. Pretty sure I'm not but you know. Just interested in other's thoughts.

OP posts:
Gettingannoyednow · 20/08/2024 19:40

I mean, I guess there's a tiny chance he was dealing with an unforeseen crisis, but seems unlikely. I'm a bit taken aback you discuss booty calls with your mum; I must be getting old.

quickturtle · 20/08/2024 19:39

Why is your mum getting involved in this? Just ignore her. And him.

Justmuddlingalong · 20/08/2024 19:38

Yip. Block.
And never unblock.

Angharad78 · 20/08/2024 19:36

I am glad you have a higher sense of your own worth than your mum seems to! Absolutely right. Block and move on with your life.

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