Does your Dh play with your dc after work & at weekends?

We actually live on a main road full of traffic and sirens day and night 🤣

but we are lucky enough to have lots of countryside and nature reserves quite close by.

I wish we lived near enough to a forest to climb trees, that sounds awesome, like some wholesome Enid Blyton style existence.

We make do with our apple tree in the garden for climbing.

They do often ask him. If he's not long in from work he will ask them for half an hour whilst he has a rest or a coffee.

I'd say he probably spends about an hour on a weeknight out in the garden doing something that the kids chose and then either boardgames or stories after bath time.

Weekends we tend to do more family activities but if we're at home he'll often head to the park with them or the forest to climb trees etc

I am sorry OP, it sounds hard. I would be very upset if my DH brushed our DC off (I would be fuming).

DH interacts right away when he hasn’t seen DC all day. He is like a toddler himself when he gets down on the floor with DC and is silly and fun. We always do the bedtime routine together.

My husband barely gets in the door before my 4 year old jumps on him to tell him all about his day. The 18 month old stands with his arms in the air. DH basically gets his shoes off and goes straight into talking/ playing with his sons whilst I cook. We then all eat together. DH does bath while I clean up after dinner, both of us get the boys ready for bed. I get eldest to bed whilst DH plays with youngest. Then I do youngest bed and DH tidies the living room after the mess we make during the day 😅. Then we sit together for a bit before bed. Our evenings are 50/50 I'd say. But with DH playing with the kids more as he's not seen them all day.
Weekends are mostly spent together. Family days out or tag teaming to give each other rests if need be.

DH comes in, he commutes an hour either way and it's a pretty stressful and sometimes quite physical job, DD runs and him and he plays for 5 minutes then goes to get changed. He has 10 mins to himself (sometimes he'll take the dog out for a wee for some fresh air) and then he's with her all evening.

Weekends he is basically her climbing frame.

He loves how much she wants to play with him and he just wants to make her happy.

Play this to your DH

Dh is a pilot. Yesterday he flew four sectors - Amsterdam and Paris. When he got home he had a shower and then sat outside to watch the kids whilst I finished dinner.

We did buy the world’s most comfortable garden furniture to avoid the temptation of crashing out on the sofa. I wouldn’t expect him to get in a paddling pool after a long day.

Exactly - I personally don’t quibble about who’s doing what, I know for a fact we are both ‘serving our household’ (that’s a good term, I think I’ll use it from now on as it captures the situation nicely). Neither of us is ‘on our phone’ or hiding in the toilet 🙄

First thing DH does when he gets in or finishes work is greet DS and give him some attention. He also looks after DS Saturday mornings so I can go to parkrun with a friend. I do more of the childcare than him but he has an extra day of work and tends to do gardening or DIY while I'm looking after DS some of the time.

At least it’s not just my house with the huge evening to do list! If one of us is running around playing with the kids while the other sits on their arse when dinner needs doing, kids room needs set up, wash needs hung up, bath needs sorting etc then they are taking the other one for a ride really!

What terms? Me (working parent) and my partner (currently SAHD) both ‘serve our households’ we literally don’t have time for anything else 😂

Is survival the goal? I’m sorry no one played with you as a kid. I love playing with my children. They are kids, it’s how I bond with them and teach them things. It’s how I make them feel loved and attended to.

I can only hope you don’t have children because this is so sad. The thought of children in a family where the parents don’t think they should ever engage in any play with them is utterly depressing.

I find this sad tbh. I have loads of memories of playing with my parents. I enjoy playing with my kids too and so do they.

Ugh. How absolutely shit. My dh comes home from a physically gruelling day and never says to the kids he's too tired or he needs to check his phone. He gets up, and I can see he's knackered, and kicks a football or plays bat and ball as it's his children. He's a fantastic father and they know it. Shame on the dad that says he's too tired.

Yes. He comes home and plays with our son. 45 min drive home. However when it isn't the summer hols DS is usually in bed before dad gets home so it's swings and roundabouts.

Why shouldn’t they?

Yes but he gets home a bit late really DD is only 3

DP gets home 6pm and we all have dinner together, I get DD ready for bed while DP cleans up after dinner. DP reads to DD until she goes to sleep. Then he sits on the toilet for half an hour!

Days off he does play with her yeah. He did a treasure hunt for her the other day.

I refer you to my earlier comment.

My partner finishes at 5pm on weekdays and 6pm on a weekend. He usually comes in, has half an hour or so down time (once he's greeted the kids) and will then play with them until he helps me get them to bed.

That’s heartbreaking ☹️ I’m the working parent in our house and I do everything I can with our kids in the evening (and obviously weekends)

I agree with you @Izzymoon in the main tbh. Me and my DH can exercise, we can sit with a cup of tea and a bar of chocolate and watch Netflix and whatever else. We also do both have our own social lives. We just do most of that stuff when the kids are sleeping. That's our choice, we certainly don't feel that we are slaves...!

Because that's part of being a parent?

Talk about low standards

I don't remember any adult playing with me when I was a child and I survived. Kids need attention, yes, but why should adults play with children?