TW: incest.
On the surface my family was and is highly functional but once you scratch the surface it really isn’t. It is extremely dysfunctional. Apparently there was a decades long standing sexual relationship between two of my siblings which one now calls abuse and the other, naturally the abuser says was consensual. My parents believe the abuser. I absolutely believe it was abuse, he abused me too, but I also separately struggle with how the victim went out of her way to keep a very close relationship with the abuser over the decades when all of this was happening.
There has been a concerted campaign of carpet sweeping across my family and although my other siblings no longer meet with the abuser my parents still do and still talk about him normally with other people as though it has all been forgotten about.
I have stepped back from them all for the sake of my mental health because honestly I now think my family is full of personality disordered people. My parents literally wrote me out the second I called out all of this for the madness it was so they speak about my brother but never mention me except to bad mouth me to people they can get away with doing that with.
Apologies for the long back story but a family member is coming over from abroad to visit my parents and has forwarded details of her trip.
AIBU to ignore the visit.