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Can’t make a decision on taking his name

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PoptartBarry · 20/08/2024 12:08

Name change for this one (ha!)

I am getting married in one week and I still can’t make up my mind about changing my name. It’s driving me a bit mad so I want your opinions.

Have any of you changed your name and regretted it? Have any of you regretted NOT changing your name?

My surname is ‘foreign’ to English speakers, long and tricky for English speakers to pronounce so I’m not considering a double barrel. It would be too much!

Does anyone keep their maiden name at work and use their ‘married’ name in their private life? How do you feel about it now?

YABU = stop overthinking and change the name!

YANBU = no way, keep your own name!

Would love to hear your lived experiences.

OP posts:
Nicebloomers · 20/08/2024 12:13

I wouldn’t dream of changing my name.

MrTwatchester · 20/08/2024 12:12

I kept mine, no regrets. It wasn’t even up for debate, I couldn’t imagine not having my name - it’s part of my identity.

Tisfortired · 20/08/2024 12:11

I got married a couple of months ago and had no qualms taking my husbands name as my maiden name was changed by deed poll to my step dads name when I was 5. We are now NC and had an awful relationship so I was glad to be rid of it and embrace having the same name as my partner and children. I think if I had an attachment to my name I would definitely double barrel however I see you don’t want that!

My mum uses her maiden name in her professional life still but her name is legally her married name, this works for her.