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DH has and hidden something valuable "for safety"

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Beebopwasthebest · 20/08/2024 11:36

Light hearted...sort of, because this is getting worse.

He has form for this, despite us having two secure safes in the house. He is quite anxious about being burgled.

He has hidden his watch somewhere in the house. We've been looking for two days. I am very tidy and organised. He is tidy but not as organised and has a lot of stuff.

This is driving me mad. My mum has said a prayer to St.Anthony for me😂

He chooses really weird places..I once found the (only) set of keys to our safe inside the cardboard box of a light bulb...which he had forgotten about! And he hid my car keys between the beach towels in the airing cupboard..We have an agreed spot for my keys now.

Can any one think of a weird place we haven't looked?

OP posts:
Morningcrows · 20/08/2024 17:21

I'm so glad I don't have anything valuable. Why have stuff if it makes you anxious?

Here are my suggestions.
In a slipper, in between the napkins, in the tea caddy, in a book that's hollowed out, in a dvd box,

AdoraBell · 20/08/2024 17:10

We found a solid gold pocket watch in a house we bought. The owners had passed away and their sons had searched the house and thought it had been sold. We only found it because we removed the fitted bookcases from a room used as an office. Fortunately we still had a phone number for the oldest son. Turned out it was his grandfather’s watch and he was inherited it, just couldn’t find it.

Threesacrow · 20/08/2024 17:03

We found my MIL's jewellery on top of the kitchen cupboards just before the house was sold. They were in the will but we couldn't find them. Tell dh that if he insists on hiding valuables, he must give you the instructions for finding them.

Conniebygaslight · 20/08/2024 17:00

HellonHeels · 20/08/2024 11:45

Not your problem? Tell him to look up his arse.

Long term, I would suggest therapy. I know you've presented it in a light hearted way but this level of control and anxiety isn't healthy.

That first line made me howl..🤣🤣

SinnerBoy · 20/08/2024 16:58

halava · Today 14:09

A burglar wants to get in and get out ASAP so they pull everything out of wardrobes, cupboards, drawers, under mattresses, beds, in the airing cupboard etc. They wouldn't have the time to check every little box or cup or whatever for hidden goods.

That's true to an extent, but when I got burgled, many years ago, a few really well hidden things were taken. The Police told me, "The bastards learn exactly where to look."

rochenut · 20/08/2024 16:29

niadainud · 20/08/2024 15:38

I can't get over the idiocy of owning a safe and then hiding your valuables somewhere else where they can be forgotten about or thrown away.

precisely

it is a sign that something may not be all as it should with this chap

the op doesn’t clarify whether they’ve even ever actually been burgled

niadainud · 20/08/2024 15:38

I can't get over the idiocy of owning a safe and then hiding your valuables somewhere else where they can be forgotten about or thrown away.

Ezekiela · 20/08/2024 15:29

His watch, he hid it: his problem. Not your circus, not your monkeys.

notjaneausten · 20/08/2024 15:16

Might he have dementia?

MumblesParty · 20/08/2024 15:15

I agree with others that this is his problem to sort.
But in future, especially if he hides stuff that matters to both of you, he should send himself (or you) a text or email saying where he's put things.
I remember when storing our camping equipment in different places (tent/crockery in garage, air beds in attic etc) I sent myself an email saying where everything was, to save me having to hunt around.

QuietlyWonderful · 20/08/2024 15:14

Thisoldheartofmine · 20/08/2024 11:57

Have you got a tower computer?
Friend unscrewed panel and put passports inside before screwing back.

Surely that's a fire risk?
I speak as the girl (aged 7) who found the perfect hiding place for her sixpence pocket money ‐ between the pins of a 3-pin plug. When I put it 'safely' into the wall socket in my bedroom there was a huge bang and all the lights went out. I've never seen my Dad move so fast!

ErrolTheDragon · 20/08/2024 15:13

Tiles/airtags are great for keys - not because we hide them but just that they're not always in a predictable place.

Apple Watch is great because its either on my wrist or charger and with it I can find my phone and AirTags

We've got a spare tag at the moment, I might suggest to DH he puts it with hidden stuff if he chooses an odd new hideyhole.

notjaneausten · 20/08/2024 15:12

Might he have dementia?

HelenWheels · 20/08/2024 15:12

in a sock
in the drawer of doom
in a clock

BloodyAdultDC · 20/08/2024 15:08

HellonHeels · 20/08/2024 11:45

Not your problem? Tell him to look up his arse.

Long term, I would suggest therapy. I know you've presented it in a light hearted way but this level of control and anxiety isn't healthy.

I came here to say this - my ex used to hide my keys too (in different places every day) and it escalated massively.

It's his stuff op, leave him to it.

Sewsewsew · 20/08/2024 15:05

TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 20/08/2024 14:56

I put something once into a box of tissues so the item slipped under the remaining tissues in the box. Entirely forgot about it until the tissues ran out.

My mum never found her beautiful eternity ring having stashed it somewhere in a hurry going on holiday. She got ill and has passed away now and we went through all her things with a fine tooth comb but never found it. So I've stopped emergency stashing.

I often email myself a clue about hidden things, but have to be careful I understand it 🤦‍♀️

ErrolTheDragon · 20/08/2024 15:05

DMil hid her good rings in a casserole dish in her larder, but she had the sense to remember where they were and tell us.

DH is a hider ... often tells me where he's put something important before we go away, it's mostly a few specific places though on occasion we've had to wrack our brains. The best one, imo, was in DDs old dolls house, in the corner of what's now the box room covered in an old throw to keep the dust off.

shazshaz · 20/08/2024 15:03

My mum did this with some lovely jewellery of mine. She stashed it in a couple of pairs of old rolled up socks and didn't tell me. I went through my drawers having a spring clean and threw them in the bin .....

Thryty · 20/08/2024 15:03

Tell him, next time he hide something to take a pic on his phone and save it in a separate album so he knows where things are

Sewsewsew · 20/08/2024 15:03

Nanny kept her valuables in an old saucepan at the back of the pan’s cupboard (or the cupboard of doom as what came out would never go back in without an almighty shove).

Bigstuffypillow · 20/08/2024 15:01

My DD once hid her car keys between 2 saucepans in the cupboard 🤷‍♀️

TealPoet · 20/08/2024 14:58

Fridge/freezer,
in the middle of the toilet roll tube/holder
inside pillowcase
in a shoe in the wardrobe
in an ornament/vase/decorative teapot etc.
in the toilet cistern
in the piano if you have one

TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 20/08/2024 14:56

I put something once into a box of tissues so the item slipped under the remaining tissues in the box. Entirely forgot about it until the tissues ran out.

My mum never found her beautiful eternity ring having stashed it somewhere in a hurry going on holiday. She got ill and has passed away now and we went through all her things with a fine tooth comb but never found it. So I've stopped emergency stashing.

FictionalCharacter · 20/08/2024 14:56

WE are looking? Stop helping him. It's his watch and he has mislaid it because of his stupid obsession.
And tell him not to touch your car keys.

Starlingexpress · 20/08/2024 14:53

I can’t get past the fact that he hid YOUR car keys!

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