To ask if you couldn't imagine leaving your baby and then young dc with strangers?

I didn't go back to work until mine went to full time school.
Luckily l could stay at home.
I then was there for drop off and pick up. .. l couldn't imagine putting them in child care/ pre school etc.
I so much wanted children and with gynaecology problems took me ages.
I cherished the school holidays..if they said they didn't want to go to school l would have happily home educated forever. But we did that once they were 14.. Their MH was effected by then.
Yet the both got 8 plus GCSE'S at high grades .
My Grandsons have been / are all home educated..schools and especially teachers have been absolutely awful.
Luckily colleges/ university are much different and treat them like adults and human beings.

Judgemental much?

Parents have careers too! What’s your plan, all the teachers/doctors/nurses/bus drivers/health visitors/police officers etc didn’t go back to work?

In a two parent household with one parent full time and one part time (my experience what most aim to do), the nursery fees are a shared expense and women are the ones who take the burden on their career. Heaven forbid they’re able to progress in their career, and contribute to their pension.

I've never left my ds with strangers and he's nearly 3. He goes to preschool next week and that will be the first time but his speech is good so I'm not worried. I stayed at home with him until now because I felt it was important for him to be at home.

My dd has just started nursery at 3years and 4 months old. This is absolutely the right age. I could explain to her what was happening and she fully understood and also I can ask her about her day and she replies, and most importantly I ask her if she wants to go back and she says yes.
None of those things are possible before the age of 3. Babies in nurseries are a huge no no for me, and before anyone wheels out the "I have got to work" card there are very few people that are actually better off after paying the astronomical childcare fees. Few will admit they just prefer the break.

I didn't leave my children as preschoolers by my choice. I'd have been more comfortable with it when they were verbal and could tell me what was going on at places (say from about 3). Before that, it didn't feel right and I had the option to stay home with them, so why not?

Many people don't have a choice but to use childcare for their under 3yo, and shouldn't be made to feel like they are somehow inferior because they are a working parent.

Well who is supposed ti look after them while we are working? The flower fairies? Not all of us have GP who are willing ti be full time nannies (and I would never expect this).
My son loves his nursery, run by good trained professionals. And now he has been going a year they’re not ‘strangers’ ffs.

My DC weren’t looked after by strangers. They were looked after by professionals.

Well never thought about we decided to send our child to nursery so they went to nursery I figured they have looked after children before so my child was no more or less precious than any others

Well lots of us have to be because the cost of living requires going back to work.

My dc weren’t looked after by ‘strangers’ until they went to preschool at 3 and I wouldn’t have felt comfortable leaving them with people I didn’t know even at that age if it wasn’t a professional setting, but I think that’s quite normal. I’m sorry you had to suffer abuse.