I quit my job and now feel like a failure -was aibu?

Not a failure at all, quite the opposite.

You recognised this was not right for you, and took the steps you had to take to protect yourself.

The new plan sounds like a great place to start.

I wish you luck in your search, and hope you find the perfect fit.

No, you are not a failure. Quite the opposite. Your employer was acting unlawfully (you are entitled to 20 min protected break every 6h and I am pretty certain there has to be minimum of 11 hours between shifts). So well done for refusing to take a shit job offer.

How is making smart decisions about your health being a failure? You recognised early that the role was not going to work for you. That's really positive.

Absolutely look for roles that have set hours and are generally better at treating the staff well. It is shocking that you didn't get a break. I hope you made it really clear to them that you left due to their poor treatment.

Big hugs for you.

I'm applying for jobs with fixed days/hours so I have structure and a plan
And also starting at 25 and working up that way

This is an excellent plan, and shows you’re really serious about looking after your mental health. You also recognised when you were in a bad situation for you, and took action. You’re not a failure, you’re doing great.

I’m so sorry to hear you lost your mum.

No breaks is unacceptable. Yanbu even without the anxiety.

The job sounds awful and you were right to decide it wasn’t for you. Sticking at a job that makes you unhappy is not a measure of resilience/being good/whatever unrealistic goal you want to put here. This wasn’t the right job for you and it sounds like you’ve got a sensible and more sustainable plan going forwards. Perhaps experiencing this job situ has given you the lens to be able to know what you need. It is positive that you realised that it wasn’t good for you and has led you to prioritising your needs just now.

Whether or not it’s a good job it just wasn’t the right time for that job for you and what’s done is done anyway. Concentrate on your feelings and maybe look for part time/ more for jobs. x

It's no good getting a job that will make you too stressed. I wouldn't ever have put up with being told shifts on Sunday for the next day, that's never been reasonable. Have you considered some office hours admin or office reception, so that at least you can have a regular work-rest pattern? You can do temping to get something quickly and if you don't pick up something regular then you can set which days you'll work, so take a rest day as needed.

I think that fixed hours and starting part time is a great plan, and well done for recognising what did and didn't work about the receptionist job. I really hope this works for you, and you are absolutely not a failure.

Obviously I don't know what medication you're on, but should you check with your GP or a pharmacist if it's OK to take double?

Best of luck with the job hunt - I'm sure you'll find your way back to yourself.

No you’re not. Those T & C aren’t good. I’m looking at the moment for similar reasons (work/life balance and being able to plan). Ask questions about the rota and pattern at the next place. Any decent employers would be happy to be open about this. Good luck 🤞