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To not actually believe this story? Nursery incident

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West102 · 20/08/2024 04:05

My cousins 3 year old DD has suffered a broken leg a few days ago. Apparently this happened whilst at nursery. Nursery report that she ran really fast into a table. Aibu to not believe this at all? I can’t imagine running and banging her leg into a table would result in a fracture? They have chosen to the believe the nursery’s version of events but to me it doesn’t seem likely

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lemonmeringueno3 · 20/08/2024 08:33

My kid broke his leg kicking a football. Weird accidents do happen. I think if they were lying they'd have come up with something more plausible. Presumably parents and medical professionals are satisfied so I am not sure why you think you know more than they do.

CaptainMyCaptain · 20/08/2024 08:31

Accidents like this can happen. A child in my Nursery class broke his leg just falling while running on grass but fortunately (for me not for him) did it at home so my care wasn't brought into question. It was just an unfortunate accident.

WickieRoy · 20/08/2024 08:29

pinkstripeycat · 20/08/2024 08:00

I really don’t know why people like you have to be so rude. Always a little snipe at the end.

OP just wanted a discussion. Isn’t that allowed?

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If your DC had an injury, how would you feel about your cousin posting online for strangers to speculate on how it happened?

Redmat · 20/08/2024 08:28

So you are imaging some kind of cover up are you? I forgot that children never have accidents nowadays. Its always somebodies fault.

PuggyPuggyPuggy · 20/08/2024 08:24

itsgettingweird · 20/08/2024 08:06

A fracture is a "crack" or "bend" (green stick) in the bone for a very basic description.

Very likely to be caused by running into something.

A break (clear cut through a bone) happens more often from a fall or awkward twist and high impact contact (like being hit by a car)

Is there any reason that the child's parents and hospital being happy with the explanation you feel the nursery are lying?

They are the same thing, "fracture" is just the fancy medical term for the plain english term "break". They are completely interchangeable. Lots of people are confused about this and have varying ideas about which one is more serious, or more thoroughly damaged, or displaced, or painful, or whatever, but it's really just like the difference between "tendonitis" and "inflammation of the tendon".

daffodilandtulip · 20/08/2024 08:12

You need to work in early years. It seems their aim in life is to cause serious injury to themselves daily. They do everything at 100mph and cannot see what is right in front of their nose.

Alalalalalongalalalalalonglonglilong · 20/08/2024 08:07

What do you think happened OP? What other explanation is more plausible? That someone is physically abusing her and intentionally broke her leg? I would think running into a table is a lot more likely.

itsgettingweird · 20/08/2024 08:06

A fracture is a "crack" or "bend" (green stick) in the bone for a very basic description.

Very likely to be caused by running into something.

A break (clear cut through a bone) happens more often from a fall or awkward twist and high impact contact (like being hit by a car)

Is there any reason that the child's parents and hospital being happy with the explanation you feel the nursery are lying?

DinnaeFashYersel · 20/08/2024 08:05

Why don't you believe it?

Flubadubba · 20/08/2024 08:04

Something similar happened to a friend, and the nursery self reported it and were investigated. These things happen, and toddler bones are still quite fragile.

sunsetsandboardwalks · 20/08/2024 08:04

What reason do you have not to believe them?

Toddlers are clumsy and can injure themselves in the most benign and normal ways.

ReadWithScepticism · 20/08/2024 08:02

I love that this thread has produced an absolute avalanche of fractured toddlers. Grin You'd think they were made of glass. I'll add my own little contribution to the mass splinter. Aged nearly three, DS2 jumped unspectacularly off a low chair and managed a spiral fracture of the bone in the lower leg.

pinkstripeycat · 20/08/2024 08:00

WickieRoy · 20/08/2024 06:33

The parents have spoken to the nursery and the doctors and are satisfied with the nursery's explanation. It's nothing to do with you.

I really don’t know why people like you have to be so rude. Always a little snipe at the end.

OP just wanted a discussion. Isn’t that allowed?

InTheRainOnATrain · 20/08/2024 07:59

The A&E doctors are the experts and would have said if the injuries were inconsistent with their version of events so if they’re not concerned I wouldn’t assume you know better.

Member984815 · 20/08/2024 07:59

It's definitely possible, is there a reason you are suspicious of the nursery?

Oakcupboard · 20/08/2024 07:56

I broke my ankle and leg in 4 places, by simply going over on my ankle 🙈

Tumbleweed101 · 20/08/2024 07:55

Young children running about and being silly with friends could most definitely run into a table hard enough to hurt themselves.

Infertilemyrtler · 20/08/2024 07:55

My DS broke a bone at nursery, the lady watching him at the time said X happened (no cameras, no witness) The hospital were amazing and straight away said that that couldn't possibly have happened and could tell me the angle and trajectory etc of the incident all from the position and size of the fracture. It turned out shed dropped him and lied, it was fully investigated and she was sacked.

my point is, hospitals are VERY clued up when it comes to kids and broken bones, if something was amiss they would say. Also all broken bones in nursery/school settings are referred to ofsted and county council H&S for investigating

Wish44 · 20/08/2024 07:53

My friends baby had her arm fractured by her over enthusiastic 3 year old.. seems ridiculous but she saw it happen

SilverPuffin · 20/08/2024 07:43

Perfectly possible to have happened in that way, and in my experience the hospital staff would raise a safeguarding concern if they thought that the injury was inconsistent with the explanation.

JLou08 · 20/08/2024 07:40

The staff at the hospital would be alert to safeguarding concerns. If they didn't think the injury was consistent with the explanation they would have raised it.
I broke my foot slipping on a toy car once, aged 23 with no medical concerns. I've had much worse accidents and not ended up with a broken bone. It doesn't always take much to break a bone, just unfortunate positioning.

Maraa · 20/08/2024 07:26

I know a four year old who broke his leg just stepping down from a kerb, sounds crazy, he just stepped off at a weird angle and broke his leg so it is plausible at that age

Changingplace · 20/08/2024 07:21

spanieleyes · 20/08/2024 07:07

My son rolled of the couch onto the floor and broke his arm, the doctor said it's quite common!

My sister did the same when she was a child, it is indeed quite common!

Changingplace · 20/08/2024 07:19

I think it’s definitely possible, my sister rolled off a sofa as a child and broke her arm. Wasn’t high or even with much force, she just rolled awkwardly and it was broken.

CosmicDaisyChain · 20/08/2024 07:14

As a child I fractured my wrist. I thought I just sprained it. I didn't even know it was broken until my mum took me to hospital a week later because I couldn't hold a pencil properly.

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