Husband threw cat after scratch

Depends on a person.
Some people pick fight rather than flight when they deal with pain and stress.
It's normal.

Dropping her instinctively is one thing but to forcefully throw her is absolutely unacceptable. If a partner did that to my cat they'd be leaving. Not only is causing an animal suffering absolutely unforgivable, many men who go on to be violent towards women and children will harm animals first. It's a huge red flag. I hope Kitty is okay, and you too. I can only imagine how upsetting that must have been.

No excuse for throwing the cat . Throwing is totally different to dropping . As a teen I was bitten by my gerbil . Gerbils clamp down and it is hard for them to let go unless their top and bottom teeth meet . I remember being extra careful not to instinctively wave my hand about or grab him hard incase he got hurt .

He is showing his true character there, dropping the cat would have been fine, an instinctive response, throwing the cat forcefully is horrible and unacceptable.

Throwing the cat is not ok no, what a horrible and pathetic man.

My cat is massive and has great fun treating me like prey. I'm regularly minding my own business only to find myself pounced on with some teeth or claws sinking into me and I have never hurt the little darling in response. I've called him a few names but I would never throw him to the ground.

I've never lashed out in anger, but some people really do think it's normal. I would worry that someone who lashes out physically is going to do that in other ways. If you can't control your anger and stop yourself hurting someone or something then that's concerning surely.

I've had cats scratch and bite the shit out of me. Had a rat bite my hand so severely I needed surgery, I dropped it onto the sofa, then gently picked it back up and put it in its cage so it wouldn't run off. Christ my toddler doesn't half hurt me sometimes. If you can't stop yourself throwing an animal how can you stop yourself hitting a child?

Ah, based on the update I know what I’d do. I can’t stand cruelty to animals.

He threw her to the ground, not across the room. That leads me to think it was instinctive and the force was because it hurt! The table being there is irrelevant because he didn’t have a chance to consider it. If he hates the cat, he wouldn’t have been helping with flea treatment.

YANBU. Throwing a cat forcefully is animal abuse. Nasty bastard. I wouldn't want him anywhere near me.

It’s up to you what you do with your DH but if you have to hold/pin animals for medical care at home, always do it on the floor. That way whether you drop them, they wriggle free or they scratch or bite you, they don’t fall.

Flea treatment is a 2 man job here. He holds her and I put it on. Saves the violence from the cat. Just get a few swears then.

If he forcefully threw her to the ground then absolutely not - I wouldn’t let anyone treat any of my pets in that way. Throw him on the floor and see how he likes it!

In future you need to get the Dreamies out and have the flea treatment ready. Cats only seem to concentrate on one thing at a time.
Poor cat - though probably quite an instinctive reaction from your DP. Cat scratches hurt a lot!

There's always one 🙄
So predictable that the cat haters come out

Our cats turn into demons with a thousand claws when anything like flea drops come out , I know DH has released his grip so she can jump free but that’s not the same as throwing her . She wants free, he sets her free.

I did read a horrific news article about a Dad who threw one of his kids guinea pigs at a shed door and it broke its back. ( died)
Now my hand would break before I got sick of punching him.

Drop - instinct, throw - cruel. Only the two of you know which it really was.

Yanbu if he forcefully threw her towards the floor. If he just let go and she dropped to the floor then that would be an instinctive reaction. To being hurt and totally understandable. Throwing her hard is angry and trying to hurt/punish.

Not the point, but why were either of you holding the cat in the air in the first place? That's just asking for windmill legs and claws. It's much easier to kneel on the floor with cat between your legs, feet together behind their bum so they can't reverse, and hold them still that way.

Dropping and throwing are two entirely different things.

Honesty if my cat severely scratched me to the point of bleeding - I'd probably reflexively drop them!

You say "throw" though not "drop" - did he pull his arms back and put some force behind a throw? Or did he just reflexively let go of his grip and drop the cat? That's the key difference to me, immediately letting go and dropping the cat is a reflex to a painful injury. Pulling your arms back and putting power into actively throwing the cat isn't a reflex and that's not someone I'd be happy to have around me or my pets!

It's an instinctive reaction to the shock of pain. Cats can be nasty buggers.

Nope, throwing a living creature, hard, onto the floor is not an instinctual action. Dropping the cat, maybe. Throwing down is anger and intention to hurt. I would be fucking raging.

I would say , you know your husband. Is he the type of person to be deliberately cruel, if not then although I might be upset and feel it was an overreaction,I'd try and get this in proportion based on what I know he is usually like.