Husband threw cat after scratch

I would throw the cat away. I'd be terrified. Your husband has been severly scratched and you don't seem to give a s**t.

To be honest, for me the deciding factor is that you said he was severely scratched. What does that mean? I’m assuming it was quite deep, bloody, painful, may restrict his use of that area, could potentially get infected etc. as in a serious injury.

I think it would be a different thing if it wasn’t a serious injury

Ultimately in that moment he wanted to get the cat away from him, so tbh I’m in two minds about whether it was uncalled for if he did throw the cat. It was likely an instinctive response regardless, he wanted to get the cat away from him to defend himself. If he dropped it close to him, the cat would still be next to him and able to scratch him. So it likely ties into self defence although I can totally understand why it seems brutal.

Thank God he's not a vet!
Slight over reaction, the cat was getting more attention than him

Aw poor old girl. Is she OK? Cats are hardy creatures, she's probably bit disgruntled but she will be fine.

My cats clawed me and my reflex is to move my hand away.

She claws me every time I try to get her in the carrier. She uses me as an emergency escape route trying to leg it. I've dropped her whilst trying to wrestle her in it.

I'd go ballistic if my partner threw her.

Not sure what to say to make the situation better for you to be honest.

But I think you're right to be mad.

Well, I can only say, animals nowadays are sometimes treated with more consideration
than my generation as kids.
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The automatic reaction to a cat scratch is to contract your muscles and pull your hand or arm away, not to take hold of the animal with the limb that has just been scratched and forcibly sling it. It's retaliation, not removing the source of his pain.

Really. The mum threw a two year old. A TWO YEAR Old child. Threw him. In the same way this man threw an elderly cat to the floor.

And that’s okay?

this thread is bonkers

So can humans....

It's tempting to think it must be that.

We don't know that OP's current version isn't t coloured by emotion. I'd be terribly unreasonable if anyone dropped one of my animals, I'm afraid. At least until if calmed down a bit.

Why are you wanting OP to tell you, for the 3rd time, that it was a deliberate forcible throw? The DH is now saying he is sorry, he must have now accepted he has something to be sorry about.

You know him better than we do.

TBF, you'd never drop or throw a baby, or even a puppy, but you can usually let go of a cat in an emergency, fairly confident that they right themselves. Even from standing height.

Are you sure he forcibly dashed it into the floor, and didn't just do an instinctive thing of pushing it away? Cat scratches hurt like buggery.

If I ever murder someone I am pleading innocent die to rage and hoping half the people in this thread are the jury! Apparently it’s okay to completely lose it and throw elderly cats (and a two year old child😮) if you get a painful scratch.

No, it's not normal to throw the way you've described.

I keep rodents and been bitten many a time, I've jerked away and probably scared them but I've never thrown any of them.

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So if a child he was holding scratched or otherwise hurt him it would be okay for him to lose control and throw them to the floor in anger?

OP, have you tried wrapping cat tightly in a large, thick towel. If you are on your own (probably wise not to involve cat throwing H) kneel on the floor and wedge cats bum between your knees, or stand with cat on a table and wedge it back between your arm and body.

You threw your two year old to the floor in a rage?

I hope you got him medical attention. We’re social services involved. Hope so for the poor kid

It’s not always though. It’s fight OR flight. Flight is recoiling to get away from the threat, fight is pushing/throwing/whatever to get the threat away from you. Both are instincts, we don’t get to choose which one we do.

of course if he threw her in anger that’s awful but it doesn’t sound like that’s the case.

I agree.
I hope the DH is okay. Cat scratches can be awful.

He didn't 'fling her away', he "threw her to the floor, hard" "forcefully threw her to the ground"

Frightening that so many people think it’s okay to throw an elderly cat to the floor. I have been scratched lids, blood drawn, never lost my temper so bad I hurt an animal.

is the cat okay? Keep an eye - cats really hide pain.

cant abide animal cruelty. No excuses. Our pets rely completely on us - especially when they are older

If something is ripping your flesh, it's surely not an unreasonable response to fling it away from you.

I don't think he did anything wrong.

Oh I've seen your further comment. Not good could have seriously hurt the cat!

Throwing and dropping are not the same. A dropped cat would likely land on its feet.