Husband threw cat after scratch

Disgusting man. Dropping the cat as a reflex is one thing, but throwing it is another.

Yes, but I think the cat most likely half threw itself trying to get away.

As PP said, swaddling a cat is other option. But I find that one is more distressing to my cats.
Still, when I had to rinse their nostrils with fluid or feed them medicine from a syringe for the 20th time, I did it.
I found it has to be quick, because they can get really hot. At least my black one.
But, number one thing to do. Be at floor level.
You can back them into a corner, if needed. So you only have to worry about them moving in one direction.
I know it is hard. The relationship with your pet is meant to be all fluffy and happy.
But when it comes to medical care and basic grooming, it has to happen. That is really.
My cats are not 'talking to me" at present, because I dared to brush two of them on Sunday. Oh, and I sorted one's nail, which was broken and sore. But they are sitting around, much cooler and comfortable, so they will be back for cuddles when they get over it lol.

Instinctively dropping or pushing the cat away would be a natural reaction to sudden pain & fear that it would scratch again.

But purposely throwing the cat is not acceptable.

Having had many cats I have been bitten and scratched countless times and never felt the need to violently throw them.

It seems to me that he wanted to punish the cat and did this out of anger, rather than as an instinctive move to protect himself.

I would keep the cat and get rid of the boyfriend...

That's a terrible thing to have done. If you have a cat, you have to accept you will get scratched at some point, because you can't explain to the cat that any unpleasantnesses it has to go through, for example, medicine being administered, is for its benefit, so it just thinks you are doing something nasty to it and lashes out by instinct.

I would be wary of trusting him with the cat again, and if this is any kind of pattern of behaviour, he would be gone - never trust people who hurt animals.

Astonished at the number of people saying “yeah sounds reasonable!” but the other day when it was a dog, it was LTB.

If you're absolutely certain he threw her then of course that's not okay.

But cats can be rather dramatic imo and I've been scratched a few times. I'll push them or let them go and they kind of fling themselves backwards to escape, making it look like they've been pushed when they haven't been.

One of mine has to be wrapped in a towel for any kind of flea treatment and when you let him go he starts flinging himself around like he thinks he's Mike Tyson 😂

Did she land on her feet?

I love my cats, their claws hurt, but I'd never throw them. I guess it's a fine line between instinctively dropping and trying to get the 'threat' as far from you as possible.

Poor little cat. I would have lost it. We’ve got one cat that cuts you to ribbons when you try to medicate her. She’s not trying to hurt you, just trying to get away and using you as traction. It’s very scary for them being medicated, they generally don’t understand what’s happening. I think the mixed responses are possibly because people were not clear initially whether it was a drop or a throw. Sorry you are going through this, it must be very upsetting. I hope your cat is ok today. X

So throw the owner across a room, poison the owner, kick the owner, don’t take it out on the animal?

it’s frightening how much emotion this generates - the hatred and the violence is totally misdirected. But i suppose it’s easy to hurt a small creature.

I’ve been scratched by cats many times and I haven’t lost control. There is a big difference between dropping the cat and throwing it. It is an aggressive reaction and implies poor impulse control. Good that he is at least contrite.

There is a difference between dropping and throwing an animal.

He’d be gone. Fuck that. Ive been scratched on a daily basis. I do not throw an animal.

Your cat had an over reaction.
I think you are over reacting a bit too, being honest.
4 inches is quite a distance from a table.
You cannot really throw a cat towards the floor if you try, as they have such great reflexes, particulay when adrenaline is pumping on their system.
Highly unlikely she will get hurt.
Your husband reacted in pain and anger. Anger being the problem here. But he is not nasty to animals, so I do not think this is a red flag.
To be honest, he has reasons to be angry. You have owned this cat for years, since it was a kitten, presumably you have been putting the flea treatment on it for eons now. It is only a little drop of fluid at the back of the neck. Not painful or anything like that. Your cat should really be chilled about this by now. But she is protesting by being aggressive towards your husband. Which it is not acceptable, really.
You are doing a few things wrong.
You should have the cat on the floor. You can show dominance over her by pulling at the skin behind the neck. I know it is exactly where you need to apply the treatment. But you can just pull before the treatment. Then grab around the area you need to put the treatment on and be quick. Two people better than one. This will not hurt your cat. No need to pull tight. Just so she can feel it, be assertive. Show no hesitation.
You should work as a team and support each other. If the cat gets the idea it can get away with scratching one of you, it will only get worst.
You do seriously need to show dominance over her when it comes to medical treatment or grooming. Otherwise, not even the vet will do it. Some cats can get well out of control. I have one that hisses, just that and I already have issues with vet treatments at times. So imagine with bad scratching!

These threads are always fascinating - and always bring a few people who really hate the concept of pets. I know there is animal cruelty in our society, people of kick and throw family pets, people who move house and just leave them; people who dump them in the countryside out on cardboard boxes.

so we should be surprised that a) this man threw an elderly cat to the floor and b) people think that is completely reasonable.

my fiend is a vet and he said he has considered quitting because of the abuse and neglect he sees from seeming ordinary people. Cats in particular really suffer - as this thread has demonstrated some people really hate them.

This thread is very interesting. Differing views. I don't think what Dh dud sounds bad at all, totally reasonable.

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On seeing the title and avoiding the post for a bit - huge cat lover, I was prepared to put a LTB reply - but if the cat was scratching and distressed, was she also struggling to get down?

Cat biting and clawing you is absolutelly not a part of owning a cat.
I grew up with animals and none of the cats ever did this nonsense past 7 months at worst.
You can google cat training, surelly you will find method that works for you.

It's a reflex. I threw my hamster across his cage when he bit me. Didn't mean to, the reflex was to jerk back and shake him off. Felt awful for it. He was fine, had a soft landing.

I'd never hurt him, I dote on the bitey little bastard. It was an accident.

I love cats, but our last one could be quite vicious. I think this sounds a bit like a mountain out of a molehill, the cat got angry and scratched and he automatically flung it off him. Both will be fine. Feliway is good for helping cats relax before doing things like flea treatments etc.
Also, a relative of mine once nearly died from 'Cat Scratch Fever', which sounds made up but is a genuinely nasty illness, so keep an eye out for that on dh.

Oh and all this "a grown man shouldn't react to pain" BS is toxic masculinity