Husband threw cat after scratch

They're little buggers aren't they!

Mine knocked a glass vase off my fireplace and cracked my fireplace. It's marble 🙄

Another time when she was a kitten she went to jump over the back fence and I had to pull her back over by grabbing onto her back legs (she's an indoor cat.)

They're tough xx

Cats can be right arseholes but they aren't doing it out of malice. Throwing your cat out of anger is just wrong, I hope he feels ashamed.
Beside if you are doing anything a cat might not like you have to be prepared for violence. An angry/scared cat is basically like an out of control miniature threshing machine!
One of mine bit clean through my thumb, nail included, after a disagreement about a worming tablet. I was so angry I pretty much ignored him for 2 days!

Another time wrap the cat in a towel. One hold firmly and the other do the drops on head. I use the tablets now as easier. I wrap a little tablet up in a bit of wafer thin ham and then hand feed it in to cats mouth. If my DH did that to any of my cats he'd not be sleeping in my bed tonight.

Caveman brain: Animals are dangerous threats, babies are to be protected. Which is why we generally act differently when attacked by them.

The man’s an idiot.
If you are doing something unpleasant to an animal with teeth and claws, then you immobilise it first. And you don’t use violence against something smaller and weaker than you, because you might seriously harm or kill it.
And if he can’t do that, then you should have been the defleaing the cat.
So next time, think ahead.

Toddlers cannot hurt as badly as a cat. They don't have claws for a start.
If you hold a toddler, it won't claw further into you.
If you hold a cat that is angry, well good luck to you.

Your nephew wouldn't have continued to hurt you, a cat would. Your nephew, likely, wasn't trying to hurt you in the first place.

I think this would be DTFA territory for me.

My cat was a vicious thing for years but I never threw her ffs.

My partner, also a cat lover, would never have thrown her across any rooms. I'l don't think I could be with someone that did that.

My two year old once bit me on the tricep. It was hard enough to draw blood. I instinctively shouted 'OWWWW' and pushed him away across the sofa. I'm certainly not advocating pushing toddlers, but it really hurt and I reacted instinctively. He was clearly shocked by my reaction, and I felt pretty shitty about losing my cool and lashing out, but he wasn't actually hurt/injured.

Sometimes people react poorly when subjected to extreme and sudden pain.

Anyone who’s owned a cat knows to expect the very likely chance it will resist to being given a flea treatment and that the likelihood it will express this through scratching is high (after 10 years I’d think he’d know the cat’s behaviour well). Throwing an animal is never acceptable, ever. Poor cat

I didn't throw DD when she bit my lip and jaw locked into it(wouldn't have helped), but I did smack her bottom. Only time in 12 years and I didn't even think about it. I tried to move her away, she clung on with her teeth, lots of pain, I panicked and I smacked her bum.

It wasn't a "if I do this, she will do that " moment, just a "Fuuuuuck!".

Don't be ridiculous. Toddlers can hurt badly. I also went on to explain what a head butt from my baby nephew did. Can you read at all, or are your capabilities limited to making rude remarks to people addressing the OP, not you?

Of course it can be both ways - because we have different instincts which kick in in different situations

Most people are well aware that a small child having a tantrum needs to be held firmly, whereas if you do the same to an angry, frightened cat, you could wind up being scratched to ribbons in a matter of seconds, and potentially bitten/with puncture wounds. The same is in no way true of a toddler.

If I was being scratched by a cat I would let go as fast as possible to let them escape. If it was a child, I would hold them firmly to stop them from hurting themselves or running away. Two totally different scenarios.

I'm commenting on the idea that throwing something away from you that has caused sudden unexpected pain and injury is instinctive and therefore unthinking.
Your rationalisation actually contradicts that, as either it was knee jerk and unconscious or he thought to himself this car could land me in hospital if I don't throw if forcefully to the ground. Can't be both ways.

You're comparing apples and oranges.

Children are much easier to keep hold of, for starters, but they're also not as dangerous as a cat. A full on cat attack could very easily land you in hospital.

Babies and toddlers don't scratch like a cat ffs. What waffle.

Its not an instinctive knee jerk reaction, is it? Otherwise there would be a lot of babies and toddlers thrown instinctively when they bit, scratched, pulled our hair. My nephew cut my lip and gave me a loose tooth, head butting me as a baby. He remained in my arms. Your H threw the cat in anger not by instinct. I'd be very upset if he were my H.

On purpose or in anger ? No.

The get it away from you or instinct as an immediate reaction to being hurt? Yes.

It fucking happens, and if OP's husband was the abusive prick , animal hater , everyone is trying to portray him he would've done similar , or worse in the 10 years they had her.

Completely agree

So she didn’t land well? Ie on her feet?

It's MN
People get told to LTB over more minor things than this

The people saying leave him. People would really detonate their children’s lives over this 🤯

I actually think the flea treatment thing makes it even more likely that the cat panicked and lashed out, scratched him and kicked him trying to escape. Mine have all done similar over the years - and yes, to an observer, it might look like they were being thrown.

But in reality it was a combination of me trying to avoid even more of a mauling, and them kicking/flailing to try and escape.

I now "get them" when they're asleep to try and prevent it.

I think the fact he was holding her for flea treatment makes it worse as you'd be on guard for the strong possibility you might be scratched in such a situation. Horrible that he threw her.

Just to add another possibility here, I have had cats struggle in my arms then push off me with their back legs, giving me good boot in the process. That could look very like being thrown. It depends how he was holding the cat.

I am not a fan of cats but as a teen my friends cat attacked me out of no where (probably why I am not a fan) but I just moved myself away. I definitely didn’t throw the cat or hurt it. I was completely in shock and unexpected but still didn’t throw or push the cat.

My toddler has cut me before and caused me to bleed and has accidentally punched me but I definitely wouldn’t throw him to the floor.