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Will the vet say it’s time?

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Unicornp · 19/08/2024 18:28

My Ddog is around 15 years old. Poor eyesight in one eye, struggles to stand back up from laying down, she can’t put wait on her paws, back legs have gone. She can’t even eat her dinner stood up anymore, her legs just go. She still can manage a small walk but doesn’t take long for her legs to go. She sleeps a lot. She’s also starting pooing indoors :( I know I need to get her seen, the thought of her being put down is so sad, she’s been in our family years but of course I don’t want her to suffer.

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MissDaisyDot · 19/08/2024 18:43

We had our beloved Dog PTS yesterday 💔

We knew it was coming as she had cancer & had already made the decision to have her PTS at home, which is something you might we want to consider as we found it really beautiful in a way & I'm sure it will be a comfort to us when it's not so raw.

She went in the sunshine, outside on the patio, with her head in my lap & Dd & Dh stroking her.

Good luck with your decision, however you do it, it's heartbreaking but the last, loving thing you can do for your beautiful dog.

Howmanycatsistoomany · 19/08/2024 18:42

Kindly, OP, your ddog is telling you it's time.

BiteyShark · 19/08/2024 18:40

OP the best thing we can do for our dogs is to give them the best life and a good death.

Don't let her suffer. Make her last days wonderful and happy as it's the best thing we can do as pet owners.

Bryonny84 · 19/08/2024 18:39

If she's now doing the toilet indoors and is sleeping most of the time it's probably time to let her go. My old dog was like this and he'd also gone blind. He had no life so the vet put him to sleep. It absolutely killed me but it was the best for the dog. It really is the kindest thing for them.

CharlotteFlax · 19/08/2024 18:38

My love, it is time and I think the vet will tell you so too.

I'm sorry. it's very hard to do but it is also the right thing to do.

Procrastinates · 19/08/2024 18:37

Honestly OP as heartbreaking as it is to think about it already sounds like she doesn't have a very good quality of life, she's just existing really.

Any decent vet would suggest it's time to let her go rather than spend any more time letting her suffer.

Letsgocamping67 · 19/08/2024 18:37

Read back what you have written. She is suffering. You have obviously given her a wonderful life and you need to step up and let her go now.

Newuser75 · 19/08/2024 18:36

I'm so sorry to hear about your dog. It's so sad as they get older.
It sounds to me like it's time and you know it but you don't want to part with her.
It's the final good thing that someone can do for an animal so try to take comfort in that. Go with her and give her a cuddle as she goes. X

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Unicornp · 19/08/2024 18:36

Thank you both. Her quality of life isn’t great really, small walks at a time, appetite the same but struggles standing to eat. Seems to be looking sorry for herself and sleeping lots :(

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Unicornp · 19/08/2024 18:35

Weight on her paws*

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Pineappleprep · 19/08/2024 18:34

Gently, she's already suffering a lot.

Many people give their dog an amazing last day, take her to her favourite place, play with her favourite toys for a while, make her some treat food, my parents DDog got a chicken breast and gravy and they let her try a little bit of proper chocolate.
Lots of cuddles and fusses.

Any good vet will let her go, be with her when that happens and hold her until she's gone.

hoarahloux · 19/08/2024 18:33

What's her quality of life like? A tool like this could help you make the decision:

https://www.lapoflove.com/how-will-i-know-it-is-time/lap-of-love-quality-of-life-scale.pdf

Good luck, it's horrible.

https://www.lapoflove.com/how-will-i-know-it-is-time/lap-of-love-quality-of-life-scale.pdf