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To suggest a male curfew one night a week

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twojumps · 19/08/2024 17:41

when women can walk free in the streets without fear?

Yes, violence still happens in homes and behind closed doors but what a powerful message it would send.

I'd say every night but let's start with one.

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Deipara · 19/08/2024 17:56

A preposterous idea.

HelloMiss · 19/08/2024 17:56

watchingsmurfs · 19/08/2024 17:49

As the mother of a son I find this highly offensive and entirely unreasonable to suggest that all men are violent criminals.

Agreed but this is nutty old mumsnet....

Shinyandnew1 · 19/08/2024 17:56

What time would you like this curfew from every night, OP?

Would you like all the men to have to leave their female friends/girlfriends/wives in the pub/cinema/restaurant/club, so they can get home before curfew, then the women all have to travel home to the same address at night separately at the end of the film/meal/evening?

HelloMiss · 19/08/2024 17:55

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 19/08/2024 17:47

This is bait...

And utterly ridiculous

I think so too..

rainbowbee · 19/08/2024 17:55

I'd love it. Impossible it may be, but imagine walking freely. Just imagine.
Also- in the event that consequences for male violence against women were to inconvenience ALL men, they might be a lot quicker to police each other.

HelloMiss · 19/08/2024 17:55

AnneLovesGilbert · 19/08/2024 17:46

It’s a great idea.

What's 'great' about it?

Stoptherideiwanttogetoff24 · 19/08/2024 17:54

twojumps · 19/08/2024 17:41

when women can walk free in the streets without fear?

Yes, violence still happens in homes and behind closed doors but what a powerful message it would send.

I'd say every night but let's start with one.

And you think all the rapists and attackers would stay home because it’s against the rules to go out and commit crimes on a Wednesday…..

they’d be more likely to as all the women would be undefended by brothers, friends, husbands, boyfriends, dads…. You know all the good men who don’t commit crimes and care about and respect women

HelloMiss · 19/08/2024 17:54

lazzapazza · 19/08/2024 17:45

Disgusting idea to tarnish all men with the same brush. Give Your head a wobble op.

Agreed!

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 19/08/2024 17:54

twojumps · 19/08/2024 17:50

It isn't bait, actually. I'm serious. I'd like to walk at night without fear. For my DDs to go out without fear.

Something has to change. It would be a gesture and wake up call.

What do we do, nothing?

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I walk around at night without fear. Because I don't let scaremongering get to me.

Punishing all men is not the way to go. Plenty of other options.

Like: harsher sentences, more education, better police presence, better street lighting...

FreedomDogs · 19/08/2024 17:53

twojumps · 19/08/2024 17:50

It isn't bait, actually. I'm serious. I'd like to walk at night without fear. For my DDs to go out without fear.

Something has to change. It would be a gesture and wake up call.

What do we do, nothing?

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What do you think it would achieve though? Apart from significantly inconveniencing half the population for one night a week (plus some of the other half who rely on them?)

AgileGreenSeal · 19/08/2024 17:53

Silly. 🤪

mitogoshi · 19/08/2024 17:52

I've seen many women fighting at night, also female on female domestic abuse. I suspect it doesn't get talked about

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twojumps · 19/08/2024 17:52

Mymanyellow · 19/08/2024 17:51

The men who are a risk to you and your daughters wouldn’t respect a curfew anyway.

So what do we do? Just live with it?

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ButWhatAboutTheBees · 19/08/2024 17:52

Would there be special passes for those men who work at night? Or would women be expected to pick up the slack? Or would services just be understaffed?

What if they were taken ill or they had to run a friend or family member to the hospital?

Why would it deter those who already think they are above the law and break the law regarding violence?

What about the fact it would essentially TRAP abused women at home with abusive men angry about the discriminatory rule? Where they are more likely to be abused than a woman on the street?

Ignoring the fact that punishing all men in this way would only incite more men to feel aggrieved at women and become extremists.... and is basically segregation

GoldViper · 19/08/2024 17:52

watchingsmurfs · 19/08/2024 17:49

As the mother of a son I find this highly offensive and entirely unreasonable to suggest that all men are violent criminals.

And if your son was walking behind me on a darkened street, I'd still be afraid. Doesn't matter how lovely his mum thinks he is 🙄

Mymanyellow · 19/08/2024 17:51

The men who are a risk to you and your daughters wouldn’t respect a curfew anyway.

oldmanandtheangel · 19/08/2024 17:50

Well, I'd find my night work far harder if the men were absent..we'd be very shortstaffed

Tharshe · 19/08/2024 17:50

I would absolutely love it if it was ever workable. When I lived overseas there was a ladies only park I used to visit - and it was joyful.

All the people saying NAMALT are missing the point/part of the problem.

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twojumps · 19/08/2024 17:50

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 19/08/2024 17:47

This is bait...

And utterly ridiculous

It isn't bait, actually. I'm serious. I'd like to walk at night without fear. For my DDs to go out without fear.

Something has to change. It would be a gesture and wake up call.

What do we do, nothing?

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HaroldMeaker · 19/08/2024 17:49

Brilliant idea.

watchingsmurfs · 19/08/2024 17:49

As the mother of a son I find this highly offensive and entirely unreasonable to suggest that all men are violent criminals.

PearlClutzsche · 19/08/2024 17:48

It’s a really stupid idea.

PearlClutzsche · 19/08/2024 17:48

FreedomDogs · 19/08/2024 17:46

Most violence against women happens in the home.

Also, men who commit violence against women in the streets are already breaking the law - why do you think a curfew will deter them more than the fact that assault/rape/violence is already illegal?

Was going to post much the same. The law is already no deterrent, so why would they respect a curfew?

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 19/08/2024 17:47

This is bait...

And utterly ridiculous

Maddy70 · 19/08/2024 17:47

Absolutely not

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