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To suggest a male curfew one night a week

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twojumps · 19/08/2024 17:41

when women can walk free in the streets without fear?

Yes, violence still happens in homes and behind closed doors but what a powerful message it would send.

I'd say every night but let's start with one.

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mitogoshi · 19/08/2024 17:52

I've seen many women fighting at night, also female on female domestic abuse. I suspect it doesn't get talked about

Doesnt get talked about? Are you joking? Literally every single time women are discussing male VAWG, someone trots on to try to divert attention away from the topic by distracting us with tales about violent women. Every single time. Far from never talked about, it gets so much air time you'd be forgiven for thinking the police had declared that a national emergency.

Plzdontaskmyname · 19/08/2024 18:11

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Pretty sure you were reported not for disagreement but for using a slur against women

Deipara · 19/08/2024 18:11

And...if this is a success we should increase it to 7 days a week. No men at home, no men out at night, ever. Problem solved 😌

noworklifebalance · 19/08/2024 18:10

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You are either a man or one of the aggressive women PPs have had the misfortune to encounter. Most women would not refer to women as “obnoxious bitches” in the context of safety for women and girls

CosmicDaisyChain · 19/08/2024 18:10

twojumps · 19/08/2024 17:52

So what do we do? Just live with it?

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Has it occurred to you that not everyone does live in fear?

Deipara · 19/08/2024 18:10

I think if we are banning men from going out at night once a week then we also need to ban men from living at home once a week. You know, to give the women a rest from domestic abuse at home. Yeah?!

ThisCalmUser · 19/08/2024 18:10

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FrippEnos · 19/08/2024 18:10

HelloMiss and ButWhatAboutTheBees

Let the OP and whoever else wants to work this "thought experiment" out so no men means no men, no men on shift with you, no special passes. Just a male curfew.

Crazycatlady79 · 19/08/2024 18:09

I've never gone out at night and felt afraid of the possible threat of male violence, as learnt to handle myself at a young age, but I can appreciate that it must be daunting for some women.
Your idea is fucking stupid, though, as it solves nothing.

Astrabees · 19/08/2024 18:09

If most male on female violence takes place at home surely insisting men stayed in one night a week would increase violence, not reduce it. In. Any event utterly ridiculous, and plenty of fighting on nights out is groups of women getting stuck in.

saltycashew · 19/08/2024 18:09

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Dygger · 19/08/2024 18:09

Good idea, OP.

Wouldn't it be lovely? If all decent men, recognising endemic and systematic male violence against women and girls, decided to show their support by leaving the streets and public spaces to women for one night a week?

FreedomDogs · 19/08/2024 18:08

WolabiMe · 19/08/2024 18:05

As the mother of a son I find this highly offensive

all rapists, attackers/ murderers/ creeps have mothers too you know

Perhaps we should just stop having kids. No more pesky mothers having boys who grow into men, no more problem.

I mean, if we're suggesting completely batshit ideas that wouldn't work and would grind society to a halt, why not go all the way

noworklifebalance · 19/08/2024 18:08

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😂

Bodeganights · 19/08/2024 18:08

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Wow.

Just wow

GoldViper · 19/08/2024 18:08

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Obviously I've reported this person's posts.

LonelySingleNameChangeBecauseItsEmbarrassing · 19/08/2024 18:07

Women would never allow that.
(Yes, women)

They’d be crying how unfair that is, too cruel.
Not their Nigeling.

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SerendipityJane · 19/08/2024 18:06

When the Yorkshire Ripper was at large, there was a not-funny suggestion that there should be a curfew for women around Leeds. Didn't go down well then. As it was pointed out, why should the innocent pay the price ?

GoldViper · 19/08/2024 18:06

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Wow.

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Bodeganights · 19/08/2024 18:05

invisiblecat · 19/08/2024 18:02

Put more Bobbies on the beat. When was the last time anyone saw a police constable on foot patrol?

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That would be great until you meet the Wayne couzens of the police force.

Yellowbananasarebetterthangreen · 19/08/2024 18:05

Wouldnt it be lovely if............ someone could suggest something like the OP has (which is admittedly entirely unenforceable) without people saying "Its Not all men though!"

MillyMollyMandHey · 19/08/2024 18:05

As if the men who are likely to attack women are going to pay any attention to a curfew