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To suggest a male curfew one night a week

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twojumps · 19/08/2024 17:41

when women can walk free in the streets without fear?

Yes, violence still happens in homes and behind closed doors but what a powerful message it would send.

I'd say every night but let's start with one.

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Fahran · 02/09/2024 17:04

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 01/09/2024 18:12

Why would there be not enough demand for pubs, clubs, restaurant's and cinemas? Do you hever go out without a man!

No men allowed at all would potentially be HALF their clientele for a certain day every week

If women are having to pick up male shifts as well then the client base is even more limited

Depending on the day, in our local pub it would be a 95% reduction of the clientele for a certain day every week.

FrippEnos · 02/09/2024 16:56

5128gap · 02/09/2024 08:54

You don't need a curfew for that @@FrippEnos All you need to do is stop trying to buy young women's company, and get over the idea that the way to get sex is to buy them drinks. Problem (if it even is one) solved.

Or for young women to stop selling their company.

5128gap · 02/09/2024 08:54

You don't need a curfew for that @@FrippEnos All you need to do is stop trying to buy young women's company, and get over the idea that the way to get sex is to buy them drinks. Problem (if it even is one) solved.

FrippEnos · 02/09/2024 06:51

Everyoneesleistheproblem · 01/09/2024 17:15

😁

Clearly it's never going to be a thing but it's worth thinking about.

Why would there be not enough demand for pubs, clubs, restaurant's and cinemas? Do you hever go out without a man!

It's interesting to imagine how easy, going out becomes when you take out male gaze and violence. If this once a week was the norm, how long before women realised it shouldn't matter how hot/young they are but rather how they project themselves.
How long before "hard" women are a thing and what happens to those women when men are back in charge.

It would be interesting to see who some of the young "ladies" would cadge drinks off, and whether they would spend their own money.

WotsYourExcuse · 01/09/2024 19:30

After taking decades upon decades to even be allowed to vote and get equal pay you think they'll let us curfew them. Not a chance. 😂

WotsYourExcuse · 01/09/2024 19:28

5128gap · 01/09/2024 14:49

Those are reasons why its unethical not unworkable.

It's totally unworkable because men will just say no.

Everyoneesleistheproblem · 01/09/2024 18:41

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 01/09/2024 18:12

Why would there be not enough demand for pubs, clubs, restaurant's and cinemas? Do you hever go out without a man!

No men allowed at all would potentially be HALF their clientele for a certain day every week

If women are having to pick up male shifts as well then the client base is even more limited

But equally they could adjust for half numbers as much as "twice as busy" like bank holidays or roasts on Sundays. Unless you live in a urban metropolis most places close a day or two a week as it is. If cufew night was one of those it would make sod all difference.

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 01/09/2024 18:12

Why would there be not enough demand for pubs, clubs, restaurant's and cinemas? Do you hever go out without a man!

No men allowed at all would potentially be HALF their clientele for a certain day every week

If women are having to pick up male shifts as well then the client base is even more limited

Rosscameasdoody · 01/09/2024 17:48

CurlewKate · 22/08/2024 19:17

@Boomer55 "Most men aren’t a threat to women."

I agree. Most people aren't burglars either. Or shoplifters, or drunk drivers or child abusers. That doesn't mean we shouldn't protect ourselves from the people that are.

And as I keep saying, the men who aren't a threat HAVE to take some responsibility for dealing with the men that are.

And so do mothers raising sons. That’s where it starts. It’ll take a while to feed in, but the message should be women are not playthings, punchbags, or there for the convenience or comfort of men. Women are equal in every way and no means no every single time.

5128gap · 01/09/2024 17:29

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 01/09/2024 17:02

They are why it's unworkable

Not enough staff, not enough viability for venues to open or operate when they lose potentially half or more of their clientelle, managing just WHY a male is out and about...

If they're still allowed out to work then they'll still be there as a threat (and we know Police Officers and Taxi Drivers for example aren't "safe") which would defeat the point. And would just create resentment and anger in the men who don't work in industries which allow them out and about. They wouldn't settle down the way you seem to think.

I'd have probably said the same before 2020, but its been proven how much freedom people will sacrifice to benefit others. Although perhaps when the others are women and the ones being asked to sacrifice are men, it would be different. However we'll never know.
The majority of the people it's designed to benefit are very unlikely to be supportive of it and that's the strongest disincentive. We can't start imposing things most women don't want against their wishes because a few think it would be for their good. Otherwise we are swapping one form of subjugation for another.

Everyoneesleistheproblem · 01/09/2024 17:15

5128gap · 01/09/2024 15:21

None of your points support it being unworkable. Undesirable, but not unworkable. It's being discussed because someone started a thread about it? Don't worry I don't think its because there's been a leaked memo it's on the cards or anything.

😁

Clearly it's never going to be a thing but it's worth thinking about.

Why would there be not enough demand for pubs, clubs, restaurant's and cinemas? Do you hever go out without a man!

It's interesting to imagine how easy, going out becomes when you take out male gaze and violence. If this once a week was the norm, how long before women realised it shouldn't matter how hot/young they are but rather how they project themselves.
How long before "hard" women are a thing and what happens to those women when men are back in charge.

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 01/09/2024 17:02

5128gap · 01/09/2024 15:21

None of your points support it being unworkable. Undesirable, but not unworkable. It's being discussed because someone started a thread about it? Don't worry I don't think its because there's been a leaked memo it's on the cards or anything.

They are why it's unworkable

Not enough staff, not enough viability for venues to open or operate when they lose potentially half or more of their clientelle, managing just WHY a male is out and about...

If they're still allowed out to work then they'll still be there as a threat (and we know Police Officers and Taxi Drivers for example aren't "safe") which would defeat the point. And would just create resentment and anger in the men who don't work in industries which allow them out and about. They wouldn't settle down the way you seem to think.

Newbutoldfather · 01/09/2024 16:49

All this thread has demonstrated is that a lot of humans want to control others.

It is like the psychology experiment where half the subjects were assigned to be prison guards and the other half prisoners. Within days, the prison guards turned into bullies and the prisoners became supplicants.

I don’t think a matriarchal society would be any better than a patriarchal one.

TheCadoganArms · 01/09/2024 16:07

After the initial flutter of outrage

This sentence doing some heavy lifting.

5128gap · 01/09/2024 15:21

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 01/09/2024 15:09

Ah yes
Lock down
Where businesses collapsed due to not being able to operate at full capacity
And people just did as they were told
And people with legit reasons to be out weren't targeted by mob mentality...

All those clubs, pubs, restaurants, cinemas and theatres wouldn't be open. There wouldn't be enough demand. They would also not be "male free" unless you expected women to have to take on all the extra shifts.

I'm not sure about the "convinced" either... sounds a bit brainwash-y....

Provision would also have to be made for medical emergencies.

And what about women who's husbands/dads/brothers/sons/partners drive them to and from work or nights out? Should they have to fork out more money to have to catch public transport?

It is unworkable, why has been discussed at length now

None of your points support it being unworkable. Undesirable, but not unworkable. It's being discussed because someone started a thread about it? Don't worry I don't think its because there's been a leaked memo it's on the cards or anything.

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 01/09/2024 15:09

Ah yes
Lock down
Where businesses collapsed due to not being able to operate at full capacity
And people just did as they were told
And people with legit reasons to be out weren't targeted by mob mentality...

All those clubs, pubs, restaurants, cinemas and theatres wouldn't be open. There wouldn't be enough demand. They would also not be "male free" unless you expected women to have to take on all the extra shifts.

I'm not sure about the "convinced" either... sounds a bit brainwash-y....

Provision would also have to be made for medical emergencies.

And what about women who's husbands/dads/brothers/sons/partners drive them to and from work or nights out? Should they have to fork out more money to have to catch public transport?

It is unworkable, why has been discussed at length now

5128gap · 01/09/2024 14:49

Rosscameasdoody · 01/09/2024 11:20

It’s totally unworkable. And for one reason. It’s the absolute opposite of democracy and is the start of the slippery slope to dictatorship. What next ? Curfews on disabled people because they walk too slowly, or wheelchairs are a nuisance ? Curfews on different races or religions on different days ? If you think that’s extreme look at the the events leading up to the holocaust.

Those are reasons why its unethical not unworkable.

Rosscameasdoody · 01/09/2024 11:20

5128gap · 01/09/2024 10:19

It would be entirely workable, as has been demonstrated by lockdown. There would be provisions made so that those who had to work could go there and back, but only for those reasons. There would be fines for breaking curfew. As with lockdown there would be plenty of members of the public willing to act as prefects to report those breaking it. It wouldnt stop them all, but would make them visible and easier to apprehend. After the initial flutter of outrage, most men would settle to it and adapt. Particularly if the well intentioned were brought on board and convinced they were helping women. As we all were in Covid to help 'the vulnerable'. Many would come to see it as their heroic contribution to helping women be safer. Few go out every night, so they would make curfew the night they didn't. Media would take advantage and screen male centred entertainment etc. Meanwhile, while women obviously wouldn't be assured of not setting eyes on a man, they would know that pubs, cinemas, clubs, theatres etc would be free of men and their presence on public transport greatly reduced. To be clear, I don't support it for various reasons. But the idea its 'unworkable' isn't one of them.

It’s totally unworkable. And for one reason. It’s the absolute opposite of democracy and is the start of the slippery slope to dictatorship. What next ? Curfews on disabled people because they walk too slowly, or wheelchairs are a nuisance ? Curfews on different races or religions on different days ? If you think that’s extreme look at the the events leading up to the holocaust.

5128gap · 01/09/2024 10:19

It would be entirely workable, as has been demonstrated by lockdown. There would be provisions made so that those who had to work could go there and back, but only for those reasons. There would be fines for breaking curfew. As with lockdown there would be plenty of members of the public willing to act as prefects to report those breaking it. It wouldnt stop them all, but would make them visible and easier to apprehend. After the initial flutter of outrage, most men would settle to it and adapt. Particularly if the well intentioned were brought on board and convinced they were helping women. As we all were in Covid to help 'the vulnerable'. Many would come to see it as their heroic contribution to helping women be safer. Few go out every night, so they would make curfew the night they didn't. Media would take advantage and screen male centred entertainment etc. Meanwhile, while women obviously wouldn't be assured of not setting eyes on a man, they would know that pubs, cinemas, clubs, theatres etc would be free of men and their presence on public transport greatly reduced. To be clear, I don't support it for various reasons. But the idea its 'unworkable' isn't one of them.

SallyWD · 01/09/2024 08:30

WotsYourExcuse · 01/09/2024 00:56

Ironically, we'd probably see a greater decline in violence against men. Violence against women might actually rise as most of it happens at home. The abusive partner would be drinking at home rather than in the pub.

Good point. The vast majority of women are not attacked by strangers on the street.

WotsYourExcuse · 01/09/2024 00:56

RhubarbBarBarber · 28/08/2024 21:45

I’m a man and I'd happily stay at home one night a week if it meant women felt safe. But I don't see a way it could be workable.

Ironically, we'd probably see a greater decline in violence against men. Violence against women might actually rise as most of it happens at home. The abusive partner would be drinking at home rather than in the pub.

Tricho · 01/09/2024 00:55

Lol, you think the men who are evil enough to hurt women will be put off by a curfew because "oh i musnt break the rules"? They're not kids on supernanny. How naive.

WotsYourExcuse · 01/09/2024 00:52

CurlewKate · 21/08/2024 19:32

My problem is always that whatever is suggested people always leap to the defence of men. Even if somebody says "Men need to step up in their parenting and take some responsibility for how the next generation of men grow up" or "men need to call out other men on their sexist and misogynist behaviour or language" there is an instant chorus of " Well, all the men I know do this already!"

Tbf, people often complain about things done by a small minority of men. Like when they complain about femicide (which 99.99% of men don't commit) but then get annoyed when people say they don't know any men that do this.

Hateam · 29/08/2024 05:37

I think it's more of a thought experiment to highlight the issue more than a real suggestion.

As a thought experiment it's interesting and sheds light on the issues women face moving around in the dark.

As an actual suggestion, it's immoral, unworkable and totally bonkers.

BeachParty · 29/08/2024 00:44

RhubarbBarBarber · 28/08/2024 21:45

I’m a man and I'd happily stay at home one night a week if it meant women felt safe. But I don't see a way it could be workable.

Exactly, how does that even work?
Places relying on shift workers would be screwed.

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