Kids allowed to roam all over visiting house ?

We went to friends who have a 5 and 8 year old. When they played, they were in the whole house playing hide and seek.. as in under parents bed. We then accepted this would happen at ours too! We would rather they didn’t but knew keeping an eye on them was pointless! I just ensured any items (ahem!) I didn’t want found, were hidden!

Years before this, my nieces and nephews emptied the full dirty linen basket down the stairs, I was mortified and annoyed!

Whilst it isn’t ideal, just be prepared! Going out the front though, no this is dangerous! Our friends lock the front door to stop theirs wandering!

No children shouldn't be roaming around. Some might want to , but for me it's not ok as im not going to child proof my whole house amd its not a free for all. If the parent didn't say anything, I would as its my home. It doesn't have to be confrontational .

A relative of mine who has a child with SEN allows her child to roam around other peoples houses and he throws stuff down the toilet like cosmetics etc.

he goes in the bedrooms and then throws stuff down the stairs and they break.

relative just thinks it’s funny.

she doesn’t come to mine after I charged her for things he’d broken and stood over her whilst she did me a bank transfer 🤣🤣

I've not experienced this. I do make sure children are entertained though, get some toys for them and involve them in interactions. Not many young children would just sit quietly in a room. It wasn't on you to entertain them when you have a newborn, their parents should have been doing it.

I cannot believe what I'm reading.

Child locks in houses without children for wandering visitors?

Children and teenagers entering bedrooms and looking in drawers?

Picking up toys and telling toddlers they can keep them?

I absolutely despair.

Allowing your children to just wander around is the absolute height of rudeness.

Asking to wander with them so they don't get fomo honestly isn't that much better. What if there was a toy/play room but not one they'd been invited to play in? What if the hosts don't want you going into a room and seeing all their underwear drying? What if they want to keep their sex dungeon private?

If you are visiting with your child then just bring some toys for them to play with on the floor. If they're at an age that's too hard then meet somewhere else like the park for a while until they're older?

hahah! Now I have Google’d - yes definitely has a very different meaning 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Yanbu my children were never allowed to do that and were made to sit and behave. To be honest, unless it was a siblings baby I never even took my kids to visit a newborn.

It caused much hilarity when visiting English grandmother informed room she was 'rooting' in her handbag for tissues...

I remember being a teen and my mum had friends with kids over and they were asking to see my bedroom. I thought this was well weird 😅

Off to Google this 😅

Yes, children are curious creatures and learn from experience.

In this case, the lesson they should be learning is manners, respecting privacy and boundaries.

My children are in their teens now, but when they were younger, they absolutely knew not to just wonder around other people's houses where we visited without permission and supervision.

I personally intervene, but sounds like these parents didn’t.

Correct.

This, absolutely this.. I'm mid fifties, my late Mother never allowed me to wander in other people's houses, you stayed near to Mother and didn't touch anything. This was absolutely the norm when I was young, I was the same when my Daughter was a child. I've known of folk dreading visits from people with meddlesome children 😕

It says as much about your visitors parenting style as the children.

They are a product of it.

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I laugh because rooting in NZ has a different meaning!

Bloody hell.

But my own kids need feeding so it’s hard not to? I’m like - errr it’s teatime now. Yesterday I didn’t cook because I didn’t want to encourage a guest to stay and ended up providing a snack because my kids were going swimming and needed something before they went. I was like “right time for us to get ready to go out…”

See OP, it's YOUR fault, you just haven't put in enough effort prior to these visits, shame on you OP, put that new baby down and go fit child locks and do a huge declutter. 🙄

Agreed. When mine were small, I remember other parents telling their DC off if they just asked for something! The done thing was to wait to be offered something, but we would always say ‘ of course you can have a biscuit/get the Lego out’ etc. Not one allowed their DC to go wandering around the house or helping themselves to snacks!

She sounds like someone who should entertain in her own home only, until she has a handle on her kid’s behaviour.
Imagine bringing a 7 year old who “won’t be told no” to run amok in someone else’s home?!

Oh please. You sound exactly like these useless parents who teach their kids no manners. Yanbu op, this is so damn rude and I would absolutely say something.

Depends a little on age. When mine were about 18months - 2 years they were wanderers. I'd have to give them my full attention to prevent it. So I'd usually check with my host what was ok. Lots of places I just wouldn't take them at that age because they would wander.

A friend of mine had had child who is hard work by nature. He's 7 and he still wanders everywhere. But she also had two younger ones, if she was monitoring the eldest she wouldn't be watching them or able to ever chat to anyone. When he comes, I lock the bottom stair gate and put furniture in front of things i don't want him to access. I also hide the TV remote as he simply won't be told no.

I am not surprised at the amount of feral parents in this country. Adults with no manners breed brats with no manners.

Not normal and very rude.