To send the screenshots

I wouldn't send screenshots. If she sees messages where you "said nothing until it's officially over between you and your wife" then it's hardly going to disabuse her of the notion that you're a "homewrecker", especially if she sees a decade of regular communication between you and her husband since you were last together.

Think you're best off leaving them be, clearly you're not good for each other.

Not one of you in this faux-threesome have covered yourselves in glory

I’d also normally say not to engage, but in this instance I would-

“Please see attached screen shots. I met your husband because he told me you were no longer together and were living apart. When I realised this wasn’t true, I refused to see him again.

I won’t be replying to further communication from either of you, whether in person or digital. Please stop contacting me. I will consider any further communication harassment and will be logging as such with the police.”

i don’t think you’ve handled this properly sorry

i would report her to the police

nothing you can say will stop her abusing you, the screenshots don’t matter. Don’t play into her silly games

Also I don’t think your explanation of the story paints you in a good light. You can simply say you asked him if his divorce was final and later messaged you and he said yes. Following this she abused you in person and threats via phone and you are worried about her acting on it.

Oh definitely send them.

I'd send a covering message saying you ended things as soon as you found out he was not actually separated at all, and that you want nothing more to do with him.

Send the screenshots

Send them. With a cover message like Blink suggested. Then block and be done.

I said I wouldn't go near him until he was definitely separated/divorced and communication went quiet.

If she has read his messages she might see this as you trying to break up their marriage. As in "leave your wife then I'll get with you" kind of thing.

You are in no way at fault here! You were/are single he lied. Send them darl, send them! I'm so petty that if wifey wants to go loud in a public area I'd be posting online too!

I also think send them, and say something like

”Dear Sue. You have every right to feel betrayed and angry, but I am not the one who cheated on you. I didn’t know Larry was still in a relationship when I started seeing him, and I ended it when I found out he was. I am angry and sorry we have both been treated like this by him. I am sending you some screenshots so that you can see that what I saying is true. I don’t want any further contact or drama, I will not be contacting Larry again and I wish you happiness in the future. Best wishes, Tallulah Von Hinkelhoffen.”

Too much drama.

Block both of them.

Yes send them

Yeah send her the screenshots, she can do what she wants with the truth. If she harasses you again then block her and possibly have a word with the police.

I'd send them, so she knows the truth, then block also contact local police, they might want to talk to her about harassment and malicious communications.

She didn't have to ask for proof.

Neither did she have to take it at face value that he was oh so conveniently single as well after a few weeks of her telling him that she was single.

I think at lot of us wouldn't have fallen for it.

Nice bit of victim blaming. What proof should she have asked for ?

I'd probably burn all my bridges and put it online and tag them both and tell them to sort their drama out instead of dragging me into it in a pub slanging match and leave me out of it. Leave it up for a few hours then take it down.

Usually I think it's not worth entertaining their drama but considering this woman behaved as she did in public and now sending you year threatening messages I would send her the screenshots and then block both her and the man.

Really, don't engage with this woman. Her husband will only tell her you've doctored the screenshots or whatever, and then there will be more drama. It's understandable she's upset but the sort of person who creates a scene in a public place and bombards you with messages is the sort of person who enjoys a row and wants to turn her life into a soap opera; you don't want to be a character in her latest 'EastEnders' episode.

Do you need or want all this drama in your life op he`s not worth it.
Block all of them and move on.

I would've shown her the screenshot in the bar and apologised for believing her scumbag husband.

I would definitely send her the messages now and share with any mutual friends as I'm sure they will have spread rumors about you.

She deserves to know he's the liar and homewreckers. You did nothing wrong. I find it odd that others find it odd you kept in touch. I've kept in touch with men I've dated- just because they weren't the love of my life doesn't mean I don't want to be mates with a couple of them!

With behaviour like hers, she deserves nothing.

To be honest on this situation I’d not stand for that,and send the screenshots. No comment. Just send the images.