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Wedding guest dress

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Shiningstarr · 19/08/2024 09:08

Family wedding next year.. seen this dress online that I love....

Would I be unreasonable to think this is ok for a wedding guest? Or is it too bridesmaidy?

ohelloclothing.com/products/phoebe-midaxi-dress-hot-pink

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KimberleyClark · 19/08/2024 10:50

BrendaSmall · 19/08/2024 10:47

May be ok for a wedding abroad where you’re guaranteed the hot weather, not sure about in the uk though as it’s not a dress that’s suitable to be worn with anything over it

Yes it would be fine for a beach wedding, and yes the shoulder shape means it would be difficult to wear anything over it, and a short shrug would look silly with those back straps anyway.

BluebellsareBlue · 19/08/2024 10:49

Bollox Brenda! Fire a wrap over the dress if it's cold.

I'd be going all out with this and going for a lime green wrap, shoes and bag (pink and green should never be seen my ass).

There is a lot of opportunity to stand out in a beautiful way with a contrasting colour of accessories

Crunchymum · 19/08/2024 10:48

Can you ask the bride / a bridesmaid? Get their take on it.

SnaccidentsHappen · 19/08/2024 10:48

I think it's lovely, perfect for a wedding

lavendermoonx · 19/08/2024 10:47

It’s beautiful and perfect for a wedding - the back is stunning!

I’m always confused by the ‘too much’ comments because where I’m from (Glasgowish), guests are expected to turn up dressed to impress. I wouldn’t wear most of the wedding guest dresses recommended on mumsnet to do the messages never mind a wedding.

BrendaSmall · 19/08/2024 10:47

May be ok for a wedding abroad where you’re guaranteed the hot weather, not sure about in the uk though as it’s not a dress that’s suitable to be worn with anything over it

Dassiee · 19/08/2024 10:46

buildersteacup · 19/08/2024 10:42

Then you'll get:

"Hmmm, not sure I'd personally show so much ankle- what if the bride's ankles arent that great? wouldnt want to draw attention to my slender beautiful ankles, might make the bride feel shit about herself on "her" day- have some thought for others"

😆

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To be honest, I was thinking moreso the elbows. People might think the guest has been so disrespectful towards the brides elbows if they wore my suggestion 🤣

BluebellsareBlue · 19/08/2024 10:45

@BrandNewHeretic I know!!! Absolutely unbelievable!! In fact it's shocking, especially the comment regarding attention seeking, that's heading all the way back to r*pe and blaming the woman's choice of attire.

It's really really bad. I can only think that these posters actually do want people to not have any self esteem. If I was younger and had the figure for this (and not have massive boobs that need a bra) then I'd be wearing the hell out of that dress!!

Illpickthatup · 19/08/2024 10:45

I think it's lovely. Not bridesmaidy at all or attention seeking. Weddings are supposed to be a happy occasion, a celebration of love. I don't know why people have such a problem with a bright colour. I went to a wedding recently and wore lime green. There were quite a lot of people who looked like they'd just rolled out of bed and put on the first thing in their wardrobe. A lot looked like the were just going to a BBQ or for a pub lunch.

It's gorgeous! I'd go for it!

buildersteacup · 19/08/2024 10:42

Dassiee · 19/08/2024 10:06

It's usually even more entertaining when posters start showing you suggestions instead of the one you've asked about, like this... (totally opposite to what you've shown).

https://images.app.goo.gl/MbNkqa2Y1JnJTAgv7

Then you'll get:

"Hmmm, not sure I'd personally show so much ankle- what if the bride's ankles arent that great? wouldnt want to draw attention to my slender beautiful ankles, might make the bride feel shit about herself on "her" day- have some thought for others"

😆

EC22 · 19/08/2024 10:41

I like it a lot. I’d wear it.

BluebellsareBlue · 19/08/2024 10:40

ComtesseDeSpair · 19/08/2024 09:51

I wasn’t aware that women’s upper backs and shoulders were considered so dangerously alluring as to be attention-seeking if shown. I think it’s a great dress, nice length, and unless the bridesmaids are also wearing hot pink can’t think how you’d be confused with one at all.

Absolutely this!!!!

BluebellsareBlue · 19/08/2024 10:40

LoneHydrangea · 19/08/2024 09:47

I think it’s way too much for a guest.

Soooo too much for a wedding guest? Where would this be acceptable to wear then and in what circumstances?

BrandNewHeretic · 19/08/2024 10:39

BluebellsareBlue · 19/08/2024 10:37

Where the hell else would you wear it then?!? Tesco? What do you mean "do you not like the bride?" What kind of comment is that?!?

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If you read her follow up post, apparently that was her being polite!

Dassiee · 19/08/2024 10:38

BluebellsareBlue · 19/08/2024 10:37

Where the hell else would you wear it then?!? Tesco? What do you mean "do you not like the bride?" What kind of comment is that?!?

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A typical MN one 🤣

BrandNewHeretic · 19/08/2024 10:38

Dassiee · 19/08/2024 10:06

It's usually even more entertaining when posters start showing you suggestions instead of the one you've asked about, like this... (totally opposite to what you've shown).

https://images.app.goo.gl/MbNkqa2Y1JnJTAgv7

😂

BluebellsareBlue · 19/08/2024 10:38

KimberleyClark · 19/08/2024 09:46

Way too attention seeking.

What do you mean?? Because of the clothes she is wearing she is looking for attention??!? So if she was subjected to attention she didn't want it's because of the clothes she was wearing?? Do you see how that sounds?!?

BluebellsareBlue · 19/08/2024 10:37

Wahine24 · 19/08/2024 09:44

It's a strong choice for a wedding with that back detail, do you not like the bride? I wouldn't worry about it being too bridesmaid-y !

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Where the hell else would you wear it then?!? Tesco? What do you mean "do you not like the bride?" What kind of comment is that?!?

BluebellsareBlue · 19/08/2024 10:36

Oh god listen to the ones that wear a sack to a wedding? "It's too look at me". Oh be quiet!!
OP this is a lovely dress, it's not too much and not too bridesmaid like. It's perfect for a wedding, especially if it's a summer wedding.

Those that are saying it's too much are clearly those that are jealous they couldn't carry this off.

Weddings are where you wear you best and most beautiful clothes because that's often the only time people do get to go all out! That's why dresses like these are for sale! Races and weddings etc.

Go for it!

velvetcoat · 19/08/2024 10:35

Dassiee · 19/08/2024 10:06

It's usually even more entertaining when posters start showing you suggestions instead of the one you've asked about, like this... (totally opposite to what you've shown).

https://images.app.goo.gl/MbNkqa2Y1JnJTAgv7

😂😂😂

Yes!

BluebellsareBlue · 19/08/2024 10:33

It's lovely!! Not too bridrsmady

Purplecatshopaholic · 19/08/2024 10:31

Gorgeous dress. Totally fine for a wedding - I would defo wear that. You will get/already have got the weird MN ‘rules’ about wedding guest attire though…. Only possible reason there might be an issue is if bridesmaids are wearing the same colour. If not, defo go for it, you’ll look fabulous.

EliflurtleAndTheInfiniteMadness · 19/08/2024 10:29

I love it. If a guest at my wedding had worn it I'd probably have asked her where I can get one.

DrRiverSong · 19/08/2024 10:28

I think it’s lovely. Really don’t see the problem as long as you aren’t in the same colour as the bridesmaids!

DoopSnoggySnogg · 19/08/2024 10:25

After reading replies I was expecting something Jodi Marsh esque 🤣

It’s a lovely, summery, sweet dress. If any guest had worn it at my wedding I wouldn’t bat an eyelid other than to say it looks fab.

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