Wedding guest dress

Unless the bride and groom are aristocracy, I think OP will be fine 🤣

Different circles then... Only OP knows her own circles. In mine a guest wearing that would be laughed at.

From Debrett's:

Dress smartly and avoid showing too much flesh

Wear the dress! It’s lovely and I’d love to be able to wear it.

I’ve never understood why it’s not ok to like attention or to ‘dress to impress’ at a wedding. They’re ALL about getting glammed up and wearing your finery in my circles.

I will say my mother did remark "lots of these dresses look a bit bridesmaid-y. It must be the fashion now" at a recent wedding. They were all fairly normal dresses 🤣

And I don't get the whole thing about "avoiding the bridesmaid dress colours". I've had one wedding where the bride specified "the bridesmaids are in royal blue so we ask you to avoid that". Otherwise I've had no idea until the wedding what they were even wearing!

I’m always curious what “being mistaken for a bridesmaid” would look like in practice. Surely it’s abundantly clear by the point you’re not walking behind the bride down there aisle. Or you just say “oh no, I’m not in the wedding party, I think the bridesmaids are all on that table over there.” It’s not as if you’re going to be wordlessly hauled out of your pew, and co-opted into holding the bride’s bouquet and veil whilst thinking “FML, should have worn the grey trouser suit instead.”

I just think there's an etiquette to wedding attire and this falls outside of it.

Which obviously makes me a miserable, sack-wearing, pearl-clutching old bag so don't listen to me and wear it if you like it :)

It’s fine. I’d have been happy for you to wear that at my wedding.but I specifically told my female guests that I wanted them to wear something they’d really love and that ideally I’d have put a black tie dress code on the invitations so feel free to go along those lines.

So if the bride hadn’t already indicated then I’d ask her if she had an atheistic in mind. Not everyone wants their guests in safe boring pastel knee length dresses with a hat on.

(yes I am aware that the pink dress is not black tie)

The dress is stunning! And in my world you can’t be over dressed for a wedding, it’s literally the place to get really dressed up. In my experience, no bride in real life worries about being outdone, that’s a MN thing. In reality, on my wedding day I was wearing a white dress, tiara and stunning shoes, had my hair and make up done and had more than enough attention, I was happy for my guests to look lovely! Wear the dress OP.

I think that’s a beautiful dress and a gorgeous colour.

I think it's lovely - I would have been fine with someone wearing this to my wedding

I'm dundee and exactly the same opinion!!

I asked about a dress for a wedding last year and was told I'd be mistaken for a bridesmaid (of which there were none).

The dress was complimented so many times and even staff asked where I got it, I only asked on here as I'm booby and wanted suggestions on how to make it less so. You should have read some of the comments, inappropriate for a wedding etc. then some fellow Scots appeared MF tried to explain how we dress to impress at weddings!!

They would have had a fit if they had seen the dress I wore to a wedding last month! 😂 looks silky like a nighty and way too bridesmaidy lol!!

I think it’s stunning and assume you would look stunning in it which is why I presume you’re getting the shitty comments. Don’t choose something you look crap in to appease others.

Dh’s family dressed like tramps for our wedding (they didn’t agree with us being together) and I was actually shocked when I turned up and saw them all. Surely any couple want their guests to look amazing, I did!
I always make an effort for my friends weddings, buy a new outfit specifically for the occasion, it’s an opportunity to dress up and look your best as opposed to my usual jeans and a t shirt daily look while chasing my toddler around! I love a wedding and getting all dressed up, it’s part of the fun of the day.

Buy the dress OP

Love it 🤣🤣

And yeah @KimberleyClark you've totally missed the point. We said it's what USUALLY happens on these threads.

When you try it on, get a picture of the back when you’re sitting down. The back needs to be tight enough to keep the front in place, so I’d want to make sure it didn’t make my back look like a Sunday roast.

That's a beautiful dress. It probably depends on where in the country the wedding is / your family is from as to whether showing so much back is normal at a wedding.

Missing the joke there but ok

@Shiningstarr

Wow! That's stunning! If you can carry that off, then bloody good for you - go for it! (As long as its not the bridesmaid colour!) I'd possibly add a pretty shawl for the day, unless it's boiling hot weather.

Oh but you can't point out that trying to police women's clothing is bordering on victim blaming and the "well dressed like that. She was asking for it really". Because that's just your internal misogyny showing.

Except no one has done this on this thread.

It's gorgeous. I think whether it's acceptable for you to wear is entirely down to a few things including.... and I hate to say this, but your age.

I've not read the full post, so not sure if your age or any other of the below factors have been mentioned but I would say the dress is acceptable if

a) you're younger than 30 and the majority of the guests will be as well. You'd also need to consider how the dress looks on YOU - not the model. Two different people can wear the same dress and have drastically different looks when it's on. Different body shapes, accessories, even hair styles etc can make a dress look trashy or classy. Some people may not agree, but it happens.

b) often friend groups share similar taste in style and also what is acceptable. Chances are if you're considering wearing something like that others may be too. Do you know any other guests you could consult outfits with?

c) the venue, while this would be perfectly acceptable for a destination wedding in Italy, it wouldn't really be a great option for a rustic barn venue in the U.K.

Maybe we start the opposite and suggest worse dresses 🤣

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I'm LOL-ing at the part if you scroll down and it says "Goes well with". Usually you might see a handbag or shoes or even a hair fascinator but this one has nipple covers! I'm sorry but that tickled me this morning 😆

True- elbow jealousy can ruin a person 😆

OP- wear the dress- its gorgeous!

Ita lovely, as long as it's not the same colour as the bridesmaids