Wedding guest dress

No but I think there’s a sweet spot that isn’t frumpy but is still elegant.

Yes the criss cross does look uncomfortable and makes me think of those cuts of trussed meat that are bound with meat netting/twine for a pot roast.

For me the dress has too much going on to look elegant. I think off the shoulder can look nice, backless can look nice, short can be elegant, slits are fine, ruffles can be ok. Never sure about midriff cut-outs if I’m honest. But I think when you start throwing several ( or sometimes even just more than one) of these at a dress it’s over-complicated. What is it about weddings that seem to make women lose their fashion compass ?

I would dress a bit frumpy to please a friend getting married, if that would make her happy

hahaha! This is the biggest load of garbage.

I have seen all sorts of fabulous/daring/sexy dresses at wedding- both high end designer and high street, I've been to obscenely expensive lavish expensive weddings and informal beach ones. They were all splendid happy occasions. Not once have I ever heard or seen anyone dress "frumpy" on purpose.

Nor have I ever heard of a bride so cripplingly insecure that she specifically asked her friends to dress like the late queen mother.

That’s not really how wedding etiquette works though - although I appreciate where you are coming from.

Wow, saying the dress looks “slutty” or that you’d have to “be thin to wear it”. Or dressing “frumpy” to “please the bride”!

I don’t know what planet all those posters are from, but I glad I don’t live there.

I don't think it's attention seeking. It's a gorgeous dress. Go for it.

If it makes your friend happy for you to dress frumpy at her wedding, she's a shitty friend.

These are my opinions and mine alone. No, I'm not a pearl clutching old bag. Just a dressmaker.

It's a dress that is trying to be pretty but failing.
It's too much.
It's cheap looking.
It's also made of cheap fabric. Zoom in.

I've had a look through the wedding guest dress category on that website.

You need to be very careful. The cut of their dresses is a bit off in general.
They don't even flatter the models for the most part. You run the risk of opening the box to find you are very disappointed.

You suspect the bride probably won't like you showing up in that or you wouldn't be asking. It depends how well you like her, if you're willing to risk upsetting her on her wedding day and possibly losing the friendship.

You can ask here but none of us know her and won't be there to back you up if she goes Tonto on you.

We all fall in love with an item of clothing, occasionally, that we convince ourselves is ideal just because we love the idea of it so much but it ends up more trouble than it's worth.

You just have to weigh up if your feelings matter more than the potential feelings of the bride.

Me, I wouldn't risk upsetting a friend over a dress. I would dress a bit frumpy to please a friend getting married, if that would make her happy.

I cannot believe the comments on here

it’s lovely. I think it’s absolutely fine!! If you can’t dress up for a wedding when can you?

sounds like most people will have you in a bin bag on here!!

I love it!!!

I hope everyone at my wedding felt absolutely gorgeous and wore clothes that made them feel confident and sexy.

She said circles. If you're going to quote her, you should.

Not that I give a fuck.

The mods asked you to drop this a while ago.

Can't you start your own thread called "Arguing with a total stranger for some reason" and let the rest of read about dresses?

I think it's lovely for a wedding. Is the bride known to be a bridezilla though? I only say this because of some of the responses so far.

I only cared that people had a good time at my wedding, I wasn't arsed that someone might 'steal my thunder' or whatever.

sorry I think that sounded snarky of me when it really wasn’t meant to. My point was directed at those accusing you of trying to show off, or whatever. No one ever accuses a man in a great suit of trying to upstage the groom, do they.

people will care much more about seeing the bride and groom and the events of the day. Your outfit is a great opportunity for you to feel good and have a nice day, it doesn’t affect them.

OP I think it’s a gorgeous dress and you’ll look lovely.

I think it’s practically impossible to upstage a bride at her wedding, everyone is there presumably out of great affection for the bridge and/or groom, and so whilst I’m sure people will think you look great, their main focus will be on the happy couple so it really doesn’t matter what you wear as long as you make an effort to look smart in my opinion.

I thought it was fine until I saw the back. It makes it look a bit slutty and cheap

So yeah, the criss cross stringy thing looks uncomfortable and a bit home made - like someone thought ooh this dress isn't going to get enough attention, what can I add? The colour is unappealing, the ruffles are like a teenager's idea of a pretty outfit - overall the dress is just a bit ick and has 1980s prom dress vibes.

But you could get away with it if you really want.

There's no issue with that backless dress in church unless it's a highly Catholic church maybe

YABU to ask here and not in Style and Beauty.

Glad you agreed many pages ago that it isn't really appropriate. It is, as was said pages ago attention seeking and really isn't a good choice for a guest.

Most weddings these days are not church weddings. I’m sure most brides getting married in a church would not wear a backless dress. A strapless gown is a lot less revealing than the dress in the OP.

I’m afraid I’m not too sure if this one either. Because the midriff gap is only on one side, it looks to me as thought it ripped when the model hoisted it up over her shoulder .

But then I’m a very simple dress kind of person.

I like it as long as your slim and toned.

I would wear it with a jacket or a wrap during the ceremony.

I think it’s the back plus the midriff plus the flowers all over the shoulders.

One of those on its own might be fine.

It reminds me a little of when little girls dress themselves up and have bows on their shoes and frilly socks and frilly hem and sparkle cardigan and hair bows all at once. It all just adds up to a bit much when it’s supposed to be someone else’s day. If you love it op buy it and get your Dp to take you somewhere fancy for your birthday: it’s more that vibe I think .

I agree hebe, but the fact dotto is 1, calling me obtuse in a post and 2 blatantly lying in another has really got mine, and other l posters goat!

Nope. Your doing it again.

You know full well that by saying your circle would laugh at her, that whether you laugh or not, your just as bad for encouraging that behaviour.

I'm incredibly confused as to why you are so adamant you never said that your circle would laugh at her.

You are part of your circle and just as bad as them regardless of whether you actively laugh, because you allow their behaviour to continue.