Wedding guest dress

Steady on! What will MNers do if you wipe out one of the more entertaining genres of thread? There’s nothing better than needing to reach for the smelling salts after clicking on the photo link of a “ is this too revealing/ tacky/ inappropriate/ attention-seeking for a wedding?” There is one thread atm with an autumn wedding dress that is so appropriate and lovely that the whole thing fell rather flat. We all had to be very complimentary.

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Beautiful dress and perfect for a summer wedding , but it

Got married a week ago and someone wor a very similar dress to our wedding. They looked amazing.

Honestly as long as it isn't the same as the bridesmaid dresses and isn't white go with what you feel amazing in. As a recent bride I can assure you those of us who are remotely reasonable couldn't give a fig what people choose to wear and we don't have tome to notice!

It’s lovely!

I still think it’s too much - bare bits at side, open back, ghastly frills, laces and bright pink to boot. I note it’s 100% polyester, so reckon it will look cheap. Polyester always looks cheap.

Unless you’re really extremely slim and toned, there are lots of areas for fat to poke out of.

Judge away 🤣

Post a pic and we can check! 🤣

What is it with the UK and wedding guest dresses. Why are guests not allowed to look nice too? Its a big occasian so surely everyone should dress up if they wish. Avoid white and bridesmaids colours and wear whatever you like

That dress is stunning

You said it..

But yeah that does sound tacky

My wedding dress was low cut, sleeveless, backless, with cut outs. I must be a classless heathen. 🤣

I was just thinking the same! Can't see how it's attention seeking at all! I'm getting married in November and I couldn't care less what my guests come in as long as it's not white!

Yeah it's about overall look not exactly what is and isn't covered

This dress is sleeveless, low cut, with extra cut outs and completely backless

A bit different to long sleeves, high necked and backless.

Also often backless wedding dresses are worn with a veil in church

I think long sleeves and a long skirt balance it out. It’s not the back that’s the problem; it’s when there’s bits of everything chopped away: back, midriff, cleavage. It sounds as though your friend’s was long sleeved and covered at the front, so that’s quite different.

Is it a church wedding? If yes, would need to wear a jacket or cardigan in the church, to be respectful
Do you know the colour scheme yet?
We did our invites in our colour scheme as a hint to the colour the bridesmaids would be in.

My friends dress was long sleeve, covered at the front and completely backless. Absolutely gorgeous and a church wedding but no doubt everyone on here would be offended by the back being on show.

It seems backs are as offensive as ankles used to be. Oh the horror!

@Calliopespa are you being deliberately obtuse? Of course I am aware of that. You shouldn't wear Ed either. Honestly you need to give it a rest now

Very well put.

The thing is, if a person doesn't think there is any issue with an outfit, why would they ask strangers on the internet if it is appropriate or not ? There must, already be doubts.

Absolutely this.
The wedding I was at most recently didn't have a religious element. Nobody was 'prim' (there were - as far as I am aware - 4 people in their 80s, but all very positive, forward looking people), but nobody wore anything like the dress the OP is asking about.

I could see the laci g looming nice with that soft skirt if they had ditched the ruffles and cut outs and it was in a more sober colour- maybe a midnight navy.

According to the link it does also come in yellow and in forest green, which might have been a bit better.

Actually there is an etiquette code that you shouldn’t wear anything to “ upstage” the bride. Usually this means not wearing white or anything too much like a wedding dress. I’m not sure how you haven’t heard of this?

@PussInBin20 you can "roll your eyes all you like". I've never heard such rubbish! The only dress that should be admired is the bride. Absolute tosh! Have you listened to yourself?!? I was asked recently at the wedding I was at where I got my dress and complimented numerous times by other women, a couple of years ago even two of the staff at the event asked where I'd got my dress.

Should I be hanging my head in shame that others admired what I wore?!? I was no where near upstaging the bride I was just wearing beautiful dresses that suited me!! Get a grip ffs!!! 🤦‍♀️

Yes it does get a bit tedious when an op posts for advice and then everyone gets noses out of joint if people say actually it isn’t really appropriate.
The problem in my opinion with this dress is there is just way too much going on. It’s a bold colour, it has ruffles, midriff cut outs and then a complicated lacing back feature. Any one of those is sufficient as the feature of a dress. I could see the laci g looming nice with that soft skirt if they had ditched the ruffles and cut outs and it was in a more sober colour- maybe a midnight navy. And the ruffles are ok ( probably in the pink still) without the cut outs and the laced back . And so forth. But altogether it is too unrestrained, which is why I think posters are saying it’s too “look at me.” It’s as if every attempt to attract attention has been thrown at the design gif fear there might be one angle from which the dress blends in with the crowd. It’s nothing to do with nonsense about wanting op to have low self esteem which is really just a manipulative attempt to stop people pointing this out. To me it’s more just poor taste to not know when to stop with the frills and features.

the very conservative wedding of a religious and modest couple with a lot of prim elderly guests

I really don't think a wedding has to be as you describe for a dress like this to be inappropriate.

I have been to many weddings, none conservative, none with lots of prim and elderly guests but none which had guests dressed like this.