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Neighbours on holiday and left dog in house

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PrimaryBufferPanel · 19/08/2024 04:20

And the poor bloody animal has been crying and barking for 24 hours. She has the occasional rest but it’s pretty much constant other than that. They have form for this: worst before this recent episode was leaving the poor dog crying for 12 hours straight when they went out one time. That wasn’t the only time but was previously the worst.

They were reported and notified so they know their dog has separation anxiety. Yet this morning in the early hours the entire family fucks off on holiday - must be a holiday as they all had suitcases - and since they left, that poor dog has been crying.

Someone came in for around twenty minutes earlier today to let the dog in the garden and presumably to feed her. But then they fucked off and since then just non stop crying interspersed with barking. it’s honestly NOT annoying me - it’s making me feel so sad for the dog.

Given they had suitcases this has got to be for at least a week, I know the dog will be fed and let out for twenty minutes a day but it’s so clearly in distress! What would you do? Anything?

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DBSFstupid · 20/08/2024 21:18

oakleaffy · 20/08/2024 21:06

It's terrible how some people should just not have animals {Or children}
Animals and children are so dependent on their people.

Met a lovely woman who said her daughter has a rescue Lurcher who had been treated very badly, and it has taken months to get her to settle-
Traumatised animals, or unsocialised ones sometimes never fully 'recover'.

A Whippet rescued in Australia had never been out of his crate- for over a year.
{Hoarding situation} - he was afraid of people as they had never been a positive thing in his life. He was terrified of EVERYTHING, having only ever seen the bare walls of an outbuilding through a cage.

His experienced adopter just couldn't get him to come out of his shell- in the end, he met up with a female Whippet from the same hoarding situation- they think she could have been his mother- and the two of them now live together.

He will never probably trust people.

Animal hoarding is abuse. Women seem to do this, while in Spain, it's the men hunting that's more of a problem.

Just hell for so many dear creatures. ( and children)

You are correct - my terrier was used for hunting - taken from her mother at just 4 weeks.

Absolute monsters.

cavalier · 20/08/2024 21:08

Grammarnut · 20/08/2024 17:43

It isn't.

It is … the dog needs 24 hour care …end of

oakleaffy · 20/08/2024 21:06

DBSFstupid · 20/08/2024 20:52

Thanks for this oakleaffy, it is so shocking isn't it.

I have a terrier - rescued from a terrible life in Spain. She is adorable but will never be completly ok due to her experiences there. I loathe the people that abused her.

Best wishes.

It's terrible how some people should just not have animals {Or children}
Animals and children are so dependent on their people.

Met a lovely woman who said her daughter has a rescue Lurcher who had been treated very badly, and it has taken months to get her to settle-
Traumatised animals, or unsocialised ones sometimes never fully 'recover'.

A Whippet rescued in Australia had never been out of his crate- for over a year.
{Hoarding situation} - he was afraid of people as they had never been a positive thing in his life. He was terrified of EVERYTHING, having only ever seen the bare walls of an outbuilding through a cage.

His experienced adopter just couldn't get him to come out of his shell- in the end, he met up with a female Whippet from the same hoarding situation- they think she could have been his mother- and the two of them now live together.

He will never probably trust people.

Animal hoarding is abuse. Women seem to do this, while in Spain, it's the men hunting that's more of a problem.

BetFreda · 20/08/2024 21:00

DonnaBanana · 19/08/2024 09:38

I just went away for a week and left my cat outside. Came back he’s happy as Larry. Animals can adapt if you let them after all they come from nature.

That’s so irresponsible. I hope your cat moves in with someone else. In fact that’s probably happening if he’s “as happy as Larry” after being locked out for a week. Some other kind person will be feeding him.

DBSFstupid · 20/08/2024 20:52

oakleaffy · 20/08/2024 20:46

It really was.

I offered {as did others} to walk the poor dog {We used to pass the scrap yard to get to the fields, so it was no hardship to take another dog with us}

He was such a sweet, friendly puppy - but as he matured, he developed {unsurprisingly} a fierce streak where his only ''activity'' was lunging and snapping at the end of his chain at passer~by.

Prior to the Collie X, they had a 'loose terrier', a JRT X who used to bite {He nipped my heel once} but this dog was run over, hence the chaining of the Collie X.

At least the Terrier could run up the track - he was a menace, but had a better life than the poor Collie.

Thanks for this oakleaffy, it is so shocking isn't it.

I have a terrier - rescued from a terrible life in Spain. She is adorable but will never be completly ok due to her experiences there. I loathe the people that abused her.

Best wishes.

oakleaffy · 20/08/2024 20:52

YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 20/08/2024 20:38

Well I'm sure the statistics exist somewhere but faulty electrics, space heaters, sunshine reflection, it happens.

Anyway I was being a bit flippant in just mentioning fire, but it just feels risky and wrong to me, I would never do that with my dogs and I remember being amazed the first time I heard someone doing that (naive I'm sure). I just thought house sitters or kennels was a given. My dog would definitely be very distressed if someone wasn't in the house overnight.

As for the dog alerting the neighbours, if it's been barking all hours anyway I don't think that's going to help!! The fire alarm might be audible outside but it likely wouldn't be. I just can't see why you'd take the risk.

I've just got back from house sitting a very aloof cat!
She stayed upstairs and barely ventured out from under the bed, or behind the loo- but after a few days she trusted me enough to come for a head rub.

{she has form for this, as was a feral born kitten}

But even though she's wary, her people say she would like knowing there was someone in the house with her, aside from feeding , watering and litter tray duty.

Neighbours on holiday and left dog in house
oakleaffy · 20/08/2024 20:46

DBSFstupid · 20/08/2024 20:23

How absolutely disgusting and heartbreaking.

It really was.

I offered {as did others} to walk the poor dog {We used to pass the scrap yard to get to the fields, so it was no hardship to take another dog with us}

He was such a sweet, friendly puppy - but as he matured, he developed {unsurprisingly} a fierce streak where his only ''activity'' was lunging and snapping at the end of his chain at passer~by.

Prior to the Collie X, they had a 'loose terrier', a JRT X who used to bite {He nipped my heel once} but this dog was run over, hence the chaining of the Collie X.

At least the Terrier could run up the track - he was a menace, but had a better life than the poor Collie.

YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 20/08/2024 20:38

Itsmells · 20/08/2024 20:07

How many unmanned houses spontaneously combust?

Well I'm sure the statistics exist somewhere but faulty electrics, space heaters, sunshine reflection, it happens.

Anyway I was being a bit flippant in just mentioning fire, but it just feels risky and wrong to me, I would never do that with my dogs and I remember being amazed the first time I heard someone doing that (naive I'm sure). I just thought house sitters or kennels was a given. My dog would definitely be very distressed if someone wasn't in the house overnight.

As for the dog alerting the neighbours, if it's been barking all hours anyway I don't think that's going to help!! The fire alarm might be audible outside but it likely wouldn't be. I just can't see why you'd take the risk.

DBSFstupid · 20/08/2024 20:34

Autumnismyfavouritetimeofyear · 20/08/2024 20:16

I cannot think of a dog which would not be severely distressed by being alone for so long - we seriously need to up welfare standards in this country. For a social animal, this is horrendous.

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PracticalLady · 20/08/2024 20:33

I would ask whoever is feeding the dog if I could take the dog in for the duration of the holiday. Be honest and say you can hear it crying and it is distressing for both you and the dog. I would have to do this for the sake of that poor dog.

DBSFstupid · 20/08/2024 20:31

LlynTegid · 20/08/2024 19:32

I am reassured to read that your concern may have led to the dog being kept by the person who was feeding it.

The people who to all intents and purposes abandoned the dog without proper care I wish could be banned from going on holiday, at least abroad, for a period of time.

I wish they would be banned from ever owning another animal. For life.

DisabledDemon · 20/08/2024 20:26

I hate people like this. When we got a dog in 2016, he was a rescue dog with severe separation issues. Now, we can leave him if we go out for, say, half a day but there's no way that we would leave him and go off on holiday - in fact, we haven't gone away on holiday since then as he would be so distressed and he doesn't travel well in the car.

You buy a dog, you buy a life - not a toy. Some people need a sharp reminder of this.

DBSFstupid · 20/08/2024 20:23

oakleaffy · 19/08/2024 10:36

That's really awful.
Poor poor dog.

Surely they are breaking noise laws? The noise of the barking would really disturb me- barking dogs , especially an abandoned dog is very distressing.

RSPCA are useless- I have reported {as did many others} a dog chained up in a scrap yard -He was never walked, the RSPCA Chap said ''Dog has a barrel to shelter in, food and water- it's not illegal to keep a dog chained 24/7 365 days a year, unfortunately''

I offered to walk the dog so many times, it was refused.
He got more and more aggressive with frustration as the years went by, his chain polished smooth with dragging across the ground.

A Border Collie X.
A dog with that intelligence chained for life.

It was so bad.

How absolutely disgusting and heartbreaking.

Autumnismyfavouritetimeofyear · 20/08/2024 20:16

I cannot think of a dog which would not be severely distressed by being alone for so long - we seriously need to up welfare standards in this country. For a social animal, this is horrendous.

Pigwig10 · 20/08/2024 20:10

I cannot understand anyone who does this. We have a dog and 3 cats. When we go away we ensure the dog is looked after by friends of ours, at their homes, and they have doggy friends there too. The cats stay at home, they have a cat flap so can come and go as they please. We have a cat sitting service call twice a day to feed them, give fresh water, clean the litter tray if it’s been used and cuddle/play with the cats. They send us updates of every visit and photos. This is a much better arrangement than a cattery. Only sent them twice. Never, ever, again!!! The cats are happy and chilled when we return, they stank and we’re horribly stressed after the cattery. The dog sulks because he wants to stay with his mate 🤣🤣

OhmygodDont · 20/08/2024 20:09

YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 20/08/2024 20:05

It shouldn't be legal to leave a dog alone overnight. What if there was a fire?!

I mean the dogs more likely to alert the neighbours of an issue than a sleeping person. Then someone could smash the window.

Tho not many empty houses catch fire while someone’s on holiday. Unless maybe the dogs the arsonist. To serve them right for leaving him 😅

Itsmells · 20/08/2024 20:07

YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 20/08/2024 20:05

It shouldn't be legal to leave a dog alone overnight. What if there was a fire?!

How many unmanned houses spontaneously combust?

OhmygodDont · 20/08/2024 20:06

Itsmells · 20/08/2024 20:04

Haha yeah you often hear how pointless they are, bit like Nspcc for urchins.
I think the dog got moved a few pages ago didnt it but people dont read the updates.

yup far to hard to click see all.

I really do wonder how so many people think the rspca have actual legal powers.

They are a charity they have no more actual power to take an animal (without the police) than Doris down the road.

“The RSPCA is a registered charity (no. 219099) that relies on donations from the public. The RSPCA states that its mission as a charity is, by all lawful means, to prevent cruelty, promote kindness and to alleviate the suffering of animals.”

YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 20/08/2024 20:05

It shouldn't be legal to leave a dog alone overnight. What if there was a fire?!

Itsmells · 20/08/2024 20:04

OhmygodDont · 20/08/2024 20:02

I was just about to ask if anyone had mentioned the ZERO legal rights to enter or take the dog RSPCA.

Haha yeah you often hear how pointless they are, bit like Nspcc for urchins.
I think the dog got moved a few pages ago didnt it but people dont read the updates.

OhmygodDont · 20/08/2024 20:02

Itsmells · 20/08/2024 20:01

Its about time someone mentioned the RSPCA, can't believe nobody has yet.

I was just about to ask if anyone had mentioned the ZERO legal rights to enter or take the dog RSPCA.

Itsmells · 20/08/2024 20:01

Its about time someone mentioned the RSPCA, can't believe nobody has yet.

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helpplease01 · 20/08/2024 19:59

This in Animal cruelty . Call the RSPCA. They should not be allowed to have a dog!! FFS!!!
Corner the person who let it out, tell her you will take it to look after.
Then if you can’t look after tot, take it to the SPCA.
It make me feel sick!

cantbebothered101 · 20/08/2024 19:42

DonnaBanana · 19/08/2024 09:38

I just went away for a week and left my cat outside. Came back he’s happy as Larry. Animals can adapt if you let them after all they come from nature.

This is positively cruel, how did your poor cat eat. When we went away our cat had a microchipped cat flap so can come and go as she pleased. We had someone come into her three times a day as she missed us and I still felt guilty. Shame on you!

Grammarnut · 20/08/2024 19:34

JustCleaningtheBBQ · 20/08/2024 18:43

No pinching necessary @Grammarnut Barry the cat voted with his paws

Well, your cat had reason but feeding a neighbour's cat can be problematic (does anyone remember the picture book Six Dinner Sid?). My DS's cat voted with his paws when a neighbour fed him. Ten years later he turned up at a vet's badly nourished and thin and my exDiL was notified because he was microchipped. Luckily same phone number. Samcat came home to my DS and had 3 happy years with him before passing away this summer. Without doubt, Samcat had had an adventurous life but he was stolen by the neighbours. My DS and ex-DiL did not neglect him and he was the son of my cat, so it was very upsetting when he disappeared and no enquiries could find him.
But your cat was neglected. Who leaves their cat without someone to look after it when they go away? Hope your cat is happy with you and lives long.

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