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Over sensitive?

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spanieleyes22 · 18/08/2024 23:57

So I was at a wedding over the weekend. I didn't know anyone except the bride. In the bedroom next door was another single mother. Have to tell you boring background so as not to drip feed! Anyway long story short I think she sensed I was a bit
Nervous and she said don't worry I'll introduce you to everyone etc etc. just to say she abandoned me first chance she got on the wedding day. It was fine I talked to people etc etc. Then this morn there was a brunch at 11 and me and my ds were up and awake before her and her dd so we waited for them as we could hear them getting up. So we set off for the brek. It was buffet style so we both got some
Food and drink and sat down and I was ready for a chat but almost
Immediately she got up and took her plate and drink and said I'm
Going to sit over there. And she just went over to some other people and left me
Sitting there alone. I was hurt I can't lie. I had been kind to her over the couple of days-I gave her hayfever pills I listened to her talking about her recent illness and how difficult
She is finding her dd who's 15. I finished my brek and went back
To my room. Really wanted to have a little
Cry but didn't allow
Myself
To. Had been hard for me to talk to so many people I didn't know etc. anyway. I won't prob see her again for a v long
Time
If ever!!! AIB oversensitive

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spanieleyes22 · 19/08/2024 01:48

Aquamarine1029 · 19/08/2024 01:12

I don't think saying she abandoned you is fair, really. She wasn't there with you and wanted to do her own thing. She wasn't obligated to be connected at the hip.

Then this morn there was a brunch at 11 and me and my ds were up and awake before her and her dd so we waited for them as we could hear them getting up. So we set off for the brek.

I'm not trying to be harsh, but I think you really overstepped here. She didn't ask you to wait for her and her daughter, and she may really have not appreciated it. She didn't agree to join you for breakfast, so you really couldn't have expected her to sit with you.

Well I guess you're right. How mean of me to wait to go down to breakfast with her.

I still think she could have chatted to me
For the time it took to eat a bit of breakfast. I'm not that horrible!! Or she could
Have said come on let's sit with these people and included me.

I honestly had left her totally alone and free to
Do her own thing for the whole wedding I wasn't a bit clingy. She was the one who said to me don't worry I'll introduce you to everyone. And then totally ignored me. Wouldn't have killed her to introduce me
To the people
She was talking
To at the beginning of
The reception

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Aquamarine1029 · 19/08/2024 01:12

I don't think saying she abandoned you is fair, really. She wasn't there with you and wanted to do her own thing. She wasn't obligated to be connected at the hip.

Then this morn there was a brunch at 11 and me and my ds were up and awake before her and her dd so we waited for them as we could hear them getting up. So we set off for the brek.

I'm not trying to be harsh, but I think you really overstepped here. She didn't ask you to wait for her and her daughter, and she may really have not appreciated it. She didn't agree to join you for breakfast, so you really couldn't have expected her to sit with you.

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spanieleyes22 · 19/08/2024 00:35

Feel like she was very fake. Used me on the morning of the wedding and took me up on my offer to give her some hayfever pills and different little. Things like that. I was very kind to Her in the mprning of wedding.helping her with her hair and listening to her stories that were actually pretty boring ha ha

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spanieleyes22 · 19/08/2024 00:32

Yeh just to say I had my ds with me but never saw him as he was off with the other teens that were there. Also I wasn't a bit clingy to this woman. When we got to the reception and I realized she had no interest talking to me I just accepted it and didn't go near her for the rest of the day. Also to say she didn't know anyone either. Only the bride. Anyway yeh it's fine I'm fine.

Sometimes I think im too nice to people and they use me and walk all over me. Maybe it's better to be more aloof. Maybe people try harder with you then.

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NewName24 · 19/08/2024 00:23

What @IDontLoveTheWayYouLie said.

she obviously chatted to you over some of the weekend, but she presumably also wanted to catch up with people she knew. She wasn't there to look after you. You made the decision to accept the invitation without knowing many people, and you did have your dc with you, so weren't alone.

savethatkitty · 19/08/2024 00:20

Don't put your faith in strangers. She didn't know you, so chalk it up to experience.

Imtryingnottoworry · 19/08/2024 00:18

It sounds as though you did really well on the wedding day , talking to people. It's a difficult social.situation to be in when you only knew the bride .

You also went out of your way to be pleasant to this woman. But she wasn't up for reciprocating. Sounds as though she knew other people there and wasn't kind enough or polite enough to spend time with you. Some people are like that. I wouldn't take it personally OP. It's to do with her and her personality, not you.

Try and take the positives out of the wedding experience - the wedding day itself and the fact you handled a difficult social situation.

Charlieeeeee · 19/08/2024 00:13

So the bride left you or the single mother did? But you weren't alone, you were with your DS?

IDontLoveTheWayYouLie · 19/08/2024 00:03

I think it's difficult. You went knowing you didn't know anyone apart from the bride. The lady spent some time with you but probably didn't want to be stuck with a stranger/ one person all day and if by the sounds of it knew other people too.

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