Over sensitive?

its a little all over the place. You thought you were being nice waiting for her, so doing it for her, but then are so very upset she didn’t wish to sit with you and you felt she should habe introduced you to others. The latter doesn’t sound like you were waiting for her for her sake, but your own.

look, it’s horrible being socially anxious and at a social event not knowing anyone. Everyone gets that. And it was lovely you helped her out. But it doesn’t mean she owed you I’m afraid and she wanted to spend time with others before everyone left. You weren’t her responsibility I’m afraid.

well done on going, it’s hard even at the best of times if you don’t know anyone. Never mind if you struggle socially, but you got through it and your child had a great time. Count it as a win.

I'm confused, you said in an earlier post that she didn't know any others either

I think it was a bit rude to sit with you for breakfast then run off to another table. She could have just sat with the other people, or asked you to join, even if she found you too much.

The thing is not to get too emotionally invested in people you have just met. It’s very brave going to a big social event so well done for navigating that.

OP did engineer the meeting in the morning.. she was already up but she heard the woman getting up so she waited and left at the exact same time.. I'm not sure why you are getting upset about the wording?

I was replying to your post where you agreed with the pp post. It can be seen as a chain if you click on the ' quote history'.

And as for being 'parked' somewhere, OP - you're not a passive object and she wasn't driving you. If this was the problem, perhaps it's good that this marks a shift and you can take the wheel yourself in future, not leave it up to the likes of her.

We're always telling women on here to assert their boundaries. Well, this woman asserted hers and spent her free time with the people she wanted to spend it with. She shouldn't have raised OP's expectations with the initial comment but that's a classic mistake people make at the start of a social event - or even I remember at uni, people making friends initially with the wrong fit then finding their crowd and having to move on from the first lot. This like that but sped up. She thought you'd both be in the same boat, but then she swam off and it was up to the OP to find her own way. Which is fair enough, they weren't friends.

I don't think the other woman was rude at all, she wasn't responsible for you, it sounds like you latched on and she was desperate to get away....so she did. She didn't owe you anything, you didn't go together, there was nothing stopping you getting up and talking to other people when she left you.

Did you quote the wrong post? At no stage in my post did I even imply on the woman’s motivations, so I’m not sure how you can disagree on her motivations? Maybe edit or delete and quote the right post?

I disagree entirely. How on earth can any of us read the other woman's motivations in swerving the OP at breakfast? It's completely plausible that she is just rude, lacking in common decency and not very self aware. Nothing more, nothing less. The pp makes a lot of hyperbolic assumptions that the OP is ' needy', and made people feel stifled and awkward and desperate to get away. How can you make those claims based on one small interaction? Bit of a stretch if you ask me, and one designed to make the OP feel even worse than she does already.

You sound way too intense and I can see why she wandered off.
She was there also not knowing anyone and yet she eventually did! Why couldn't you do the same?
And why did you wait for her for breakfast? Surely you should have taken the hint after she moved on after the wedding.

The poster is right though. The op waited in her room listening for the woman to leave hers, then rushed out so she could go to breakfast with her, then decided the woman then had to sit with her, or take her with her if she sat elsewhere. The woman app Got no say in this,

Oh give over. All this talk of " engineering" and 'tactics' - it's breakfast, not a political summit to be navigated!

She could heave easily said oh let's sit here witb these guys. And then ignored me if she wanted.

She didn't want to sit with you OP! Or have you at the table making her feel awkward, or have to sit there ignoring you, she'd already ditched you the day before, she didn't want you there with her at all, she didn't ask you for breakfast or invite you to sit with her, you purposely engineered it so you were there at the exact same time as her and assumed you would sit together. IMO It's not mean, petty or rude of her to leave you there, it's just awkward, and it's only awkward because you didn't get the hint from the day before.

The way you are talking about 'bonding' with people kind of makes me think that you thought you would meet someone and automatically pair up with them for the weekend, and thought you'd hit the jackpot with another single parent, it really doesn't work that way at all, and that neediness would make most people feel uncomfortable or stifled or obligated, even if they acted nicely/politely towards you.. they'd be looking for an excuse to get away and you should have accepted that, you can't win them all.

You sound like you needed another adult to go with you to feel comfortable, it's not your fault, especially if you're not very social, but no one else at that event owes you anything just because you are on your own, you've either got to be a social butterfly and mingle, or accept that you may spend quite a bit of time on your own and planned accordingly.

Op to deliberately exclude you she needs to have been with yoy, she no more deliberately excluded you than any other guest. You were free to speak to whomever you wished, you were not there with her,. You seem to feel she was responsible for you?

One thing about life is - never expect everyone to like you or spend time with you.

This woman sounds a bit self centred, but don't give her - or the situation - a second thought. she's not a friend, just someone you met at a wedding.

Op she’s not your guardian or parent. She didn’t park you anywhere.

I think things are getting lost in the mix here. It WAS a shitty thing for her to walk off during breakfast and leave you sitting there alone, I can imagine how humiliated and hurt you would feel by this. I don't believe that behaviour can be justified at all - reasonable people with self awareness wouldn't do that to others as It's just rude! Anyone would feel slighted. On the other hand, I agree with others that she didn't ' owe' you her company as she is literally a stranger. By taking her at her word that she would introduce you to others etc you've ended up feeling disappointed and abandoned. Moving forward, never accept a strangers word or promises at face value OP, especially if you're prone to low self esteem, as when they don't deliver it will hurt like hell and you be left questioning your ' likeability '. You have got to build self resilience and confidence with a fake it til you make it attitude, so your happiness does not depend on another's kindness and you are comfortable in coping with any situation alone.