To suspect my neighbour killed my cat

So many disgusting opinions on here, condoning and supporting the brutal killing of a kitten.

OP I hope your neighbour gets his just desserts, one way or another.

This and…

OP, regardless of whether people like or dislike cats, the callous comments (although the vast majority are on your side) and that horrendous event itself, as long as both your family and your neighbour still live there, you and your DH need to come up with a robust plan on how you now deal with this neighbour day to day going forward.

You and your DH need to be joined up and consistent on this. E.g It’s no good you taking a stronger more abrupt stance with your neighbour if your husband then acts all friendly with him and goes and willingly agrees to comply with any requests he may have.

Just a suggestion, but somehow your family needs to get this person to a place where they’re far more impactfully distant and are causing far less upset and nuisance to you all.

Some of the posters on this thread are masters of victim blaming.

This man is a BAD neighbour. He’s persisting with a campaign of borderline harassment culminating in a possible illegal act.

Upsetting the OP, who is already sad about her cat, by berating her for failing to keep the cat in is not on. It’s the same principle as telling your teenage daughter not to wear a short skirt because a neighbour has been sexually harrasing her and she’d be asking for it.

Call him out on it and ask him. I wouldn't care less about offending him he sounds like a freak anyway... he was making passive aggressive comments to your 6 year old about their pet? Put him in his place.

"however it also isnt fair to expect people to have unwanted pets in their garden.
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Agreed. I don't see why this is such a controversial remark. I wouldn't want someone else's dog pooing in my garden so why is it acceptable for cats to wander where they like.

Well he sounds unhinged.

Personally, I'd be knocking on all the neighbours doors to ask if they saw anything and to ask them to check doorbell and camera footage; especially the 3 you mention in your post. I doubt very much if they'd mind checking through their footage for you; it takes seconds. If he has killed a cat before, it's likely he was responsible for the death of yours and probably likely to kill your other cat too, given the chance.

If someone provides you with footage, that's when you speak to the Police and start posting dog shit through his letter box.

I agree the neighbour sounds like a complete nightmare and I can sympathise with the OP seeing as I have a similar situation with my dogs.
But given as I doubt very much you will get anywhere with police unless you have actual footage of intentional cruelty being commited my main concern would be protecting my other cat and cat proofing ASAP.

Im going to repeat I love cats and hate any kind of animal cruelty (been vegan for many years) however it also isnt fair to expect people to have unwanted pets in their garden. Freedom to roam is a poor excuse IMO for subjecting your presumably much loved pet to potential harm.
I wouldnt just open the door and let my dog (or bird or rabbit, etc) just wander the neighbourhood so I dont see why cats dont get the same level of care.

You can believe that cats shouldnt be allowed to trespass where they arent wanted and also believe that the OPs neighbour is a POS who should be arrested.....the 2 arent mutually exclusive.

What a horrible comment. Regardless of whether you like them or not, they are living creatures and legally have the right to roam. Killing an animal like this is an offence. The man sounds dangerous and deranged. I wouldn't be leaving it, I'd be doing all I could to get proof and bring the fucker to justice.

You have to share this planet with all manner of creatures and many things that will inconvenience and irritate you. Doesn't mean you get to go around killing them ffs.

Thank you. Yep that meh emoji was the icing on the cake.

You'd have to have something really wrong with you to think like that. Maybe the OPs loony neighbour created an account.

I have unwatched this thread because I don't want to read anything sickening like that again.

Because the cat killer is human and should be held to our standards whereas cats aren’t human and can’t be held to our standards.
Not rocket science.

You beat me to it, well done. It was the shrug emoji that amplified my disgust.

”yeah he may have killed someone else's beloved pet brutally and broke the law but the pet was a nuisance so hey ho ~shrug”

let’s just deal with anything we find to be a nuisance in the same way eh.

This neighbour sounds fucking bonkers and seems to hate everything so no, I don't have any sympathy for him despite how much he begged and pleaded for OP not to get a cat. He sounds a massive control freak and I often wonder why bell ends like this choose to live in a street next door to others instead of locating themselves in an isolated field away from everyone else.

I am glad that callous comment was deleted.

The fact that he admits he has killed a cat before makes this quite likely in my opinion. I would ask about the doorbell footage sooner rather than later.

That's absolutely disgusting. I think you should try and get him prosecuted through the RSPCA.
Hell deny it no doubt the disgusting coward.
The police maybe should be informed.
I'm so sorry for your poor little kitten.

Every filthy POS on this thread who is in any way trying to minimise the slaughter of this cat should be reported to the police by Mumsnet.

These people are not safe to mix with normal humans, children or animals.

What a disgusting comment.
They really do walk among us

Reported for being a disgusting piece of filthy shit who minimises pet slaughter.

You fucking pig.

He almost certainly bashed her cat's head in.

He's slaughtered at least one cat before and boasted about it.

You haven't the faintest idea whether he has, in his decades of life, tortured and slaughtered other animals OR humans.

And I absolutely definitely DO know that animal slaughterers are linked to psychopaths.

Feel free to stay next door to lunatics who slaughter beloved pets when you have that option.

It is horrible to lose a pet and Im very sorry OP but it sounds like practically the first thing this neighbour did on meeting was inform you of how much he hated cats! In fact you state he 'begged you' not to get a cat.

In that case I would find it the responsible thing to do to make sure my cat was never able to set foot on his property or interact with him by cat proofing.
I love cats and have had many in the past. I also understand how annoying it is to have a neighbour like this (my dogs can no longer use our back garden because I cant trust my mentally unstable neighbour).

Its not fair to just expect somebody to put up with sonmebody else pet on their property potentially causing damage, killing wildlife or creating a health hazard by pooing all over their garden.
As I said I am an animal lover but it would be unfair to expect everybody to love my pets just because I do.....and if you allow cats to free roam you have to accept that they can could be injured, tortured, poisoned or killed (its very sad but also a fact of life).

Agreed. My neighbour's cat comes into my garden all the time and it's so upsetting when it grabs one of the goldfinches. People should not let their cats go into other people's gardens. I wouldn't let my dog run about pooing elsewhere or killing birds. Why should I have to put up with cats doing the same.

There is always a scale to consider.

Throwing a rock at a cat for example to make it leave your garden is abhorrent and a disgusting and inhumane thing to do but is not the same as the deliberate slaughter of animals for pleasure, which is what is associated with psychopaths and very dangerous people.

I doubt there is much chance of the neighbour progressing to murder of the local residents.

He sounds like a cruel bas as far as cats are concerned, but I wouldn’t be panicking about moving house, no and I wouldn’t worry about my own safety. I would however, be concerned for the safety of my remaining cat and would now choose to keep that one in.

So sorry about your cat