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Would you take the first step with this man or leave it be?

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Purelybecause · 18/08/2024 17:38

I have been single for a couple of years now (briefly dated). Anyway, there is someone on my social media that I am hugely attracted to and he reacts/likes my photos (the ones of just me) which has given me the idea that he may be interested too (he has made it obvious that he has gone through my photos and reacted/ liked a handful) and I was slightly expecting him to send me a message - he has not. We have never met before and live around 2hrs away. It is not often that I am this much attracted to someone as I am to him, he is just my type all over.
He is single as I have stalked gone through his social media.
Would you:

Take the step and send him message?
If so, what?

Or

Just leave it, if he was interested he would let you know?

Thanks in advance.

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Purelybecause · 18/08/2024 19:44

Should I reach out to him or not bother?
If so, what should I say?

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Purelybecause · 18/08/2024 18:26

I know he is genuinely who he is. I don't want to out myself but I will just say that i know of him from a distance before social media friends but have never actually spoken.

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MeAgainAndAgain · 18/08/2024 18:21

What’s your connection? How did you come to be Facebook friends?

Gwenhwyfar · 18/08/2024 18:15

No, because 2 hours away is too much for me.

SauviGone · 18/08/2024 18:06

How has he ended up as your Facebook friend or whatever on social media, if you’ve never met him and don’t know him?

How do you know he is the person in his profile picture?

Even if he is the person he claims to be on his profile, he probably does this to 100’s of women to see who bites.

Sounds like the start of some kind of scam to me. Don’t send him any money.

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Purelybecause · 18/08/2024 17:56

Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Reach out and see how it goes

What would you say?

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Purelybecause · 18/08/2024 17:55

I understand that I have not met him in person but I am taking looks wise - he is definitely my type. Yes things might change if I got to know him in person but I doubt it.

I have people who I know are interested etc but I am not attracted to them but with him I do feel hugely attracted to him (looks wise and what I've seen on his social media). Like I say this is unusual for me.

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Aquamarine1029 · 18/08/2024 17:46

Anyway, there is someone on my social media that I am hugely attracted to

You don't know him, have never met him, it appears you've never even talked or text with him, yet you claim you're "hugely attracted" to him. How can that be? Perhaps you're interested, but real attraction comes from actually knowing someone.

Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Reach out and see how it goes.

MyNewNewlife · 18/08/2024 17:41

I'd probably say 'hi, thanks for the likes' and leave it there, just let's him know you are open to talk. I wouldn't say anything else though unless he redponded.

Mmmkaay · 18/08/2024 17:39

Nothing ventured and all that - although if you have never met him how do you know he's your type?