If you're single and childless what do you do at the weekend?

@Threetrees745 Thanks for your reply, but you come across a bit like you are policing the thread. I was replying to someone else about having a partner barely there. And thanks for your assumptions but he doesn’t love me, he’s abusive. Really sick of the sour people on here.

Last weekend I went to the Community Shield with a friend so I was in London from Friday to Sunday. Yesterday I did some washing, spent time with the cats and began to pack for a holiday. I caught up with some recorded TV in the evening. Today I've been to a charity swimming gala at my gym, been to my friend's house to watch the match and I'm doing some cooking. Next weekend I'm pet sitting for someone and going on a ghost walk in the next town with another friend.

This.

Whatever I like.

I've been away the last 3 weekends & I'll be away next weekend. (And I have a full-on job Mon-Fri). This weekend I've done a bit of cleaning & sorting, catching up on telly, I went out for lunch today, went out for a couple of glasses of wine last night, caught up on some reading, popped to the library, started packing for my trip away for a long weekend, had a couple of calls with people I needed to catch up with, did a bit of life admin, gym & running and a bit of yoga.

I know that some people think single women ought to hide and cry. I think being single is an entirely natural state of being, and I deliberately make sure I do the things I want to. Sometimes with friends, sometimes on my own.

Things I sometimes do - cinema (in the rare event that there's anything worth seeing), local walks or walking tours, day trips to National Trust or similar, museum (it's small and I know it well but I still enjoy it!), local talks & things (you need to keep a beady eye on local social media - but Heritage Open Days in September will have a lot of interesting stuff).

I work Sats and Suns, always have.
Love having days off in the week

Housework,bike rides, take my mum to places she wants to go to that she doesn't want to drive to. Go for walks, gardening,reading. If there's sport on like rugby or tennis I'll watch that. I'll meet friends for a drink sometimes.

I'm planning on going to a craft fair next weekend.

I do a lot on my own though.

Have just done my first solo holiday, highly recommend it. I'm single, but have children who spend every other weekend at their Dad's. I also enjoy walking the dog, or sleeping, haha!

I don't mean to pick on your post but I think it's comments like this that will just upset people like the OP more. I know you mean we'll but it's a totally different situation from the OP.

You have partner, someone loves you, someone actually cares about you, you have someone to talk to when everyone else is busy with their special people because YOU are someones special person regardless if they are busy or not. I'm sorry but it's not the same. I remember how OP was feeling pretty well and it's soul crushing.

is there a "lonely girls" club near you? they are women-only meet ups for people far too young and interesting for WI.

I’d go clubbing if I had anyone up for it 🤣

@TroysMammy same for me. DP is a workaholic, I may as well be single! Good job I’m quite solo but I really miss some attention now and then!!!

To answer op, garden stuff, books, breaks. Although I’ve been ill lately so bloody nothing!

Yes, actually I do. They tend to be the people with little money and who live in places where there's not much else to do once you've finished work for the week like my last home town.

It wouldn't be my choice, but I'm well aware that I have a lot more options available to me and I'm not going to judge those who don't. If they're enjoying themselves then it's not for anybody else to do so, either.

😂 maybe i took it too literally. In my defence you did say

‘When I was single and childless I just got drunk Fridays and Saturdays then spent Sundays with my best friends nursing our hangovers and go out for food ready for the working week

We would also do this one weekends at different locations,nightclubs, beach, camping, rent cottages in random places, go to different parts of the uk to do the above’

i assumed you meant go to different parts of the Uk to do the above - the above was getting pissed very Friday and Saturday night.

so I am sorry if you meant something different.

I do think it’s so easy for married people with kids to point to what they did when they were young as if it’s easy to find people to do stuff with every weekend. People who are not in this situation also forget that while wasting weeends being hungover used to be fine - the older you get the more you want to be out and about during the day.

I do think only those who are over 30, single and childless today understand.

I think those who are on this thread who aren't single and childless and aren't signed off sick with mental illness and who's mates all have families and who aren't terrified of rejection yet again really have no idea of how achingly lonely life can be.

I do wonder if this thread has two groups of people - those who are currently childless and single and those who aren’t.

That happens on quite a lot of threads on the MNers without children board. There are the posters who are child free / childless and the posters who are talking about before they had kids or when their kids aren’t around.

Possibly also three groups of people - including those like myself who are single but with adult children. Technically we are childless but we tend to be older and not have the pressure of 'coupling up and producing' being held over us. Also we can often socialise with our adult children, so I think we are in a different group to those younger single and childless people.

I didn’t say clubbing wasn’t a worthwhile
use of anyone time!

I said that suggesting op get drunk clubbing every Friday and Saturday night and spend her days hungover with her mates probably isn’t realistic for an adult who is struggling with weekends.

mThere is a difference between occasionally going clubbing and suggesting a random adult
get pissed every Friday and Saturday night.

I do wonder if this thread has two groups of people - those who are currently childless and single and those who aren’t.

do you honestly know any adults (apart from those who you are worried about) who get pissed every Friday and Saturday night and waste every Saturday and Sunday lying about deeply hungover? It’s not a solution to loneliness.

galleries, theatre, cinema, catching up with friends
walks, train to the coast
sleep.

But, to be honest a lot of the time I would cry on my sofa and drink wine and eat pringles until I passed put in front of the telly. It wasn't a great time for me. I understand and I totally sympathise ❤️

I also sympathise. I spent my entire 20s doing many of the things people list in this thread but by the evenings, most of my friends were all loved up and having cosy romantic nights in with their partners. I spent many a night alone slugging Pinot Grigio watching romantic films on tv and crying. Sometimes I did go out with my friends and their partners and felt like a complete gooseberry which I remember was tons of fun 😣

Its tough when all your friends are in a different life stage- big hugs.

Not single but childfree. Friday night my husband and I go for a couple of drinks to celebrate the weekend, and then have an easy dinner or takeaway. Not that useful for you, OP, sorry.
Saturday morning I do food shopping, which obviously isn’t really necessary in the days of deliveries, but I actually quite enjoy it. Saturday afternoon I quite often do a “project”- something in the garden, or around the house. Maybe some baking, although I don’t do that often because of the gluttony implications of having to finish a cake between two of us. Saturday evening I do fancy cooking, which is basically anything I wouldn’t be bothered with during the week.
Sunday morning I haul myself out of bed around 8 and go for a run and then do a yoga practice, which means that quite often Sunday afternoon involves a sneaky nap. If that’s in the garden in the sunshine I’m very happy.

I think the key is if your busy on week days g. I go to cinema etc then the weekends are for resting. So for me

Monday work then gym
Tuesday work then movie
Wednesday work then gym
Thurs work then clean house
Fri work see mates
Sat and sun chill wash clothes do a bit of gardening go to coffee shop and read a book, see friends, movie nights, bit of gaming, things around the house ...it varies

Some weekends I'm away abroad or events.

It's great though ny garden always looks.its best, as does the house and I still have time to have fun lol

I could have written this. It didn’t help that (showing my age here) Four Weddings was the big summer film when I was about 25. I spent my mid-twenties feeling really inadequate, which is a shame

@Bellyblueboy
Oh my gosh you lost your head over my post.

Some people do enjoy having a drink and hanging out with friends and beaches, renting cottages, travelling around different parts of the uk young adult, older adults and 'proper adults' and I never even suggested OP do that every weekend but what I said about beaches, cottages etc are actually lovely ideas you can do that solo or with friends on weekends and you can do it with or without alcohol

Thank you to the other posters who defended my post and realised I didn't mean go out get drunk every weekend with a load of friends I meant it in a way of go out and explore have and have some fun

I sympathise OP. I didn't meet my husband until I was 28 so I spent the majority of my 20s single and childless. I also don't live in a big city but just in the nice commuter town where I grew up so there wasn't really a hell of a lot to do anyway.

I also felt that weekends were a struggle as my best friends all married and had kids very early or they moved to London, Australia and middle east for job opportunities so from about 24-28 I found myself very sad and lonely at the weekends.

I would use the time to get my hair or nails done, go to the gym, go for a sunbed, see my parents or there would be a rare night out once every couple of months. But, to be honest a lot of the time I would cry on my sofa and drink wine and eat pringles until I passed put in front of the telly. It wasn't a great time for me. I understand and I totally sympathise ❤️

as a single, childless woman myself maybe this response triggered me a little. Telling an adult women to just get drunk every Friday and Saturday night with her mates seems completely unrealistic and silly

I agree with this too. This was an option when I was single in my early 20s but when most of your friends are coupled up and/or have young kids the last thing they'll want to be doing is going out getting trashed and hungover every weekend.