I have to leave for work 1hr before my dd (just turned 14) leaves for school in the morning. Younger dc leave with me for breakfast club. I make sure she is up and give her an opportunity to tell me about any expected disasters i.e doesn’t know where gym kit is, lost her laptop charger etc before I leave. All she has to do is get dressed put stuff in bag and leave the house on time to catch the bus.
Last year this was just a complete nightmare, she would constantly phone me with some new disaster while I was driving for work, not be ready in time miss the bus and phone really upset because she was going to be very late for school and get in trouble, plus regular sudden illnesses that meant she ‘couldn’t’ Go to school I suspect mostly because she knew she would be late and finds being late very stressful and upsetting.
She isn’t a very organised or motivated person and struggles a lot with time management , so I know it’s more difficult for her than a lot of teens her age but I feel like this is quite a basic responsibility that she should be able to manage. However my friend says her similar ages ds couldn’t manage to get himself out the door in the morning without her constant prompts so if makes me wonder if I am expecting too much from her. No idea what the alternative would be though as I have no other option’s!