Random stranger sat on my table at a dinner and tribute act show

Basically if you go to a public event then the public may talk to you! It's not an offence. Now in this case maybe the old fella was lonely and I get thats not the OPs problem but unfortunately the choice of event left her like a sitting duck like on a bus. Nowhere to escape. Cinema would have been a more solitary option. Or she could have just told the fella to FRO from the outset. I can see why she'd be pissed off but it sounded like a Phoenix Nights cabaret club which attracts all kinds!

But we can just ignore the vacuous.

Fine - have it your own way. You're still trying to police the thread.

Can't we just have a discussion without the ridiculous "wah, man!" or personal attacks on posters just because we don't like what they're saying?!
It's so boring and predictable.
Far rather listen to the actual discussion than wannabe thread policers and whingers derailing when they hear something they don't like. 🙄

Agreed. And posters often try this when by other posters being "unhelpful" they mean "failing to valudate my insanely unreasonable position"

The OP's original point wasn't unreasonable- policing the thread is.

a) a man who
b) has never been in a relationship and
c) is telling women they're wrong about their own experiences

Not all opinions are worthwhile.

How can I dictate anything? That's ridiculous, I am just pointing out that particular poster was rude.

Ah ok, still entitled to an opinion on here though.
It's a discussion forum.
Not an echo chamber.

You can't just demand who can and can't post on your thread though, that's ridiculous.
I'm in agreement with the OP on the original topic matter, I prefer be left in peace when out and not talked at, but not on the thread policing.

He's said he's a man on other threads.

shuggles why are you blethering on this thread, bleating on and on about something you know nothing about?

As PP have said, you aren't listening and you don't know what you're talking about. It's rude in the extreme. Start a thread yourself so that posters can join you in your random views or ignore it altogether.

You're derailing this one. Could you stop please?

No I am neither @BeachParty but personally speaking, if an OP had asked me to leave her thread which she had posted to seek support because she found my posts unhelpful, I would respect that whether or not I agreed.

Anyway I note that the OP has said she does not want you on her thread and you have still posted again. Another example of crossing boundaries.

Whilst I don't think the OP was unreasonable about what happened, trying to dictate who can post is unreasonable.

Has shuggles said they're a man?
Or is this one of those ridiculous "anyone who disagrees with me is a man?' posts?
People have different opinions.
Get over it.

@Livingtothefull
Anyway I note that the OP has said she does not want you on her thread and you have still posted again
Oh come on, are you new to the internet?!
It doesn't work like that, you're not the Thread Police. 🙄

No. You are not offering a 'holistic perspective' you are just being arrogant. You are arguing that women don't know when they are talking about when they described their lived experience and the impact on them - how disrespectful is that?

I would not have the utter arrogance to post on a website dedicated to a specific group in society and tell the other posters why their conclusions based on lived experience (say as a black/disabled/Jewish person) are wrong. But certain men do this to women all the time. So either you are arrogant enough to think you really are right, or you are yet another dickhead who thinks upsetting women is either funny or clever.

Anyway I note that the OP has said she does not want you on her thread and you have still posted again. Another example of crossing boundaries.

If my memory serves me right, I seem to recall on another thread you were adamant that men did not discuss relationships with each other. That you yourself had no friends, and indeed that no man over the age of 30 had friends. If this is so, then how have you come to know what 'almost all men' would think?

Ever flown a plane? No? Then go and find a pilots' forum and argue with them. FOH.

@HolidayAtNight Not having a relationship means I have a holistic, outsider perspective. A person doesn't need to be able to cook to be a food critic, for example.

If people are having bad relationships or are constantly meeting the wrong people, then they must be doing something wrong. So I am just offering alternative ideas.

Would you like those of us you term 'miserable' to refer to you in a derogatory term also? There are plenty.

I get really irritated by people levying the term 'miserable' against other people who are merely doing their own thing, happy in their own company. Stop it.

You haven't even had a relationship but think you're an expert🙄

Wait. You haven't had a relationship, and you're here telling women we're wrong about our actual experiences based on what you THINK is true and what you imagine you'd do? Where the hell did you get the absolute audacity to behave like this?

If I’m out for a walk I’ll usually exchange smiles & possibly a ‘Good morning’ with women. I’ve learned not to do that with men because it’s far too likely to lead to them wanting to stop for a chat & ask my name, where I live, etc. It’s really not worth the hassle, & can be very annoying if I’m peacefully admiring a view or something.