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Random stranger sat on my table at a dinner and tribute act show

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Prontehpronto · 18/08/2024 00:09

Hi, I went to a dinner and ABBA tribute act tonight on my own (family out of town and no one else to go with). I was having a lovely time, a stranger asked if he could take the extra chair,I said yes cos I thought he was going to pick it up and take it, he proceeded to sit down! He asked why I was on my own,I said hubby was away and I thought I'd enjoy a show, he started telling me about his divorce etc, he was older, 62, seemed not weird and just overly friendly father like figure, but when the shoe carried on he didn't move!!! I said aren't your friends going to miss you, he was like its fine!! I ignored him and turned away, I'm pissed cos he didn't go away and plus I had paid extra for VIP tickets at a table at the front. His friend cane to give him a drink, I thought bloody hell no way,told him not to put the drink down on my table and can you go back with your friends. Bloody ruined my night abit, why did he do that, and how should I have handled it. He prob was harmless but he shouldn't have approached a lone female I don't think and then not gone away!!!

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Prontehpronto · 18/08/2024 00:21

Zow · 18/08/2024 00:19

Oh fuck! He was a 'get up and dance' kind of twat too?! 😆

I HATE people who insist you get up and dance. If I don't want to, LEAVE ME ALONE YOU C*NT! Angry

😅 I know the stupid fckr. I'll dance when I want to, was having lovely solo bop on my chair but didn't fancy a full on jig

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Zow · 18/08/2024 00:19

Prontehpronto · 18/08/2024 00:17

At one point he was near the front and said get up and dance let yourself go, him and his friends were dancing, I told him no thank you, I'm fine here. I'm dont mind going out on my own but this type of shit puts you off, even if he was or wasn't on the pull, I don't want random ppl having a chat with me 😕 act was really good though on a positive note

Oh fuck! He was a 'get up and dance' kind of twat too?! 😆

I HATE people who insist you get up and dance. If I don't want to, LEAVE ME ALONE YOU C*NT! Angry

Prontehpronto · 18/08/2024 00:19

KenAdams · 18/08/2024 00:15

Urgh why are we not allowed to do things alone when we feel like it? I wish it was more socially acceptable. Well done for standing up for yourself.

I know!! I don't mind going out alone, but this has put me off really, will try to get some one to tag along with me next timr

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Prontehpronto · 18/08/2024 00:17

Corksoles · 18/08/2024 00:13

Well done for telling him to not settle down with his drink. If be very pleased with myself if I were you. Hope the rest of it was good.

At one point he was near the front and said get up and dance let yourself go, him and his friends were dancing, I told him no thank you, I'm fine here. I'm dont mind going out on my own but this type of shit puts you off, even if he was or wasn't on the pull, I don't want random ppl having a chat with me 😕 act was really good though on a positive note

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Zow · 18/08/2024 00:17

Screamingabdabz · 18/08/2024 00:13

He probably thought he was being chivalrous but what he needed was a very blunt simple instruction to leave you the fuck alone. Men of that generation don’t listen to women unless you make it very very clear. Even then they’ll get huffy. It’s the peak generation of male entitlement. YANBU.

This. ^ Annoying pushy fucker thought 'woman alone, must rescue her.' Because lone women in social situations can't cope on their own. 🙄

I fucking hate this shit.

I sometimes go places alone - even though I'm married for some years - and half the time I get an annoying pushy over-chatty man (or a couple) badgering me - because I'm clearly a sad and lonely iccle wumman. Hmm

'Just fuck off' is what I wanna say!

Sounds like you handled it OK @Prontehpronto but I am sorry this rude man put a dampener on your night!

KenAdams · 18/08/2024 00:15

Urgh why are we not allowed to do things alone when we feel like it? I wish it was more socially acceptable. Well done for standing up for yourself.

loropianalover · 18/08/2024 00:15

YABU for letting it ruin your night! Just swat him away like a fly and don’t think of him again.

Corksoles · 18/08/2024 00:13

Well done for telling him to not settle down with his drink. If be very pleased with myself if I were you. Hope the rest of it was good.

Screamingabdabz · 18/08/2024 00:13

He probably thought he was being chivalrous but what he needed was a very blunt simple instruction to leave you the fuck alone. Men of that generation don’t listen to women unless you make it very very clear. Even then they’ll get huffy. It’s the peak generation of male entitlement. YANBU.

Dufrise · 18/08/2024 00:13

He was on the pull. Not much you could have done apart from ask security to intervene as he hadn't bought a ticket on your table.

JabbaTheBeachHut · 18/08/2024 00:12

I think you handled it fine, although with hindsight perhaps you should've told him to go back to his friends sooner.

But all in all it's refreshing to read a MNetter stood up for herself in this way.

Hope it didn't spoil your evening too much.