Posted about this before and ultimately I know it's a situation that can't be fully rectified unless I LTB which I can't right now for many reasons so I guess I'm looking for ways to improve or at least accept the situation.
Dh is 50 I am 36. He uses Viagra for ED. We have a young child and we are both knackered. But been on holiday recently and sex was basically non existent mostly because he drank too much and fell asleep early.
His idea of a sex life is booking in sex once or twice a month and getting it done as soon as dc is in bed at around 6/7pm. He isnt a fan of bedtime sex because he's too tired by then and on edge because dc occasionally comes into our room at night.
I'm so sick of having my sex life limited to designated times and days. I've tried to understand and I get that he needs to prepare by taking a Viagra but fuck me it's so unsexy. On holiday recently I just wanted to do it at night and getting rebuffed because he was too pissed and tired is depressing as fuck.
He's a good husband and father. We have a nice life. But the sex is all on his terms and I'm sick of it. There have been times recently where I haven't felt like it immediately after putting dc to bed so I've said no but then it feels like another missed opportunity. Should it really be this difficult?