Hello everyone, I just want to know if I am BU or not.
I have been with my DP for 3 years and get on well with his family especially his older sister I would consider her one of my close friends now. DP has a younger sister too who is the “black sheep” of the family, whilst the rest of the family are hard workers and keep themselves to themselves don’t really have problems or drama she is the total opposite. She is rude, often in fights, often gets arrested, she even went to prison before for drug dealing!
Now to where I might be unreasonable, it is my DP mums birthday next week so DPs older sister has arranged an afternoon tea and spa afternoon treat for herself, mum, me and younger sister as a gift. At the time of booking older sister said it would just be me her and her mum however today she’s just told me that younger sister is also coming and now I don’t want too go because I just feel like she is gonna embarrass us all. Before me , Older sister and younger sister all went to get our nails done and younger sister kept telling the man he’s not doing them right and then asked the owner if she can connect her phone to the Bluetooth to play her music and then played rap music loud. There has been other times we have been in restaurants and she starts shouting at the staff and even told one to “come outside and hold this beating”
i just don’t think I’m gonna be able to relax with her there from fear she’s going to embarrass me or start a fight with someone. even if someone looks at her innocently she will ask them why they are looking at her. I feel like she will ruin the whole day and the whole point is to relax and celebrate DP mum but I feel that will get overlooked due to her behaviours.
I have spoken to DP he said it’s my decision he knows what she is like but she might be ok because it’s her mum’s birthday, I told him she’s literally battered someone in front of her mum even when her mum was telling her to stop she carried him on so I told him I don’t think that will make a difference and he just said well it’s your decision and left it as that.
would I BU to say something has come up at work and not go?