Shouted at my sick child

Oh, you're human lovely. Everyone has a limit and you obviously reached yours. Didn't handle it the greatest but you're human, we all make mistakes. Just love him extra hard, apologise and make sure you get some you time when your OH comes back. Is there anyone you can call on just to have some support and another pair of hands to help? Don't beat yourself up about it x

Please forgive yourself. It was a one off. Most of us will have done something similar at some point along the way. Your toddler will not remember this. They will remember how much you love and take care of them. You’re human 💐

I can definitely relate. It's like when they are coughing all night and you can't sleep and just want to shout 'just stop coughing', yet intellectually know they can't.

It is impossible to parent without cocking it up sometimes - no-one has managed it (although some people here reckon they have)

You say sorry, hug your toddler and then carry on. I love the arrangement above for SOS from friends/family. If not then it's cbeebies and snack food all the way - your DH can catch up on the housework when he gets back (or you might prefer to give him both children instead).

Oh bless you.

We all snap occasionally. If you didn't massively regret it THEN there would be something wrong, but you clearly do. You're overwhelmed and overstimulated.

Don't move from the sofa with the kids unless you have to. Get cups/bottles and snacks and stay there.

How unpleasant

It sounds like this particular situation pushed you past a limit you didn’t know you had. When our reaction is way over what the situation warrants, there is often something going on deeper and that’s something that could be worth exploring with a therapist.

Alternatively you can learn from this and as pp have suggested make sure you don’t get into a similar situation again, e.g. get in support so you don’t feel so overwhelmed.

The odds are you will find yourself in a situation again where you feel overwhelmed and like you can’t meet everyone’s needs, I think this comes with the territory of motherhood. So it might be worth exploring how you can sit with that feeling and not have an outburst like that again.

Just ignore the shamers op. Mums get frazzled. I’d stop apologising as that is probably a bit stressing for him too. Say it once and clearly then let it go.
Is there a dvd he would watch to give you a break. Usually Calpol, an ice lolly and a dvd will quiet them for half an hour!

I guess you have never made an error of judgement or lost your temper in your life. I hope that when you do, and you're full of guilt and in need of a kind word, you don't run into a Judgy McJudgeface like you.

I don't know many men who are stuck at home looking after a sick baby and toddler on their own because their wife has gone off to attend a wedding

This is an intelligent and thoughtful arrangement. Well done to you and your friends.

Well only the people that say LTB at everything. People like drama*

I am the last person to say Be Kind should be a life philosophy - but don’t kick a woman when she’s down - it makes you look like a dick, and doesn’t help her or her kid.

She fucked up, she just needs to apologise and not do it again.

** a bit like you, blaming the OP for a loss of trust in the Police. Even the met admit that’s their fault.

We have all done it! We're human and our patience isn't endless. Please don't beat yourself up. You do not need parenting classes (I've no idea why someone would suggest that - seems OTT).

It's so hard when you are on your own. I find that noise triggers me if I'm tired, hungry or thirsty so make sure you've eaten or had a drink. Deep breaths!!

Been there, done that. You recognise that it was wrong, you apologised. Don't best yourself up about it OP.

Eh. I’d refrain from talk of the police, but kids have to learn by these experiences that they can’t always get exactly what they want exactly when they want it and to the detriment of others, even when they’re unwell.

Regulation of emotion is a long game, but in my opinion these experiences compound to teach them that they will be chastised if they repeatedly can’t follow requests and instructions.

Really judgemental response from @otravezempezamos. How to kick someone when they down....

We are not meant to thrive properly when looking after 2 very small and sick children. This is 100% the time to call in some help. Ask a friend to come round for a couple of hours. Or ask someone to take baby out in the pram.

We all fuck up. Let it go. No perminent damage done.

Apologise once - mummy is tired. Don’t go on - it’s unnerving for him.

Shove him in front of the telly if you can. And make everything as easy on yourself as you can. Just get through it and remember it will all pass.

Sorry but if it was a man behaving like that with a sick toddler and an infant, people would be saying get those kids to a place of safety.

Is there anyone who can come help you today OP? Grandparents maybe or friends? It’s hard looking after 2 young children especially when one is unwell and it may just be that if you can have an extra pair of hands for even an hour or two so you can have a cup of coffee and a wee in peace will be the little reset you need to get you through it.

My best friends and I mostly all have young kids and have a “SOS” if we are ever solo parenting and struggling! If any of us text the SOS then at least one or two of us will reply, go past McDonalds and Starbucks and then go round to the house and all pitch in for the day. It gives a tired mum a chance to have a break, it’s an extra pair of hands for anything needed, it’s a chat so you don’t feel so overwhelmed and alone, and some comfort food and a hot coffee while someone who isn’t so sleep deprived rocks your baby to sleep. Maybe sounds silly to some but there’s a reason they say it takes a village to raise these tiny humans- motherhood is hard, don’t be afraid to lean on help! X

Is there anyone who could come and help you today...even if they just take baby for a walk round the block?

If not, stick on the TV, settle down on the sofa with both of them, lots of snacks and drinks...or order a take away for yourself. Make the day as easy as possible...sod the housework!

What time is it where you are OP?

Have you got pain relief in for both DC and sine food and drinks for you all?

Oh fuck off!

It happens you don’t need parenting classes (fgs) just a break and some sleep I bet!